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I have just tipped my 3yo Dd1's supper over her head.

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Orchardbeck · 29/04/2014 19:53

Not one of my finest moments, I have to say. I'm certainly not proud of the fact. She refused to eat it so I calmly tipped it over her head, gravy, the lot.

Dd1 has been refusing to eat meals for some time, I know it is a control issue as we are having other problems (tantrums, ignoring etc etc). I also have Dd2 who is 9 months and eating well (same meals just mashed or chopped well). She just sits there and either makes cheeky comments or shouts over me. I am at the end of my tether.

I make meals that I know Dd1 loves - she was previously an adventurous eater but now just picks and takes hours to finish a meal, and only with coaxing and threats of no pudding etc.

Tonight was sausage casserole, made with home raised pork and vegetables out of the garden, so not only do I feel bad about doing this, it was particularly painful to see it go to waste like that (DH's face was a picture, but he backed me up whether he agreed with it or not , bless him).

She has now been showered and sent to bed with nothing more to eat. She is very eloquent for her age (3 1/4 yo) and has been from age 1, she used to be so well behaved and a joy to have around.

Obviously I was worried about her reaction to dd2, but she loves her to pieces. She just takes other people off to one side to get their full attention - it can be overwhelming for them sometimes.

I know she is rebelling because I have to dedicate attention to her younger sister, plus my OH is a farmer and works all hours so it's just me looking after them. She goes to pre school 2 mornings per week.

What can I do? Is it a phase? Have I crossed a massive line?

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TequilaMockingbirdy · 12/05/2014 15:14

What worries me most is the OP said she 'calmly tipped it over her head'.

CheerfulYank · 12/05/2014 15:22

Calmly tipping it over her head is better than throwing it at her face. Confused

Jacquimurray1980 · 12/05/2014 15:23

Mathanxiety there was an old post by op that said lost temper for second so that's what I'm going by.

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TequilaMockingbirdy · 12/05/2014 15:23

She calmly tipped it over her child's head, which is contradictory to all those posts going on about how people 'snap' and do things in the heat of the moment. If you're pushed and pushed to anger with your child you don't 'calmly' do anything.

Jacquimurray1980 · 12/05/2014 15:25

No tequila woman I wasn't patronising you I just didn't have time to type your full name unlike you're attempting to do now with your "sniggers" comment.

CheerfulYank · 12/05/2014 15:26

Nah, I don't agree. I snapped at a friend once and said some terrible things (after she'd done the same) and I've never spoken so calmly in my life.

TequilaMockingbirdy · 12/05/2014 15:27

Then you can just chose to type Tequila then instead of adding lady on it. I don't understand why you'd do that Confused unless you wanted to patronise.

Gen35 · 12/05/2014 15:29

can't believe this thread is still going - can't we agree to disagree? It's not like it's benefitting op or op's dc at this point and nobody actually has all the facts about whether this was a one off or not.

MrsRuffdiamond · 12/05/2014 17:28

If you're pushed and pushed to anger with your child you don't 'calmly' do anything.

I disagree. The 'calm' bit was the op pulling back from doing something which could have been catastrophic, such as flinging the plate at her dd.

You can be pushed to anger, without giving it full rein. I think she weighed up the options and picked her least worst at that time, given the way she was feeling.

Your least worst option might have been to walk away. Mine might have been to bin the meal. Both better than tipping the food, which was, in turn, better than throwing it or, imo, having a screaming rant at her dd.

I don't think she felt good about her behaviour, or she wouldn't have posted.

moomin35 · 12/05/2014 21:40

Please tell this is a "joke"?

differentnameforthis · 13/05/2014 03:25

Differentnameforthis the op said she would never do it again

very well aware of that...my mum also told me that too. But it DID happen again.

differentnameforthis · 13/05/2014 03:28

Completely childish attitude which is not helpful at all

And your use of 'lady' or 'whatever your name is' isn't?

Purposefully getting someone's name wrong is rude. If you want to interact in the conversation, at least have the manners to get our names right. It makes you look stupid, otherwise.

Jacquimurray1980 · 13/05/2014 18:46

Anothernameforthis I didn't get the name wrong on purpose I was in a rush and was replying quickly and wasn't 100% sure of the rest of the name. It wasn't meant to be patronising and it certainly wasn't meant to be childish. Read all my threads you will see I'm not childish at all. And just because your mum did it again doesn't mean the op will, hopefully she won't. Just because I haven't typed the full name doesn't mean I can't participate in the thread and as somebody else pointed out this discussion has had its day this just seems to be tit for tat now which is ridiculous. We all have different views and I never mentioned any user in particular until they replied to a thread of mine so if I wanted to be childish I would have threw accusations directly. Carrying this on any further is childish so I'm quite happy to leave it here.

differentnameforthis · 14/05/2014 07:05

Jacquimurray1980

You just got mine wrong! And you add lady & love to others thinking it makes you big & clever!

Jacquimurray1980 · 14/05/2014 08:31

No actually I didn't do it thinking it makes me big and clever, I'm typing this whilst doing other things so if I don't remember the full name whilst typing that is it, no hidden agenda. I am not childish as my comments show.

Jacquimurray1980 · 14/05/2014 08:35

And I didn't use the word love to refer to anyone I was typing a reply back to someone and I couldn't remember the full name but knew it had tequila in it so I said tequila lady meaning no offence but so that the user knew I was replying to one of her comments. It wasn't meant to come across as patronising and when I later replied saying whatever your name is, it was in response to what I perceived as a sarcastic comment made to me.

CrystalSkulls · 14/05/2014 08:36

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Pagwatch · 14/05/2014 08:36

Complaining about swearing on mumsnet is quite funny though..
Nowt wrong with swearing.

Pagwatch · 14/05/2014 08:37
Grin

Crystalskulls - don't say that. It's been magnificientwatching.

It's like a soap.

bumpiesonamission · 14/05/2014 12:10

Agreed page but its nearly 1000, will it end or will there be a second season? bum bum buuuuuuum

Migsy1 · 15/05/2014 10:14

Totally agree with pjsgalore

BertieBotts · 15/05/2014 18:24

How the fuck is this thread still going, for Christ's sake?!

MrsRuffdiamond · 15/05/2014 18:40

Because people keep posting things like How the fuck is this thread still going, for Christ's sake?! Grin

SpamTroll · 15/05/2014 18:46

my thoughts exactly Wink

Migsy1 · 16/05/2014 10:23

But it has to keep going. It can't end on 951 posts. It has to make it to the limit now, surely?

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