New actively potty training thread - please join

[PetitFilou1]

This is minus Cod's expert advice at the moment as she's busy (see boot camp thread)
We've been going a week (ds is 2.4) and he's doing ok I think. Had a poo in the potty last night - first (in the right place) of the week! and and an all dry day on Friday - Weekend was not so good as we were visiting people both days but he was still pretty good considering. How is everyone else doing?

Two weeks of PT. Still no poos in toilet/potty. Still no damned washing machine!!!

Don't know who I'm more frustrated with - Hoover electricals or DS!

Hi Helennn - I think the poo on the carpet is probably the worst part of toilet training - what I find do is pick up the pooh and then clean the area with a nappy wipe (and I mean really clean - you will have to wipe/rub quite hard). If find it will get all the colour etc out of the carpet. I then spray the area with "Febreze" it is a product here in Australia which is a fabric refresher/deodoriser. It is fantastic - I imagine you will have a similar if not the same kind of product wherever you are (not sure if you are in the UK or not). We have light coloured carpet and I find the nappy wipe/Febreze combination very effective. By the way, nappy wipes are also excellent at getting crayon off walls! Good luck and hang in there.

Hi again

Just came up with a new strategy DD2 LOVES my little pony so I have just bought her seven pairs of my little pony knickers with a different pony on each. I am going to put a pair on her each morning and she is allowed to wear them all day unless they get wet and then she has to wear a pair of her normal plain knickers and she will not get another pair of her pony knickers until the next morning. In this way, rather than her getting a reward for going, she gets her special treat up front and all she has to do is keep them dry. We have been through the stars/stickers/smarties options already but they haven't been successful so I'll let you know if this one is a winner. She is really excited about wearing them so fingers crossed.

Signing in...no internet yesterday afternoon and I work Saturdays...

Rubineski, how on earth are you coping without a washing machine?!?

Pippy - good luck with the pony knickers and thanks for the febreze tip - yes we can get it here and I'm going to get some! I also use wipes for cleaning my oven amongst many things lol!

Well we had a disastrous trip out raspberry picking Friday afternoon, one poo in the pants but cleaned up OK and he did ask to go to the toilet (I brought a potty!) but didn't get there quick enough - can't seem to hold it at all - then he disappeared behind some bushes and reappeared with poo all down his leg and in his fresh pants, and in the process of trying to clean it up he got it all over his hand and I trod in some!!! I was not happy...I suspect he left some somewhere on the grass but god knows where...we beat a hasty exit...

Dh has had him today and he's in pants now and happy to wear them which is good. All wees in the toilet but poos still not making it in time. A friend of mine said it took her ds a MONTH to master this! aaaargh!

Can I join in? DD1 has just turned 2 and I was all ready for leaving her a while but she has decided she doesn't like nappies anymore. She says pee-pee and tries to get her nappy off. So I bought a potty she's yet to do anything in it, she knows what it's for will go get it sit in it but nothing. She does say pee-pee but theres about a 5 second lag time between her saying it and going. I don't think she's ready yet but she keeps trying to get nappyless.

I have a friend with 2 twin DDs a week older than DD1 and they have been potty training for a while, seems such a nightmare and although their Mum says they are trained every time I am with them one of them has an accident.

Hello. Signing in for day 5.

Kiera - your raspberry-picking trip was a classic potty-training story - well done for just getting on with it, and thanks for sharing - I'm sure we'll all have days like that. And welcome sweetkitty. How's it going? And pippygirl, we're doing the same thing with brum and tractor pants. Great, isn't it.

Well, we seem to have the pants things sussed. Ds now quite happy wearing them, and most wees end up in the potty, with him taking them off first. Hurrah! And nap-time nappies have been dry for the past 3 days, much to my amazement. Poos are another matter..... If he's bare-bottomed, then he'll make it to the potty in time, but with pants on you have to watch him like a hawk as he'll suddenly disappear behind a door/under a table, grunt and you know it's too late.....Luckily he's usually a little constipated (TMI, sorry) so doesn't make much mess so no carpet incidents yet.

We've had a couple of trips out, and he's used the portable potty fine, and he seems to be holding on for longer - we did a trip round tescos, which was probably an hour door-to-door, and he didn't wee once (he did get a little annoyed with the "Do you need a wee?" question I asked every 5 mins ).

So....all going reasonably well. I've got a longish car journey to do on Tuesday for a trip to see my dad - probably over an hour there and back. Thinking about putting a nappy on incase he sleeps, but not sure. What would you do?

