Stay at home mums with kids at school, why dont they get jobs??

[sleepinbeauty]

Just a bit hacked off with mums at school, they moan about having no life away from their kids/ not much money, yet they all seem to refuse to get jobs or careers!
why do some women just want to do sweet FA all day when their kids are at school? They seem content for their husbands to slog their guts out at work while they drink cups of tea and watch daytime tv! Dont get it! i think its called laziness??

"Wasting my brain " has just got me too.
How dare you!!!!!!I had a fantastic job before DS's and the day I decided that something had to give (nothing was geting 100%-neither the job nor the children) my DH was so happy. Happy that I would be sane again instead of constantly chasing my tail and happy because he could provide for us.
Maybe that does sound archaic but when we chose to have children we chose to be on call 24 hours a day for at least the next 18 years. mine are both at school now and the round of after school activities and friends to and fro for tea and parties etc etc would be nigh on impossible if I was working.
I understand if it is a financial neccesity (sp) but I am incredibly lucky that its not.
I am certainly NOT wasting my fucking brain.

I agree with that point mb. I would not want my DH to dictate to me that I could or could not work. It has to be a decision made for yourself, although obviously with the support and advise from the other partner as well.

It shocked me too that Buktus's DH won't allow her to work. terrifying stuff. Whether they need her money or not is another issue.

I haven't read the thread BUT if I had to go out to work I wouldn't have enough time to serve my addictions

Mumsnet and TV

as for wasting my brain i've learned more over the last four yrs than i ever did in education / work i learnt things that are actually useful for life.

i wish i had the luxury of a job

Working mums with school age kids...why don't they stop moaning about how hard they work and stay at home???

sahms do have a job - a very important one, just crappy pay

if you want to work go to it, enjoy it and let everyone else get on with what they want to do.

By CristinaTheAstonishing on Wednesday, 20 September, 2006 5:18:18 PM
Statements like "my husband won't let me work" (see below) most definitely belong to the '50s.

Christina - was that referring to me? If so what I said was that "my dh actually prefers me not to work", which was a response to SIB's question"Dont you feel its unfair on your partners that they have to work and you dont? Just seems really unfair , that all..."

It certainly isn't the case that he won't let me work, I just meant he was happy for me not to work because it takes the domestic pressure off him.

If I wanted to I could go back to work - so far I haven't wanted to

I know loads of SAHMs who describe their brains as going to waste.

These are women who would like a job but can't see how the logistics would work for their families.

I think we'll only get equality when men start giving birth, lol.

Seriously, though for a lot of working women 'equality' means doing the vast majority of the household chores when they get home from work.

Iota - no, I was referring to Buktus.

As I said right at the start of this thread SinB must be a little sad and have somthing missing in her life to come on here in this way and pick a fight. If you wanted the intellectual discussion of the issues a different title and less brutal language may have achieved that end. I dont understand people who just want to pick fights. This isnt what MN is here for. Im taking my boys to Basketball now so Ill have to go but I can only suggest that SinB goes onto a different section of MN under a different name and talks about whatever the real problem in her life is. She may find the help she needs.

fwiw, if people are flopped in front of Fern n' Phil or whoever it is atm all day, that isn't a terribly good use of their time imho.

otoh, I bet very few people are.

basically, you can go out to work, delegate chunks of childcare/school runs to others and maybe not have much energy left for your kids at the end of the day or much money left over.

Or you can be there for the school runs and fill the time in between with the things that need doing in the house and whatever work (paid or voluntary, but I much more likely the latter) takes your fancy.

I don't think there's much of a moral judgement to be made either way tbh.

Christina - well that's OK then

Figleaf - I have no idea who SinB is but are you a psychologist? That was very rude.

Iota - no probs

dammit got to go and cook dinner now, whilst dh goes for a run

catch you later

(actually dh will be presiding over the BBQ when he's back, I'm doing salads)

not as rude as the posts made by SinB imo.

A little disappointed that there are no blazing rows in progress

If they were really badly in need of money or wanted more then I'm sure that they would be able to find some kind of job to do.

Everyone moans about something. If you had the person with a perfect part time job, children didn't know they worked etc etc then they'd still have something to moan about!

Oh God.

I have just spent ages looking for a poster called SinB.

I was even thinking, I bet she is a maths teacher

what and arse I am

Sensible post, Blondilocks.

Sugarfree - I thought Figleaf's post started so well, a call to using better language, then she ended it with the suggestion that SinB she might need some sort of help. That was a bit much.

Subtle rudeness as opposed to downright bloody rude?Wish I could do subtle rude.

i atually know the answer to this. its becuase they like to make thier kitchen sink shiny.

polish their taps.

iron knickers

and feel proud nay even smug in the knowledge that they do .....regularly.

Oh well, I won't argue degress of rudeness.