Stay at home mums with kids at school, why dont they get jobs??

[sleepinbeauty]

Just a bit hacked off with mums at school, they moan about having no life away from their kids/ not much money, yet they all seem to refuse to get jobs or careers!
why do some women just want to do sweet FA all day when their kids are at school? They seem content for their husbands to slog their guts out at work while they drink cups of tea and watch daytime tv! Dont get it! i think its called laziness??

Nope i am certainly a laydee.. just one who believes in equality that's all!

I'm not lazy, I'm supporting the local economy. I don't know how my local leisure centre would survive without me and Costa would be sure to go bust.

BTW I do work a few hours a week from home so maybe I don't qualify.

The OP is probably someones DH, the 'D' standing for dastardly in this case.

thanks KateF, some support at last!

my husband wont let me work, he doesnt think i should have to go to work, he says i have the hardest job looking after three under four, i dont have to work financially he provides everything and i provide everything at home, when they all go to school i still wont have to work, its not laziness at all some people obviously have to for money but i dont, i get to live in a nice clean and organised house, pick my children up from school and pre school and not miss a thing of their development, why bother starting this thread you knew it would erupt and it does just make you look jealous - intelligent or not

sleepin, presumably your dh was happy for you to stay at home before your children started school?

why is it ok for you to pay for child-care now they're at school (I'm assuming you don't just work school hours?) if it wasn't before?

But in general if only one parent works the other has other stuff they are entirely responsible for. I don't get this unfair thing at all.

Can I have butter on my popcorn please? And a coke?

Hmmm i didnt realise we still lived in the 50's ..so thats why ive offended people...must get back to my feather duster..sigh..

Actually before having children my DH and I sat down and worked out ourselves what we felt was important and we placed a high importance on someone being at home for the children. It was a joint decision and although at times I get itchy feet and want to go off and do something careerwise (and might even moan about it) the bottom line is that it would all become far too complicated.

Feather duster - what's that? lol

I think that is a good point about shouldering the financial responsibility for the family. I am the main bread winner and there's no way thatI would want DP to be a full time SAHD (at the moment we are at home with the kids equally).

I need to feel that we share the responsibility and also that he's keeping his skills up so that I am not forever on the work treadmill, if I decide I want to step back.

I moan about having no money and being tied to the children. And if I worked, I'd moan about childcare and how schools don't meet the needs of working parents.

snap MrsSpoon.

Who's living in the 50s, Sleepin?

Glad you clarified that MT - was a tad confused

Just like to clarify that although I am at home,(still got a LO infact and do a part time job every other weekend, but thats by the by) I am actually working at home, I just don't get officially paid for it.That doesn't make it any less valid.
But thank you for your judgement on me and my life.
I will go and make dinner now,unpaid but with a song in my heart and a spring in my step,because I am not a green eyed monster who makes sweeping shit stirring statements about others.
Oooh,guess that does make me judgemental after all,never mind you started it.

Just doesnt seem like equality to me,plus it seems we all went to school and got good grades/education just to sit at home..i dont want my dd to waste her brain like this when she grows up.. i want her to be someone.

Thank god! I read "punge" as "purge" and was quite disturbed!

"punge" sounds fun MT, might try that tomorrow.

"I want her to be someone". OK, now I'm riled!!!

I am someone!

Are you "someone" sleepinbeauty?

For an intelligent person sleepinbeauty, you appear to be lacking in common sense. Why can't you understand why some people don't work? Why can't you understand why it is not an equality issue at all? You appear to not to be able to grasp simple reasons, already given, as to why some women (and some men - there are SAHDs too) choose not to work or are unable to work when there child/ren start school.

Many SAHM's tend to take over responsibility for other aspects of the household, rather than the financial side. It is simply sharing out those responsibilities.

I certainly know that DH has never resented me any of my PT days off, even now when DD is at school and I am at home 2 days a week.