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**sensitive topic warning** So angry!

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NickysMam · 26/03/2014 14:09

I have a 1 week old DD (who is the most beautiful baby in the world, I'm so in love) and her dad and his family are insisting, almost to the point of bullying me, into piercing her ears.

Not to offend those that have done it, but I don't like it AT ALL as it's purely for cosmetic reasons.

Every day I'm asked "When are you going to pierce her ears?"

Has anyone pierced their DD's ears? And if so, how old were they? they're hoping to pierce her ears next bloody week! I've told them to fuck off already but the phone calls are still coming.

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horsetowater · 27/03/2014 12:35

Well done NickysMam, Thanks you're over the first hurdle. Christ knows what they would have manipulated you into if you had given in to this one. It's a good lesson for DH to learn as well, and if there's any 'bother' from his side in the future my guess is he will stand up for you (and of course his children). Try and make sure they don't use this incident and hold it against you in any way, keep socialising with them (on your terms).

Over time you will meet other families in similar circumstances and hopefully give them the confidence to stand up against bizarre traditions as well.

bruffin · 27/03/2014 12:50

Branleuse

I'ts cultural on my dad's side of the family to have ears pierced at birth, my mum said no, end of. I had them done at 13 when I was old enough to want them done for myself.

Pollypocket2021 · 05/01/2022 21:33

@NickysMam

I have a 1 week old DD (who is the most beautiful baby in the world, I'm so in love) and her dad and his family are insisting, almost to the point of bullying me, into piercing her ears.

Not to offend those that have done it, but I don't like it AT ALL as it's purely for cosmetic reasons.

Every day I'm asked "When are you going to pierce her ears?"

Has anyone pierced their DD's ears? And if so, how old were they? they're hoping to pierce her ears next bloody week! I've told them to fuck off already but the phone calls are still coming.

My MIL has pierced all of her newborn granddaughters ears at 2 weeks, before they’ve even had any vaccinations. If she thinks she’s getting near my baby, then 🥊

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Fallagain · 05/01/2022 21:42

ZOMBIE THREAD

Conspiracyornotr · 14/01/2022 00:47

My daughter was 8 and was her choice. The baby isn't choosing it put your foot down . No x

needmoreshinys · 14/01/2022 01:46

This baby is nearly 8 now

Kelly7889 · 14/01/2022 02:09

@NickysMam

I have a 1 week old DD (who is the most beautiful baby in the world, I'm so in love) and her dad and his family are insisting, almost to the point of bullying me, into piercing her ears.

Not to offend those that have done it, but I don't like it AT ALL as it's purely for cosmetic reasons.

Every day I'm asked "When are you going to pierce her ears?"

Has anyone pierced their DD's ears? And if so, how old were they? they're hoping to pierce her ears next bloody week! I've told them to fuck off already but the phone calls are still coming.

The only people I have ever come across in Britain who pierce baby's ears are travellers and settled travellers.

And NO, It hurts like hell, it's completely uneccessary, in is an infection risk, the earring backs will catch on her clothes - just WHY?

Why can't a female just be allowed to be a fucking baby and a child before all this feminising bullshit starts?????? And why is it that OTHER WOMEN push for it?

Pixxie7 · 14/01/2022 02:30

That’s ridiculous I doubt you would find anyone to do it, I would get the support of your health visitor. No way would I allow anyone to dictate something like that to me.

Mamanyt · 14/01/2022 02:46

That is one of those decisions that she should make herself, when she is older. And I'd tell my inlaws that, "should she ask to have her ears pierced when she is a teenager, I'll be happy to take her to have them done."

Jinglemychristmasbells · 14/01/2022 02:49

Don't let them pierce her ear.
My dd is 14 and still not had her ears pierced she asked a few times over the years but never followed through with getting them done.
Where are they planning on getting them done? Most places won't do a baby's ears until they are 6 months old and have had certain immunisations

lapasion · 14/01/2022 02:52

Well the baby is eight now, so…

daisychain01 · 14/01/2022 02:55

@NickysMam

badidea no it's not a cultural thing. This is purely cosmetic. "Oh she'll look cute" well that's just great isn't it?! I'll have two holes, a possible risk of infection and pain because it looks 'cute'

His mum called me an hour ago telling me that "It has to be done".

So angry.

His mother can do one.

Just because she says "it has to be done", doesn't mean you buckle and allow your child to be mutilated. It may be the culture in Latin countries eg Spain and Brazil, but it isn't the culture in UK.

I hope the child's father is stepping in and telling his mother to button her lip and stay out of how you raise your child. If he isn't supporting your concerns and you think it's a risk then raise your strong concerns and tell him to manage her and get her off your back. And don't let that baby out of your sight for a moment, in case they take the decision into their own hands.

daisychain01 · 14/01/2022 02:56

Jeez if this is a zombie thread the person who's reactivated it needs to be banned.

Isntitironic1 · 14/01/2022 03:02

@Branleuse

i dont see the big deal. If its massively important to them. Im not particularly keen, but calling it barbaric, and someone up there likening it to FGM is just ridiculous.
Of course it’s barbaric, on what planet is sticking a needle into a defenceless infant not barbaric? Causing unnecessary pain? It’s bordering on child abuse
1forAll74 · 14/01/2022 03:15

Oh my word, definitely not, what possible reason could there be for piercing a one week old babies ears. No ear piercer should be allowed to do this to a baby or a small child.

DarkDarkNight · 14/01/2022 03:19

🧟‍♂️ 🧟

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 14/01/2022 03:28

I went to Spain at the age of 2 with my parents - everywhere, people said what a lovely little boy I was because my ears weren't pierced.

Mum did not cave. She never had hers done, and I've never had mine done - despite numerous people suggesting it to me on the way, including some people I once worked with, after they bought me some lovely earrings for pierced ears! Nope.

I wouldn't do it BUT you need to be very careful about letting your DH and/or any of his family taking your DD and getting it done themselves. I have no idea why they're insisting if it's not cultural but it's NOT something you need to have done.

ThumbWitchesAbroad · 14/01/2022 03:30

DAMN just seen it's a ZOMBIE thread.
Why oh why do people reactivate Zombies years after the event?!

Huntswomanonthemove · 14/01/2022 03:34

ZOMBIE THREAD 😱😱😱

SquirrelG · 14/01/2022 04:03

Stand your ground OP. What awful people they sound, and I agree, never leave your daughter alone with them.

Please ignore the stupid posts from @Branleuse. We are living in 2022, not the dark ages!

SquirrelG · 14/01/2022 04:04

OMG - who resurrected this one???

Mariposista · 14/01/2022 04:32

This is common in Spain and it looks dreadful. A baby girl is beautiful exactly as she is, she doesn’t need adorning with bits of metal. You stick to your guns and let her decide if she wants piercings when she is older! This makes me so angry. Here they come round maternity wards offering to do it!

expat101 · 14/01/2022 04:49

Good on you NickysMam, I could never understand why people did that to babies.

As you have agreed with her Father, she can have it done only when she asks for them. Be careful though of the pressure on her from the family though!

My DH said no younger than 13 years old for ours.

Whattochoosenow · 14/01/2022 04:52

ZOMBIE THREAD!!

KatherineJaneway · 14/01/2022 05:17

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