**sensitive topic warning** So angry!

[NickysMam]

I have a 1 week old DD (who is the most beautiful baby in the world, I'm so in love) and her dad and his family are insisting, almost to the point of bullying me, into piercing her ears.

Not to offend those that have done it, but I don't like it AT ALL as it's purely for cosmetic reasons.

Every day I'm asked "When are you going to pierce her ears?"

Has anyone pierced their DD's ears? And if so, how old were they? they're hoping to pierce her ears next bloody week! I've told them to fuck off already but the phone calls are still coming.

@Pollypocket2021

Why resurrect a 7 year old thread?

@Koothrapanties

No. No way. Never.

Repeat, repeat, repeat.

This.

I am having a girl and feel ill reading that.

I think the child has to be 3 months minimum anyway if I remember clearly

I peirced my eldest daughters ears at 18 months. I wish I didn't. I have 2 more girls after her and they can choose themselves when much older past the age of 8 or so if they would like to have it done.

I don't know why I did it. Thought it was cute etc. She didn't make a fuss when it was done in the end. The ladies at Claires were really nice and did them at the same time. But I wish I had left it for when she is older to decide. She is now 8 and she doesn't even wear earrings at all.

I actually spoke to a lady and her mother once. They were from Argentina and said that in their culture, a baby head is shaved bald and ears peirced at newborn.

But for me no way. Never again.

How dare Your mil say it needs to be done. I mean come on. It doesn't need to be done. She is acting like it is an urgent medical procedure. I'd be worried when they have baby they will whisk her off to a jewellers and do it behind your back. And in that case, I would keep all messages and sue the crap out of them for doing that to YOUR baby!!!!

Hahaha didn't even realise this thread is so old

Culturally we do it but I opted not to as I just liked my children completely untouched in that respect. I'm sure we will do it at some point as a teen.

Well seeing as the child is now in primary school, they're probably asking to get their own ears done now!

Tbh even if there are religious or cultural reasons I’m still against the practice. There are cultural reasons behind FGM ffs - doesn’t make that any less barbaric.

DH is from a culture where circumcision is normal and his parents were expectant that we would have our DC done but never in a million years would I impose any kind of injury on a child too young to consent for anything other than medical necessity. Thankfully DH took my side with his parents but it would not be happening.

I do occasionally see babies around with pierced ears and I have to say I do judge the parents. It’s risky, unnecessary, and the baby can’t consent.

Also, your DH doesn’t get to make such decisions on her behalf. It’s not his body, it doesn’t matter if he thinks her ears should be pierced. And now you’ve said he must wait til she asks I would put money on his family coercing her.

I wouldn't do this under any circumstances. Cultural, religious or otherwise.

@daisychain01

Jeez if this is a zombie thread the person who's reactivated it needs to be banned.

Is it that big of a deal to reactivate a zombie thread. Really?

@mrscog

I don't often swear on here but tell her to fuck off and shove some earrings up her arse.

This 100%

Absolutely not!

If she wants her ears pierced when she's old enough to give informed consent, fine.

No way on this Earth would I get a baby's ears pierced and they have NO RIGHT to put this pressure on you! I'd be seething with rage. Tell them, and be VERY clear on this - that it will simply not be hapapening whilst she is so young and if they ask again you will not allow them to see her.

Despicable.

My mother told me I had to wait until I was 16 and I have said the same to my dds.
Ear piercing hurts and is an infection risk, you are absolutely right not to want to do this to a tiny baby.
It is like giving a baby a tattoo !

Urgh, just seen it's a zombie thread

@NickysMam

Kate I didn't read the comments. How shocking and very stupid!! What if an accident occurred? All because "people might think she's a boy"

Point out to them that these days lots of boys have pierced ears and wear earrings

I hope you feel able to stand up to them and make it crystal clear this is not acceptable.
My daughter wanted hers done around age 8, she cared for them so well, still after about 12 weeks one became infected and the back became embedded in her lobe and it was very painful and required antibiotics. She ended up with one ear closing up, and was re pierced around a year later. Tell them when she can make her own mind up you will support her.

Oh, bugger, Zombie. Let's hope that, at age 7, this little girl is still proudly unpierced.

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No. Not your MIL child, it is yours. If you do not want DD ears pierced (right decision imho) they need to respect that - end of. Tell them to wind it in, calm down and no more visits until they have learnt some respect. Ignore the phone calls.

I come from Spain where at my age, piercing girls ears was done (with mom's approval) in hospital before mom and daughter went home.

The plus is that the newborn felt nothing and it was done in perfect antiseptic conditions, which as an adult woman felt grateful for many times.

If you are not comfortable with it, keep telling them to fuck off and it'll be your daughter's choice when she's old enough to make the decision.

oops, just realised it's a zombie thread.

@Bluestocking

How horrible. Just keep telling them you don't see any need to spoil perfection, and that there's no way on this earth you'll allow anyone to puncture holes in any part of your beautiful baby's perfect little body.

This

The plus is that the newborn felt nothing