Hi guys [Sorry this turned into a novel]

Update on Day 1 of the Pony Knickers experiment - Went really well - DD went on the loo when I put her on and then the next time I was with her and she grabbed herself and looked at me and we ran to the toilet and on she went. Then about half an hour later she came out with no knickers on yelling "I DID IT" and she had taken herself to the toilet and there was a poo in there - although there was a mark in her knickers so we suspect she may have done it in her knickers and then put it in the loo - but I don't care I'll take it as a victory!

Gladbag - Congratulations!!! As for the trip, I'd put him on before you go and deal with it if he needs to go or wets himself. Maybe just put a towel under him in the car just in case. He will be really proud of himself going out in his pants - I know DD is when I take her - I have no shame now, I even carry a kitchen towel roll in my nappy bag now for clean-ups.

Kiera - I'm sure we can all identify with the raspberry trip - just think one day revenge will be served sweet when you are sitting at dinner with his girlfriend and you can recall that day (I would love to see his face - LOL)

Sweetkitty - If you can cope, can you just leave her nappy off all together and let her go for it. If she's that keen you may as well give it a go - it's much better than her not wanting to let go of them (that's what my DD was like).

Hello all

Well, one step forward and all that. We seem to be having more accidents than we did at the beginning, although I have intrduced sweets as a bribe because he is less keen to keep trying on the potty.

DS isn;t asking at all, so unless I remind him to go he just wets.

He does seem to very interested in poo all of a sudden, and woke this morning to find he had taken poo out of his night time nappy and had put it into his "Dizzy" cement mixer and was "mixing" it...

ho hum!

hi my dd is 3 in october and we'e been training for 7 long longmonths. Got to a stage where completely dry during day although not at her initiation - would just "perform" whenput on potty every couple of hours or so. Now completely lost it. Will sit on potty sometimes but will just wee when she wants where sh ewants! Any tips please. I would really love her to start saying she needs a wee etc as she starts preschool in September an after 7 months i'm gettinga little weary!!!

Hi, just logged on again after yet more days of no poos (except in nappy when sleeping) and still NO DAMNED WASHING MACHINE!!!!!!!
Bloody Hoover haven't got the parts (it's their machine, it's only a few years old, how hard can it be??).
Thankfully, friends are being great and have supplied a rota of machines. But it's horrible, knowing that you can't just put dirty pants straight into the machine. And in this weather too!
Someone please tell me - do they ever get past this stage of not wanting to poo on potty/toilet??

Rubineski you deserve a medal I think.

IWF can you not bribe him to use the potty .

DS has eaten a lot of jelly babies today.

He does one wee, and then has his sweet, and then goes back to force anotehr one out, for anotehr sweet.

Yes, lifetime supply of Smarties in the house!

Even racked up the stakes after we went to Toys r us. I explained that some of the stuff we'd bought had gone to the Toy Fairy BUT!...if he did a poo on the potty/toilet the TF might come back and leave an early present for him one night. I even made up a bedtime story based on this.

But no joy.

Hi everyone

sweetkitty, well what can you do if they decide they don't want to wear the nappy?? just grin and bear it I guess.

gladbag - we have a 2 hour journey ahead of us on the motorway so I can see no option but put ds in a pull-up as we can't very well pull over on the hard shoulder every five minutes...what else to do?

pippy, glad to hear dd is so positive!

BoilingHotFrayedKnot - rofl at the Dizzy incident! Just what I needed to lighten the mood!

iweaflairs - it is dawning on me that this could be a sloooow process so yes I think accidents will be inevitable for a while (I feel your pain, knat)...just keep telling yourself he won't be peeing on the floor by the time he starts school...

Day 7 and not feeling very encouraged as I'm sure you can tell...we have been trying ds in pants since Friday but he gets them quite wet before he asks to go...although at least he does ask..it's just he's already started in his pants! He also asks to go a LOT, won't just do one big wee, tonight I was bathing him and he asked to go FOUR times, each time I had to lift him out of the bath, sit him on the toilet, lift him back in the bath and dry the toilet and floor...not the kind of thing you want to do at 7 months pregnant...so it feels like such hard work at the moment. Poos still just appear with no warning, by the time he's asked to go it's coming out, and all quite messy. All I can do is just try and keep calm and hope things improve with time. We have got through 15 pairs of pants in 3 days...please reassure me that this will get better!

