**sensitive topic warning** So angry!

[NickysMam]

I have a 1 week old DD (who is the most beautiful baby in the world, I'm so in love) and her dad and his family are insisting, almost to the point of bullying me, into piercing her ears.

Not to offend those that have done it, but I don't like it AT ALL as it's purely for cosmetic reasons.

Every day I'm asked "When are you going to pierce her ears?"

Has anyone pierced their DD's ears? And if so, how old were they? they're hoping to pierce her ears next bloody week! I've told them to fuck off already but the phone calls are still coming.

I wouldn’t I’m firmly in the 11-12 camp twin dds 6 are asking as half the class has pierced ears. I may compromise at 9 if they are still keen.

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My mother did mine and used up say I screamed with them being done and afterwards. I can't remember how old she said I was but definitely under 2 years. 4 people had to hold me down to take the studs out and clean them. I was apparently screaming and kicking to get them to stop.

They never got them back in and had lumps in both ears until as an older child I was ready to go through it again because I then wanted to. I carried the trauma of it - so much so, when getting them pierced again, it was the same place and I felt physically sick and anxious.

I wouldn't do it. It's cosmetic, it's not necessary and it does hurt whether it's quick or not. Just ask your DP whether he'd take your baby for completely unnecessary blood ttests.

It's your baby and you get to decide however I wouldn't be surprised if they do it behind your back.
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OP, tell your family that you’ll have them charged with assault

If they’re being this persistent I would be really worried that they’re going to take her to get them done as soon you’re not there. Just be careful

WHAT WAS the outcome @NickysMam

why did you resurrect @Pollypocket2021

This thread is from 2014. The baby must be at least seven by now.

@SnottyLottie

If they’re being this persistent I would be really worried that they’re going to take her to get them done as soon you’re not there. Just be careful

If this is still going on now all these years later then their persistence didn't pay off.

If they're being this pushy I would be concerned about them just doing it without your consent. I would be very wary of letting her dad or his family take her anywhere without you. I would also explicitly state that they are not to do this and that if they do, you will remove the earrings anyway.

When one of my daughters was born I lived in a country where they routinely pierce girls' ears at the hospital in the day or so after birth. I didn't do this and was pressured by so many people who said nobody would know she was a girl if I didn't do it 🤣 Even if she was dressed in a pink frilly dress, people would address her as a boy because she didn't have pierced ears. It didn't bother me at all but I had to be quite direct and say, 'in my culture we don't do that'. (Obviously some people do, but I had to be very firm and make a sweeping statement that it just isn't the done thing in order to get them to see that I wasn't being weird for not doing it!)

1. Aftercare will be additional unnecessary work for you
2. May hurt her and get infected
3. Nursery and school May not allow earrings
4. Images a baby!!!!!

@HappyBungleBear

If it's not a religious or cultural thing then please don't do it. Ear piercing doesn't look good on any children really - but on a baby it is really quite awful and probably very dangerous in terms them accidentally pulling them, catching them etc. You'd be giving yourself something else to worry about along with looking after a newborn. It'd tell his parents where to go. Sorry.

Even if it is a religious or cultural thing, dont do it. You are not a slave to religion or culture. You have your own mind and quite sanely don;t want to stab your baby and wound her flesh twice for no reason. I hate piercings. Never had my ears pierced, even as an adult. Piercing a baby is pointless torture.

Thanks for the reports about this old thread. The OP hasn't been on the site for a number of years so probably wouldn't want this thread to be reactivated. We're going to close it now.