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Stay at home mums with kids at school, why dont they get jobs??

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sleepinbeauty · 20/09/2006 16:32

Just a bit hacked off with mums at school, they moan about having no life away from their kids/ not much money, yet they all seem to refuse to get jobs or careers!
why do some women just want to do sweet FA all day when their kids are at school? They seem content for their husbands to slog their guts out at work while they drink cups of tea and watch daytime tv! Dont get it! i think its called laziness??

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wrinklytum · 22/09/2006 21:18

You guys make me chuckle Glad I found mn.

scoobytwo · 22/09/2006 21:21

cause we can&dont need to work
bet your

3andnomore · 22/09/2006 21:22

Anoah...don't you have any auxiliarys then at least...that would surprise, me, tbh!

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wrinklytum · 22/09/2006 21:28

Scooby,no I wasnt having a go at SAHM,,read prev chat,just laughing at MN humour!I respect SAHM and all other mums!!!

3andnomore · 22/09/2006 21:29

reading all the nursing bits...gosh...I should probably be well pleased that in my area you now have to pay for your return to nursing course...lol...as that is what is stopping me to return into nursing...don't look as if I am missing anything then, lol!

sugarfree · 22/09/2006 21:32

However many untrained you have,you still have sole responsibilty,you have all the drugs to do,that can be a huge round at night and iclude IVs and controlled which means trying to persuade another trained to leave her ward and come to yours.You have to deal with docs and relatives,you may have observations that can only be done by a trained nurse,you are responsible for admissions,returns from theatre,the terminally ill,deaths and all the ensuing bed moves that happen.The list goes on and no wonder Anoah is stressed up to her tired eyeballs.

sugarfree · 22/09/2006 21:33

Sorry 3andnomore,teaching you to suck eggs there then.

wrinklytum · 22/09/2006 21:39

3ANM its a fab job in term of never being dull,meeting people from all walks of life.There are plenty of laughs and plenty of tears.It can be rewarding and frustrating in equal measures and bloody tiring to boot.The frustration comes in the endless crappy paperwork,short staffing,never getting breaks,feeling like you need to split yourself in two,arsey consultants,budget constraints etc etc.The rewards are seeing someone recover sucessfully,or go into remission.Our patients can be with us for 6 months plus and you really get to know them.I love the job for its direct patient contact and human aspect but find the deaths traumatic.Its a fantastically varied job,but stressful.

sugarfree · 22/09/2006 21:41

Still easier than parenting some days though eh,Wrinklytum?

wrinklytum · 22/09/2006 21:43

Some days,yeah sugarfree!!!

lou100 · 22/09/2006 22:08

new to mn and can't believe how many posts there have been on this thread! think sleepinbeauty is winding everyone up. Surely no intelligent person can seriously have this opinion? it makes it even more sad that it is coming from someone with children. i thought this website was aimed at supporting one another because parenting can be such a difficult and demanding 'job'?

nearlythree · 22/09/2006 22:33

Only just bothered to read the OP, how very funny!

sugarfree · 22/09/2006 22:41

You will learn my child,you will learn.

Seriously,we do support and we do fighting.

Blondilocks · 22/09/2006 23:31

I can't believe people are still using the "boring" accountant stereotype

Tortington · 23/09/2006 01:36

i am not asking anyone to justify what they do.

did i make assumptions about SAHMs with kids at school.

yes.

do i begrudge you your choice? no - glad you have one.

do i think your choice is in anyway wrong?

erm.... nope. whatever floats your boat and makes your family happy.

what i dont understand is the constant whinging about how hard it is.

thats all

your kids are at school.

what ever way you slice it theres at least 4 hours a day there.

do you sit on your arse all day?

probably not. i am sure you are well occupied.

does any of this apply for women who have children not of school age? nope. becuase i fundementally believe that looking after pre school children is the hardest thing ont his planet.

my previous comments were tongue in cheek aimed at the great mumsnet massive - and didn't warrent such blunt rudeness IMO.

i did generalise about the mumsnet population when making those comments as generally middle class - hence the tongue in cheek nigella jamie scooter reference.

if there had been a retort along the lines of "shouldnt we worry about the people who claim benefits and sit in macdonalds all day" i would have thought it perfectly reasonable.

its funny how on the class threasd your all self proclaimed middle classers yet when it comes down to who is the hardest done by - suddenly every one is on the bones of their arse.

now your again incensed - read the begining of this post again.