hi, can I join in please, does anyone elses child use "i want a wee/poo" as a distraction/ diversion technique at bedtimes, mealtimes, when baby is being fed & generally when they want your attention?
I have being trying to train ds 2.6 for a few weeks and for the most part he is ok except he is driving me mad with the above, trouble is I always feel obliged to take him seriously just in case, anyone got any ideas on how to deal with it? The other thing he does is to say "doesn't matter mummy, nevermind" whenever he has an accident, which is what I said to him when we first started this, now we are at the point where I want to say well actually it does matter because i know that he can tell me in enough time usually. Is it against all the rules to become a little bit firm with them?

hi justamum

can't help with your first question as i'm new to all this, we're only on week two, but re the accidents, i was talking with a friend yesterday and she said she had to get quite firm with her ds in the end for pooing in his pants - they had been toilet training for several weeks at this point - and he did stop. So maybe there comes a point when you know they have the control but just aren't practicing it. hth!

Hello everyone

Day 6 has been ok. Ds actually told me he needed to go this morning in the car for the first time ("I got wee coming mummy"), and held on until we got to the supermarket, and then said it again half way through the shopping. Both times ended in a wee on the adult loo, so that was great. He also said he didn't want his nappy on for his nap, so I tucked a waterproof sheet under him, and he was dry after 2 hours, so again, brilliant .... but... we've had two bigs poos in his pants (luckily both at home). He knows he's going to go, and is distressed afterwards, but doesn't want to poo on the potty. Time will tell if this is going to be an on-going problem. He's got nursery for 4 hours tomorrow. I'm dreading it and will send him with numerous changes. The staff are fine (we talked about it last week) but I think that he'll be v distracted with everything going on, and I doubt if it'll be a successful morning, but you never know, eh? Fingers crossed.

How has everyone's day been?

anyone tried cleaning poo out of a (full) bath. Not fun, i can tell you!

Gladbag I wouldn;t worry about nursery - DS has been dry with no changes of clothes every day for over a week.

His accidents are usually at home or when we're out and probably as much my fault for not reminding / taking him often enough. he is also much more eager to please at nursery whereas at home it turns into a battle of wills in the blink of an eye (as does everything atm).

Ds is getting the hang of the sweetie thing big time, he's had more jelly babies than anythign else today...I feel a bit out of control with it...

Poo'ed in his cot at nap time (didn;t nap) and we had the Dizzy episode again but smeared over everyhwere else as well.

God I feel it's going very pear shaped.

perhaps we need to shout for cod!

HI

had great poo experience this afternoon. i could tell ds was pooing in his pants and thought it wasn't worth risk of trying to get him on the potty when it started leaking all over the floor! If this wasn't bad enough he started getting upset and tried to walk over to me thus spreading it everywhere and narrowly missing DD (15wks) who was on her playmat- he then wanted me to hug him!!!! sorry if tmi. nonetheless he still came out with the "Doesn't matter" line once i'd cleaned him up. Is it more boys than girls that don't mind pooey nappies/pants? ds never minded and still doesn't really but my dd cries when she has a dirty nappy until is is clean and she is only tiny. Frayedknot, I've had the poo smeared over cot experience too, apparently its not all that unusual. They think their poo is great until they learn to think of it as dirty from us, DS and I always have to say an emotional goodbye to the poo when we flush the toilet! (when he gets there on time)

I think they just get to the dry naps stage themselves, and it can take years of bedwetting esp with boys. At the toddler stage I don't think there is much you can do particularly in this kind of weather when you can't restrict their liquid intake. just stick a towel or two under him
I have given up on DS for the last few days, he has spent most of it in trunks and in paddling pool (that should probably be piddling pool) and has just weeed in pool/garden all the time, when i ask if he wants to go to the toilet, he just says "want to wee in grass" typical man then!

Hi everyone

Gladbag - I am running into same problems re poos - have figured out that he only feels comfortable doing them standing up. From what I have heard this is quite common.

iwearflairs - I gather than you wait for them to start having dry nappies for naps before taking them out of them. Unless they insist on not wearing them...

Re the poo posts - I am sooo glad my ds hasn't done this...yet....however he has now decided HE wants to be the one to put his poo (which usually ends up on the floor) into the toilet which is great fun as he squishes it with the tissue whilst trying to pick it up. Don't want to dampen his enthusiasm though...

Oh yes and we have discovered pull-ups for when we're out of the house - ds thank god views them as pants and still asks to "go toilet" yet at the same time they catch the poo! I would probably be better off going cold turkey in pants but can't take the stress at the moment being heavily pregnant. Hopefully we will get there eventually!