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2 girls walked my son out of the park

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Fcukfifa · 18/04/2014 20:36

Hi, I have no idea if I'm posting in the right section.

I'm debating whether to ring my local police station or not.

I was at the park with my two sons (4 and 1) there was also four other couples with us.

I was holding my youngest and do admit that I was gabbing away with friends whilst my oldest was playing with his friends, running about etc.

Then my oh looked across the park and he was out of the parks gates but still within the fields, walking across to another play area. He was walking with two girls aged about 12/13/14. Oh ran and brought him back and the girls went to the other section.

We was all pretty shocked and obviously I feel HUGELY guilty I took my eyes away from him!!

After about 5 minutes I started to seethe with the 2 girls so got up, walked to the other area and confronted them about it.

My son said they knew his name and where he lived, so I asked them if they did in fact know these things and they said no, I then said I don't appreciate them walking my son away from the park and I suggest they don't do it with any other children in the future (I was a bit shouty and had to wrap it up quickly because I started to feel really angry)

Anyway... I don't know, I guess I'm angry at myself, angry at them...a bit in shock...should I report it at the police station?
I keep thinking about Jamie bulger :(

Sorry if this is a bit rambley!

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pookamoo · 18/04/2014 20:38

Very scary. What reason did they give?

lucidlady · 18/04/2014 20:42

I'd report it.

Bowlersarm · 18/04/2014 20:43

Very scary. I don't quite know what they think they were doing.

BaronVonShush · 18/04/2014 20:46

Did they give any explanation at all? I would have been petrified.

Yes, report it.

MandScookiesrule · 18/04/2014 20:46

I'd report it, the police can decide what they want to do with the information. Then you've done your bit. So scary, for your traumatic day.

usualsuspectt · 18/04/2014 20:47

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Nicole1976 · 18/04/2014 20:47

I would report them to the police immediately, you can't just walk out of a park with someone else's child and I would even go as far as to say that it was kidnapping. I'm glad it wasn't my LO because I would have went mad at them and I'd end up calling them an ambulance rather than the police.

defineme · 18/04/2014 20:47

What was their reason? How did they respond? What was their manner?
What did they say to your dh when he fetched ds1?

They could just be daft girls who thought he was cute and he said he wanted to go to that play area. They could know him from somewhere-does he go to school/nursery attached to one where they are in year 6?.

I have no idea, but anything sinister would be extraordinarily rare.
However, if you do believe they had evil intentions then ring the police.

Ploppy16 · 18/04/2014 20:49

Don't feel guilty, most.of us let our children do their own thing when.we go to the park.
I.would let the police know. They might have thought they were being helpful in some way but it would be better to report it I think.

Falconi · 18/04/2014 20:51

Wasn't your child following them?
Were them holding hands with him?

LEMmingaround · 18/04/2014 20:54

did they give any justification? who else were they at the park with?

I would be inclined to report this yes

Smartiepants79 · 18/04/2014 20:56

Did they give any explanation?
It is unusual but older children especially girls do pal up with younger ones and get a bit carried away.
It does depend on how they reacted to your distress. My first instinct would be that they were just being friendly and overstepped the mark but then I'm horribly naive and always think the best of people......

DoItTooJulia · 18/04/2014 20:59

Absolutely report it. You've no idea what their intentions were or if they will do similar in future.

Glad he's ok. Hope you are too.

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Fcukfifa · 18/04/2014 21:00

He was walking in the middle of them, Im not sure if they was holding hands.
oh picked him up and brought him straight back I think he was in shock.

I really don't know why I didn't ask 'What was you doing?!'

The first thing I said was, Do you know his name, one said no. So I said do you know where he lives and she said no again. But with attitude, and then I saw red and my hands got that tingling feeling when your about to smack someone. That's when I said I didn't appreciate it and don't do it to anyone other child. I had to walk away before I throttled them both.
They was also walking away.

I have wondered if they was just silly girls chatting away to a young and very chatty little man, but if that had been me and their parent came I would have been apologising etc. Not giving attitude and walking away?!

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Fcukfifa · 18/04/2014 21:14

Apologies for awful grammar and spelling!

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MaRyzerection · 18/04/2014 21:16

Could he have just followed them?

I remember when dd was about that age she attached herself to a teenager and followed him out of the park. I found them by the gate - he was telling her to go back in. Luckily I heard what he was saying - otherwise I might have jumped to conclusions.

They might be entirely innocent, and have been annoyed by you appearing out of nowhere (as they might see it) and telling them off.

LEMmingaround · 18/04/2014 21:20

definately report - their attitude smacks of defensiveness, what they were up to, i guess we will never know but i am sure he police would take this very seriously. Do you know if the girls play there regularly, part of a local group etc?

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Fcukfifa · 18/04/2014 21:23

I have just asked oh exactly what happened when he picked my son up. He said they was chatting and the one who had attitude to me was pointing across to the other side of the fields.

I'm going to pop into our local police station, it's right opposite the park and 2 mins away from our house. If I didn't report it and god forbid anything did happen I wouldn't be able to live with myself.

It's certainly taught me a lesson to be extra vigilant!

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gamerchick · 18/04/2014 21:23

I think I would report it just so it's logged. It was probably innocent or a just not thinking thing but I would be thinking about JB as well.. despite those things being rare.

There'll be cameras about no doubt they could look at if necessary.

DirtyDancing · 18/04/2014 22:18

Poor you that's really scary. They seem old enough to know better to be honest. Sounds like they were being defensive (eg liars!) and could know your son. I would report it.

lola88 · 19/04/2014 09:21

Then my oh looked across the park and he was out of the parks gates but still within the fields, walking across to another play area

I think ringing the police is OTT if they are 12 they are kids themselves and probably didn't think to much about it, I would assume they said they were going to the other play area he wanted to go so they took him. I would think they got a fright being shouted at from some woman just for playing with a little boy. If they were taking him into the tree's or away from the park I might worry but not when they are simply going to play in another section.

If my 12 year old came home saying they were playing with a little boy and his mum came over and started shouting at them for taking him to far I'd be thinking the mum should be watching her 4 year old not blaming my child for her own failing. Sorry to offend but that's how I see it you can't blame children for you not watching your son. By all means go tell the police just incase but you can't go shouting at children because you we're not watching your son it's your job to make sure he doesn't go to far or go with strangers

3DcAndMe · 19/04/2014 09:26

I agree to phone the police

They weren't playing with him
They were taking him out of the park!

I think you did well to restrain yourself op!

As for those saying at 12 they are still children. How old were the boys involved in JB?

Goblinchild · 19/04/2014 09:32

I'd flag it up to the police, whatever the girls' intentions, what they did was wrong and they need to understand that, and they are certainly old enough to know better.
It's a pity you don't have their names, but you could give a description.
The potential for something bad happening is too high, if they took him out, what if they just abandoned him to find his own way back?
Let alone a much worse-case scenario.

Goblinchild · 19/04/2014 09:34

lola88, 10 is the age of criminal responsibility. I wonder if the fact that they are girls had any impact on your post?

Martorana · 19/04/2014 09:34

What does your son say happened?

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