On becoming Mary Poppins... Toddler and newborn support thread #2

[ThePinkNinja]

A place to continue the complaining conversation about the hair pulling days and sleepless nights fun and frolics of life with a toddler and newborn

[Mummy2NJ]

Debbie I could have written this to be honest.
You are not alone, the only thing is people are always too afraid to admitt these things as they are scared of being judged.
This dosnt make you any less of a parent or mean you love your kids any less. You are just going through a rough patch and it will pass
Hang in there you are a super mum and remember things are made worse by the fact that its school holidays. Playgroups are shut, soft plays a full of older kids etc
Things will get back to normal soon
At least thats what I keep telling myself!!

[debbie1412]

Has everybody eloped???

[Haddock73]

Hi everyone, I ave two dc, ds1 is 2 and ds2 is 3.5 weeks old. I'm really struggling and finding everyday a chore. I longed to be on mat leave again when I was back at work from mat leave with ds1, but now I can't wait to go back.

I hate it, and hate myself for feeling this way.

It's exhausting, and all I find myself doing is losing my temper and snapping at ds1 - it makes me s sad as we had a great relationship before. Ds2 seems like a alien to me and. A unable to bond with him.

When does it be better?

Started a thread in parenting about this and got a lot of support and words of encouragement, but it's not getting any better.

Last night I lost it and was on the verge f walking out. Didn't hel that husband was out drinking leaving me to do everything.

I dread life at the moment and feel very bleak.

[Mummy2NJ]

Hi haddock,
Your DS2 is still very small. Tiredness and sleep deprevation can be torture and are playing a big role in the way you are feeling right now.
My advise would be
Dont be too hard on yourself
I'm sure you are doing the best you can
At the moment you should still be on survival mode (whatever works at that moment)
Try and be around people I used to find that bring out and about helped loads, toddler groups, softplay, park, friends houses, having friends over .

My two are now
2.5yrs
11months
It really does get easier as they start enjoying the same things and they are now on the same routine
Be strong YOU CAN DO IT!!

[LadyFlumpalot]

Hello can I join you? DS is 2.9 and DD is 4 days old. I'm feeling a bit down as DS has completely gone off me. He is fine with DH and even fine with the baby but he has just gone totally cold with me. Even asked me where his mummy has gone.

I'm trying hard to spend time just him and me when DD is asleep but he just tells me to go away.

It's making me quite sad, please tell me he will come round soon?

[debbie1412]

Lady it took my son 9 weeks to be my friend again. It did bloody hurt. His feathers have been russled that's all. 11 months in They love each other dearly x

[Wibblypiglikesbananas]

Just read this through with interest. DD has turned into a nightmare since we brought DS home from hospital two weeks ago. There is a 25 month age gap. I've been looking through her 2nd birthday pics and it's like she was a different child just a few weeks back before DS arrived - happy, playful, outgoing. Now she tantrums, has been refusing food (and she likes her food!), won't go to bed, tries to climb out of the bath - basically won't enjoy anything she used to love.

My feelings range from extreme guilt that we've rocked her little cosy world to anger/annoyance that we can't do anything without some kind of drama. It doesn't help that I can't pick her up due to emergency c-section scarring. Anyway, would be nice to hear success stories or if anyone else is in the same boat!