people who 'need' reminded about doing things (basic things like caring for their own children, cooking a meal to feed themselves, washing their own clothes) are doing it because someone is enabling them to be this way. if living on their own they'd work out that if they don't cook they starve, if they don't wash their clothes they'll be naked at work, if they don't look after the children someone calls SS and they get taken off them. people who 'need' reminding don't need reminding at all. they choose to let someone else do the stuff they don't fancy doing and feign inability to remember. it's very selfish and very disrespectful. do your children a favour, stand up for yourself and either insist your partner does their fair share or choose to live elsewhere and stop enabling them. choose good role models for your children if you expect it of them. children do what they see.