Tortington · 23/09/2006 01:39

a further loop hole to close

for those of you who dont whinge about it - then nothing i have said remotely applies to you.

seeing as in some instances i must refer to you all as individuals and not stereotype a mumsnetter as mumsnetters do often do themselves - refer to lentil weaving tongue in cheek threads.

CristinaTheAstonishing · 23/09/2006 07:04

Good post by Elf1981 on Friday, 22 September, 2006 9:12:45 PM. However, as you say, some may have lost the ability or confidence to do something about their situation, so what's left IS sitting around moaning about it. Same as with working families, it takes courage to down-size and you just keep going on with the situation you have and just moan.

kittywits · 23/09/2006 08:06

I have a mixture of babies, preschoolers and those at primary school. When they are all at school full time I think I will spend some time just doing things for me before I contemplate paid work.
I cannot imagine that it could be hard work to be at home without children, how could it be?
I agree with Custy saying people can lead their lives as they chose but not to moan about how hard it is to be at homw without children, boring perhpas, hard work? I can't see it.

eidsvold · 23/09/2006 08:11

i agree with whomever it was that said true feminism is about freedom of choice - not about us all getting out to work to prove we are equal BUT about having the freedom to choose for ourselves what we want.

Never fails to amaze me how woman are so harsh on each other.

WideWebWitch · 23/09/2006 08:12

God, is this still going?

noddyholder · 23/09/2006 08:13

I know quite a few and all have different circumstances.Tbh I moan the most about things in general but not about being able to suit myself and generally do what I like with my time.Why do so many people care about what others do

Seashells · 23/09/2006 08:53

Haven't read most of this thread as it's so huge! But my opinion is, everyone is free to do whatever they like, it's nothing to do with me what others choose to do.
If you've had a career and decided to leave to become a mum/home maker then fulfilling that ambition to the full is fully acceptable regardless of whether your kids are at school or not.
What I personally can't understand is mums who have not had any sort of career behind them, have no training or qualifications who don't take the oportunity to gain some of this or work experience whilst they can when their kids are at school? I know one mum who has one child of 6 who basically sits on her arse all day moaning about having no money, why doesn't she at least look for possible suitable jobs or take a correspondence course so that she has better job prospects for the future?
I've been a SAHM for 8yrs now, never had much of a career before having kids, I had ds at only 18, in that time I have taken as much education as I can get at home, I'm now doing a degree with the OU (fees paid for me as a low income family!) There is just NO excuse for sitting around moaning, but if it's what you are happy doing then fair enough!

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sleepinbeauty · 23/09/2006 09:42

i agree with the last post, why do some women not want any kind of training/career prospects but prefer to rely on their partner? what if they lost their partner? would would they do for money then? Also having a course/training to concentrate on does wonders for your self esteem, and makes you feel as if you are actually aiming for something. i did my OU degree whilst being a SAHM and then my masters, and it made me so content to know i was doing something for myself and my future!!

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foxtrot · 23/09/2006 09:57

Money, qualifications, 'self esteem'?. What is so wrong with have the most selfless aim, which is to bring up your kids as best you can? And if you need to SAH to do this , then you shouldn't be criticised for doing so.

3andnomore · 23/09/2006 10:13

Sugarfree
"However many untrained you have,you still have sole responsibilty,you have all the drugs to do,that can be a huge round at night and iclude IVs and controlled which means trying to persuade another trained to leave her ward and come to yours.You have to deal with docs and relatives,you may have observations that can only be done by a trained nurse,you are responsible for admissions,returns from theatre,the terminally ill,deaths and all the ensuing bed moves that happen.The list goes on and no wonder Anoah is stressed up to her tired eyeballs. "

Yes, that might be, BUT...there would be auxiliarys that would be able to take an old lady to the loo...etc...whilest the trained Nurse is busy, and anyway, over here it's the auxiliarys job, mainly, anyway, to do such task...I trained in germany,w here we only have trained staff, so, we do everything...but over here, Auxiliarys are there to do those tasks that one doesn't need specific qualifications for.

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