Stay at home mums with kids at school, why dont they get jobs??

[sleepinbeauty]

Just a bit hacked off with mums at school, they moan about having no life away from their kids/ not much money, yet they all seem to refuse to get jobs or careers!
why do some women just want to do sweet FA all day when their kids are at school? They seem content for their husbands to slog their guts out at work while they drink cups of tea and watch daytime tv! Dont get it! i think its called laziness??

oh yes, and does he have anyone he should meet with ?

i have to children and am currently on maternity leave. i dont like having to work and leave my kids with my mil but i do it because i want my children to learn that if they want anything in life they have to work for it! (not that kids with sahm's wouldnt get taught that) there are pros and cons to both ways of life! sleepin you said u hate it when sahm's moan? well if they moan to u i assume ur their friend? not a very good one tho are u? why post this on here? if u got somethin to say to the mums that moan at ur kids school gates then say something to them or are u a coward?

However being a working mum it does make me wonder when there is a 2 parent family and niether work but hey if someone offered me more money to stay at home i would :0
as for u saying 'we all had good educations' it is rubbish! u may have had a good one but not all of us did ok! so shut ur mouth!
i hope ur small mindedness doesnt rub off on ur kids because it will be a shame for people in my kids generation to be so iggnorant!!!!

and i work because we need the money at the moment ! i save my half my weekly wage so that when my children go to school (in 3 yrs) i will be going to college full time. :0

Strong views there supermum !

OK, not had time to read whole thread so probably am going to tread on someone's toes, but what the heck.

Sleepinbeauty - surely your gripe is not SAHMs but those who moan about it? I'd gripe about anyone, mum/dad/kid/whoever, that spent all day vegged out in front of the box and doing nothing but complain about their life!

As far as I'm concerned (I am a SAHM, one teen one pre-schooler, worked part-time until second child arrived) if you have sufficient money to stay home without relying on hand-outs then why shouldn't you? But if you do - don't complain!! I love my life, and don't see me changing much in the next few years. If I went back to work, I would need a job that would let me work part-time, term-time only, with days off to see school assemblies etc. not sure that would please many employers! If, however, we were short of cash, I would work on a checkout to get some extra (I have done this before, hated the work as I am much happier with office work and didn't like the mad turnaround of DH in the door, me straight out until 11 or later, but it was a means to an end)

Women have enough to cope with without being made to feel guilty about their choices - if you want to work, fine - there are a lot of very good nurseries/childminders and if you are a better Mum by working then good luck to you. If you stay at home - great, so long as it is your choice, and you don't moan when iot's you that has to do the cleaning and cooking - that IS a job, and it's the price to pay for the perk of being able to arrange your own life pretty much as you want to.

Supermum, i may be ignorant, but at least i can SPELL !!!

fight!
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Your apostrophes, capitals and punctuation are somewhat lacking though, sleepinbeauty.

oooo this looks like fun

please will someone precis the main points of contention, key contenders and who we, en masse, are siding with in general

thank you kindly

Oh FGS. Everyone moans about something now and then.

People who work sometimes moan about work- doesn't mean they should/want to give it up for good.

People who stay at home moan about that sometimes- doesn't mean they should/want to change it permanently.

Leave them alone,let them moan and get on with your own life.

Sometimes we moan because there's nothing decent on telly one night - doesn't mean we should chuck out the telly.

Sometimes I moan about not being able to get any house work done because ds has needed my attention allday. Doesn't mean I should put the housework first and make ds wait for a bit of attention.

People moan about xyz because sometimes they're just having a bad day or feel abit fed up and having a good moan helps us clear the air and get it out of our system. It happens to everyone.

you mean you've never seen a SAHM/WOHM thread before Twiglett?

They all go the same way, sooner or later...

Actually im not going to rise to it.... goodbye

Oh please rise SIB, I only just got here!!

Ok then who else doesn't have the time or energy for sex, surely not just three of us?

lol sex....hm...used to do that more often..but well..with 3 Kids...my libido ain't all teh same anymore, lol!

Phew, ok then my secret jealousy of SAHMs has vanished

sleepin this site is meant for adults 2 come and chat and get advice from other adults!why are you here?????????

Cant believe this thread, cant believe that somebody would actually ask this question.

I'm a SAHM and love it. We delayed having kids until we could afford it, I'm 36 with a 4 and 2 year old. I would possibly consider getting a job when my 2 year old starts school full time, but it would need to fit in with school hours, holidays and allow me to go to all the things that I need to at school, but does such a thing exist?

I manage to get all the housework done so when the kids come home and my dh is home we can have family time without having to do chores. Dh generally works really long hours so his time with us is valuable.

I generally love my life, dont complain and wouldnt really change things, apart from getting a job that fits in.

This issue comes up quite frequently , but I haven't seen a good one for a couple of months now. I was involved in one that went on for absolutely ages. There was some aguing, some nastiness, but mostly it was good discussions, people putting forward their views. It was great

Yeah I find them fascinating too. Judgemental attitudes on either side can be interesting to read.

I am a SAHM. My kids are all at school. I love it. I love being around, 'on call' in case they need me, being able to help out on trips etc. I do study at home to keep the brain going and for the future. I will only get a job if the time seems right and it fits in with my kids. No way would I want to not be able to pick them up at least most the time from school and not be there for sports day etc.

Why would I outsource their care when I can do it myself and we are all happier. We are doing fine moneywise and my kids learn that caring is just as important as working in a family. The daytime is the only time I get a break and chance to do things. After 3pm, it is chaos. Why add to it?

hoping that I can work 2-3 days and DP can also work 2-3 days, one day in the misty future. Wouldn't that be nice.

I think that if they can afford to stay at home then why not? If however they are scrounging benefits then I believe that they should go out to work.

I am a SAHM looking after my two little toddlers. I plan to go back to College when they're both at school to get myself a career. I know that not everyone wants to do this and thats fine but I believe that at least one parent should work as there is no need for both Mum and Dad to be at home!

So which sort of SAHM's scrounge benefits then, as opposed to just claiming them?

Fabulous post TM . I envy anyone, be it SAHP or freelancer, who is not answerable to a bunch of drecky suit wearers with No Family Life of Their Own .