Stay at home mums with kids at school, why dont they get jobs??

[sleepinbeauty]

Just a bit hacked off with mums at school, they moan about having no life away from their kids/ not much money, yet they all seem to refuse to get jobs or careers!
why do some women just want to do sweet FA all day when their kids are at school? They seem content for their husbands to slog their guts out at work while they drink cups of tea and watch daytime tv! Dont get it! i think its called laziness??

AstonMartin - Well said. Total agreement from our house too.

The only reservation I have is the bit where you say you both feel it's important to be with your children and not to palm them off. I don't think working mums "palm off" their children. Many work part time or flexible hours in order that they can spend time with their kids. Some have to work for financial reasons. Some work conventional hours but still would hate others to think that they have "palmed off" their kids because they have enough guilt as it is without others judging.

It was only meant as an expression, I totally understand that some people choose / Have to go back to work ect, and most but not all feel guilty fo the time they miss with the little one But we would feel that we are palming our children off to people who did not choose to have them, thats all, I meant no offence by that term and was not judging anyone with it. IT IS JUST HOW WE SEE IT WITH OUR OWN CHILDREN. Hope this clarifies what I meant by "palming off".

Well I palm off my kids twice a week after school. No guilt about it at all - they love being palmed off and get annoyed if they can't go to their childminder one day. (In fact, I'm now wrestling with the fact that although I can't really justify having a childminder any more, they love going to her's so much that they will be really disappointed if I stop them going altogether, so I'm having to think maybe I should just let them go once a week, even though technically I don't really need it.)

I was literally pushed off the school path the other day by a Mum rushing her child into school, she shouted back to me , 'in a hurry must get to work you know' !

What does she want a medal ? if your're going to work GET ORGANISED WOMAN !!

What a good start to a 'paid' working day .

cause we can't be arsed - like having time to myself to do whatever I want

I hope you'll be glad to hear that I don't expect any medals mummydear! Astonmartin, thanks for explaining what you meant. I do wonder though, whether part of you does judge other families where both parents work. Though you say you don't earn much, you clearly earn enough to support your family on one wage.

Haven't looked through this but basically I don't need to get a job.
I want to be at home to take kids to and from school and wouldn't have it any other way.

Was it you then who pushed me off the path ? I was talking about THAT woman ! I don't like to make assumptions unlike alot of people on this thread

as previously stated this is an expression or terminology if you wish(its just the way I talk). we "palm off" our children to bed every night, or to great grans for a couple of hours on saturdays while we are in town.

IT WAS NOT BEING JUDGEMENTAL IN ANYWAY!!.

If someone were paying sahm's to look after their children they would then be thought of as contributing financially so how mad is it that sahm's should be expected to go out to work to then have to pay someone else to look after their children if they want to do it themselves, why is that not seen as a valuable financial contribution, and why is it something that we have to apologise for if we get an hour or so during the day to please ourselves, people at work get lunch breaks. My dp gets weekends and evenings off, he does no housework, cooking or childcare whatsoever, when he is not at work his time is completely his own. This is not a problem for me but why am I not entitled to time during the day to please myself if I can get it. I wonder why women who choose to work (rather than those who have to) seem to feel so vicious about people who choose to stay at home.

Ok sorry astonmartin. Mummydear, it did sound rather caustic and judgemental. However, I have been drinking rather too many glasses of wine and therefore am willing to admit to being over sensitive. Will see what others think.

rosysslave I agree with you. Mind you some don't get a lunch break. Doesn't mean you are less worthy though

thanks plummymummy, the last thing I need is a load of WOMEN wanting to kill me

I've read all of it ! I suppose it may have been a retaliation to the original post about moaning SAHMs at the school gates.

anniemac - I was serious about working mum nearly pushing me off path !!!

I do appreciate that anniemac, I was generalising unfairly , and I did not have the energy to wade through the whole post, lost the will to live about half way through. I do work parttime actually but hate the original suggestion that mothers who dont aren't contributing and needed to be heard now I can go back in my cupboard until everyone wakes up tomorrow morning

Phew it's not just me and my wine drinking then!

Anniemac - you are right about it dividing the camps, although I was pushed off the path it was related tongue in cheek.

I think the OP got peoples back up and I do agree that women have a tough enough job with children whether working or not.

anniemac, I agree with you, it is sad. Perhaps some wm's resent (present company excluded obviously, I am generalizing again) sahm's having the time with their children and do feel guilty about the fact that they are choosing to work, perhaps they would like to have more time but really dont want to be not working enough so they have to get at sahm's and sahm's have a chip about their lack of status and have to get at working mothers to justify the fact that they are not earning money and getting at each other doesn't help anyone.