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High heels on a 5 yr old - Am I being unreasonable?

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Spagblog · 19/11/2006 09:21

DD is going to be 5 soon so my mum took her on a shopping trip.
They came back with a gorgeous pair of boots and some party shoes. The shoes were from Next and have a 5cm heel.
I told DD that she was too young for heels before the trip. However she convinced my mum they were what she wanted.

It isn't Mum's fault though. I should have warned her what not to buy, but I thought she would have helped her pick flat shoes. She was very strict on my shoes when I was growing up!

I don't like seeing small children clumping around in heels and I want to take them back.

Am I being precious about it?
I'll try and find a link to the shoes. They're not hideous by all means, but I just think she's too young for heels!

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BellaLasagne · 11/12/2006 13:48

What I can't get over is that someone, somewhere, designed them, and that someone, somewhere in Woolies buying department decided to stock them!!

ChristmasCaroligula · 11/12/2006 13:49

I must admit I'm quite impressed by the customer service bit. They might be bullshitting, but at least they bullshit convincingly.

donnie · 11/12/2006 14:21

heels on little children are gross!!

I can't manage them and I'm 41....

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gingermonkey · 11/12/2006 14:30

my dd is 7 and loads of her friends wear heels. we have a constant battle with her because i have said no way. little girls should look like little girls, not tarty little lolitas. all the short skirts and those hideous crop top things. ugh! wrong, wrong, wrong!

HoHoHorsewoman · 11/12/2006 14:53

I remember ranting on a thread some time ago that I believed I was alone in thinking that Next were at the forefront of promoting the 'pre-teen hooker look'. I absolutely hate tarty looking clothes on children, and agree that Next and Adams especially (as far as widespread high street stores go) were bad for this kind of clothing. Children's feet are still growing and developing, as are the rest of their bones, so high heels are bad not just for their feet but their posture too, not to mention how awful they look. My girls have always been dressed in funky clothes, but never the types of thing that you would see an adult in. There are so many good catalogue companies (not to mention good old ebay!) that it is not that hard to find trendy stuff that children can wear without looking like mini-FHM girls.

gingermonkey · 11/12/2006 15:02

I agree. I will resort to next for bikinis (not triangle type tho) coz it's cheap but really that is about it. My dd has always been dressed really well, she looks like a 7 yr old, not a bratz doll. Mostly I will go to gap and get her more expensive bits and pieces for special outfits. She went to her 1st school disco on fri, dh took her and was horrified by the state of the kids - he said they all looked like they were in kiddie porn. It makes me so why would parents want their kids to look like that?

expatinscotland · 11/12/2006 15:09

In answer to the OP, 5 is too young for those shoes.

They are lovely, and would look great on a pre-teen for a dance or a special occassion.

But no, I'd take them back.

mammaduck · 14/12/2006 10:14

Just had this response from Next Customer Services:

I write in response to your recent email regarding your views on the Satin Heeled Sandals we are currently selling for children. Firstly, may I apologise for the delay in writing to you.

I would like to thank you for bringing to our attention your own personal dissatisfaction with these shoes, along with the views of other mothers on the Mumsnet website. Can I confirm how concerned we were to read all of the comments on the website and reassure you we do take all complaints of this nature very seriously. This matter has been brought to the attention of our Children's Wear Technology and Buying Managers

The sandals in question have been designed for occasional wear only, as party shoes and certainly not for everyday use. Our range has included a heeled party sandal for many years and whilst the style of the shoe each season will try to reflect the current trends and demands, each shoe must meet our stringent safety standards, which are of utmost importance and every item in the range passes through an approval process. In addition, each shoe prototype is fitted on girls, who attend fitting sessions with a parent or guardian and whose feedback is listened to carefully to ensure both the fit and actual style is suitable. With regard to the heel I can advise that it is graded, with the heel reducing in height as the sizes get smaller.

There is no currently no British or European standard which recommends a maximum heel height for children's shoes, but our inclusion of these styles in the party range reflects the guidelines from the Society of Chiropodists and Podiatrists which recommends such styles are reserved for occasional wear.

We should reiterate that we do offer alternative party shoes without a heel and leave the style selection to individual parents. Over one third of sales of this style of shoe this season has been on sizes 9 to 12 at the lower end of the range, for younger children, which suggests that there is a real demand for this type of product. Nevertheless, we were extremely interested to read some of our customers' opinions on this matter on Mumsnet and will be investigating and considering this subject further in the light of your concerns. If you are able to send into us any evidence of these shoes damaging children's feet, please forward it to the address detailed below. Your comments and concerns will be taken into consideration when future ranges are designed and manufactured.

Finally, I would like to thank you once again for taking the time and trouble to contact us regarding this matter and please do not hesitate to contact me again if I can be of any further assistance.

mammaduck · 14/12/2006 10:14

Just had this response from Next Customer Services:

I write in response to your recent email regarding your views on the Satin Heeled Sandals we are currently selling for children. Firstly, may I apologise for the delay in writing to you.

I would like to thank you for bringing to our attention your own personal dissatisfaction with these shoes, along with the views of other mothers on the Mumsnet website. Can I confirm how concerned we were to read all of the comments on the website and reassure you we do take all complaints of this nature very seriously. This matter has been brought to the attention of our Children's Wear Technology and Buying Managers

The sandals in question have been designed for occasional wear only, as party shoes and certainly not for everyday use. Our range has included a heeled party sandal for many years and whilst the style of the shoe each season will try to reflect the current trends and demands, each shoe must meet our stringent safety standards, which are of utmost importance and every item in the range passes through an approval process. In addition, each shoe prototype is fitted on girls, who attend fitting sessions with a parent or guardian and whose feedback is listened to carefully to ensure both the fit and actual style is suitable. With regard to the heel I can advise that it is graded, with the heel reducing in height as the sizes get smaller.

There is no currently no British or European standard which recommends a maximum heel height for children's shoes, but our inclusion of these styles in the party range reflects the guidelines from the Society of Chiropodists and Podiatrists which recommends such styles are reserved for occasional wear.

We should reiterate that we do offer alternative party shoes without a heel and leave the style selection to individual parents. Over one third of sales of this style of shoe this season has been on sizes 9 to 12 at the lower end of the range, for younger children, which suggests that there is a real demand for this type of product. Nevertheless, we were extremely interested to read some of our customers' opinions on this matter on Mumsnet and will be investigating and considering this subject further in the light of your concerns. If you are able to send into us any evidence of these shoes damaging children's feet, please forward it to the address detailed below. Your comments and concerns will be taken into consideration when future ranges are designed and manufactured.

Finally, I would like to thank you once again for taking the time and trouble to contact us regarding this matter and please do not hesitate to contact me again if I can be of any further assistance.

mammaduck · 14/12/2006 10:15

sorry for duplicating message.

twoplusone · 14/12/2006 12:48

I wouldnt even let my 10year dd have shoes like that for a party...
the only time i allow her in a heel is on boots then they are and inch maybe 2 inch block heel rather than a thinner heel..

I am lucky that she understands why I have persistent since she was younger. I have said maybe when a teenager...
Luckily for me she would rather wear jeans with boots or trousers with boots.. for a party.. she is not a girly girl and doesnt do dresses.

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