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High heels on a 5 yr old - Am I being unreasonable?

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Spagblog · 19/11/2006 09:21

DD is going to be 5 soon so my mum took her on a shopping trip.
They came back with a gorgeous pair of boots and some party shoes. The shoes were from Next and have a 5cm heel.
I told DD that she was too young for heels before the trip. However she convinced my mum they were what she wanted.

It isn't Mum's fault though. I should have warned her what not to buy, but I thought she would have helped her pick flat shoes. She was very strict on my shoes when I was growing up!

I don't like seeing small children clumping around in heels and I want to take them back.

Am I being precious about it?
I'll try and find a link to the shoes. They're not hideous by all means, but I just think she's too young for heels!

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hulababy · 19/11/2006 10:18

I think they look way too grown up and too high for a little one.

DD does have a pair of heeled sandels - they are sparkly silver ballroom dance ones which she had for dance class. Recently she has worn them for parties - to wear up as cost lots and no longer able to go to the class. But the heels are not as high as that, and she is only allowed them with dress up style clothes like princess dresses.

She has loads of plastic heeled dress up shoes - all for indoor play use only.

poppynic · 19/11/2006 10:48

Grandmas! - it's just all fun and no responsibility - hopefully we'll get to be just the same. (Someone once said grandchildren were your reward for not killing your own children.)

3andnomore · 19/11/2006 11:04

I have to say I agree with you, I think 5 is to young for heels...I mean, surely it isn't great for their lil feet, if nothing else!

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Bibiboo · 19/11/2006 15:17

Completely agree with you. Heels are for teens, no younger, and even then not unles they're for something special. DD won't be having any, I've no doubt she'll be the most mistreated, unloved child in her whole school who's got the worst, meanest Mammy in the world - but I don't care

sandyballs · 20/11/2006 16:11

I had a big row with my 5 year old in Next over the very same shoes. Totally unsuitable IMO, they shouldn't sell them that small. I hate to see tiny girls tottering about in stuff like that. I really didn't think this sort of argument would arise at 5 years old , thought that would at least wait until teens.
Why didn't I have boys!

TheDullWitch · 20/11/2006 16:13

They look very common.

Thaigal · 20/11/2006 18:28

I like them!

doyouwantfrieswiththat · 20/11/2006 18:35

quite like the shoes but 5yr olds are likely to be running round aren't they & she'd break her neck in those.

Fine for dressing up, but then that's what your shoes are for (& obviously she's not going to break her neck in 3 inch heels that are five sizes too big)

LIZS · 20/11/2006 18:44

not suitable for a primary aged child imho - both practically and aesthetically!

belgianmama · 20/11/2006 19:40

Far to high for a 6yo. Can't be good for growing feet + running around. Would definitely take them back. I must say I see quite a few young girls in that type of heels in this country . They don't even sell or make them in child's sizes where I'm from.

poppynic · 21/11/2006 10:09

hermykne - where would you suggest as a good shoe shop for getting children's shoes fitted properly?

I was very conservatively dressed as a child and clearly remember being allowed a pair of wedges (all the rage at the time) with flowers on them when I was about 10. They were for special occasions and weren't particularly high but neither were they flat. I thought they were wonderful and are the only pair of shoes I remember from childhood.

expatinscotland · 21/11/2006 10:11

NO, you are NOT being precious.

DD1 tries on my heels - at home for dress up, imaginary play.

5 is too young for heels.

magnolia1 · 21/11/2006 10:11

Wouldn't buy them for my twins (age 7) but my 11 year old would love them

Bozza · 21/11/2006 10:21

Definitely agree that you are not being unreasonable. And the sparkly ballet pumps (which sprung to mind when I first started reading) sound a much more suitable alternative as party shoes.

I would be if my Mum did this. Mind you, my DD is only 2.

TeeCee · 21/11/2006 10:36

IMO those shoes are far too grown up for a 5 year old. IMO - they are wrong, wrong, worong.

Next are the worst for making unsuitable clothes and shoes for young girls.

NAB3 · 21/11/2006 10:41

Bad idea. She could sprain her ankle if she goes over on them. She is 5 years old and needs to look like she is five. I would take them back and get her something sensible.

Carmenere · 21/11/2006 10:45

To reiterate what Edam has already said on this thread, this is a post I made on another thread

'The tradition of women wearing heels stems from the fact that during orgasm women generally point their feet and high heels are supposed to replicate this and help to attract a mate, they also force the buttocks outward, again to attract men. So if you allow your child to wear heels apart from damaging the developing bones you are sexualising them.
The fact that a shop like Clarks/Next sell them makes me very '

WhizzBangCaligula · 21/11/2006 10:51

It's outrageous they're on sale, they're extremely damaging to children's feet. Even in your teens, the bones in your feet are still soft so can be deformed by badly fitting shoes, at 5 they are really bad news.

Can't believe any parents would buy them. There's obviously some kind of madness that overcomes grandparents, I thought it was just my mother being mad, but now I realise it's mad-granny-syndrome and that I will probably suffer from it. By the time we get there, maybe it will have been diagnosed and they'll have invented a cure for it.

plibble · 21/11/2006 11:15

Agree with Carmenere. It makes me very that Next would sell clothes which are so inappropriate and which sexualise such young children. My DD will not be allowed to wear heels (other than those plastic "dressing up" ones in the house) until she is a teenager.

ratclare · 21/11/2006 11:19

totally unsuitable for parties ,i had a friend whos daughter always had hi heels on for parties and as soon as my friend left after dropping her off ,her little girl used to sink to the floor ,wrench them off and spend the rest of the time in stocking feet because she couldnt run around in them !

WhizzBangCaligula · 21/11/2006 11:19

Is there a website where one can get sabotaging stickers saying "not appropriate footwear for children/ not appropriate for anyone not wanting their DD to look like a child prositute" and then vandalise Next products by sticking them all over the bloody stuff?

WhizzBangCaligula · 21/11/2006 11:20

(Because I've run out of red paint)

NAB3 · 21/11/2006 11:23

Maybe we could email Next and complain? If we all did it at the same time they should get the message!!

PetitFilou1 · 21/11/2006 11:29

NAB3 I'm all for that - I couldn't believe it when I saw an off the shoulder top for a 6 month old on sale in there. If you are in 'starting a petition' mode I will sign one!

batters · 21/11/2006 12:32

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