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Mum of 2, DS1 nearly 4yo and DD2 almost 11 weeks. I hope to find here advices from experienced mums so that I can avoid mistakes... I made some with DS1 and my life sometimes is hell, it is hard to unlearn wrong behaviour, so hard.
At the time being, DD2 is a very sweet baby, she is easy to decipher, cries are always related to some kind of discomfort and I managed to learn what they mean, or almost. Only one issue with her ATM is that she rejects bottle feeding even with expressed milk. I'd like to be able to escape a bit from the house to get a haircut or a facial. And I am sure DH would like to feed her sometimes too.
I struggle a bit more with DS1, who is usually a good boy, energetic, happy and loving. But after school, getting him to take his bath is a battle and falling and staying asleep all night are big issues. The problems did exist before but now with the recent arrival of his sister, the intensity has increased. Or maybe they are the same but to me they seem bigger and need to be addressed quickly so that I can look after both without raising my voice.
All advice are welcome. I need help here.

Also I'd like to invite all the graduates from the Fantastic 40+ Mums to be thread to join. You have been truly fantastic and so supportive during my pg. I hope to be able to keep on sharing with you this wonderful parenting adventure.

Goat. Sounds bliss. Chill out and enjoy. Nails are jade green. Amazing how good little things make us feel. I am going out today to have lunch with a friend after the dentist. So excited cant decide what to eat but will defo have pudding.

Fjord ! Great to have you back, you were missed.

More later folks , seems baby s fancies some fire sleep :)

Ladies I have a few questions that you all can help me with. Sorry one is gross. Sorry if you are having breakfast.
1, what does good yellow poo smell like? It smells of wheat to me?

1. When u put your baby on your chest do the cry and go nuts for two mins even if they are tired yawning not over tired?

1. When you put baby on the boob and they latch on and drink fast then slow down they come off the nipple then fuss like mad as they cant latch on sucking the nipple in and fussing. Seems like he can't latch back on so well as nipple is softer any tips?

More, not fire, obviously

Just a really quick one to say Welcome back Fjord ! Very glad to hear from you and little girl.
I m running to the hair dresser now, will try to catch up later, final countdown for packing !!! Wish me luck, Ladies !

Good luck packing and hope u like your new hair do! !!

bbd good luck with packing, and I look forward to hearing how the hair is!

lrm BG does tend to go a bit nuts on my chest, then will suddenly cut out mid-wail. I look down and he is blotto!
re latch - I got told to stick hand under the boob right against the ribs, thumb poitning up and fingers flag, hoik it up and sort of squish it by making my hand into a c-shape. Then guiding nipple into bg's mouth.

Have a nice day all!

Fingers flat, not flag...

Yay fjord is back and ok, amazing how you can worry about people you haven't met In RL. Sorry about all the weight shite. I had a lot of that with DD who was always in the red zone and she is now the tallest in her class. Also had lots of BF problems but ended up exclusive in the end with the help of drugs to stimulate my milk supply which make your tits even bigger so maybe not for you! anyway lovely to have you back.

Hp good luck with the packing, London is calling.

LRM not sure I have the order of your questions right.

Midge normally likes being over the shoulder and doesn't always cry.

I find tweaking my nipple a bit helps him relatch but now I don't give any bottles his latch is pretty good anyway.

Oh shit forgot the last question. Going to hit the shops today beat go be productive.

And yes pooh smells a bit like wheat. It is gross.

midget I didn't know the drugs make your boobs bigger! [Shock] explains a lot...

bbd which bit of northwest London do you live in?

Fjord, if BF is a nightmare for you and your baby, don't feel guilty to switch to bottle, in the end, if you are less tired and happy, baby will too.
Goat, I am in West Hampstead, are you nearby ?

Hair dye is beautiful, very black, which is my natural colour, with navy blue reflection under the light, my first dye actually, 35 minutes, no strong smell, and about £15. Plus my hairdresser knows how to cut. When it grows, I don't look like I need urgently a haircut. So I can afford to wait a few months befre going back !!! Which is brilliant, otherwise a Eurostar return on top of the cut cost, it would be a very expensive haircut....

Feeding time, will be back later

bbd I am in Uxbridge so not too far away!
Had a nice day today. In the music class the teacher gave us silly duck hats to put on. BG took one look at me and actually laughed! We then went for lunch with a friend, then came home and made the first step of arancello for Xmas pressies. BG is currently lying on his play mat doing a lying down disco.
Hope you all had ok days too...

Just dropping in for a quick hi. Thanks all for asking after my bro. He is at home now, and getting back to his usual, very naughty self which is good. He never ceases to amaze me - 10% of people with that particular haemorrage die immediately. Twenty years ago he made a miraculous recovery from a brain tumour.

Still, this thread is about our babies!! I have been pretty quiet as poppet has been really poorly requiring a trip to A&E in ambulance. He is fine now, so no need to worry. He was having probs breathing on Weds, so I phoned NHS Direct and ended up with a Paramedic and then Amulance crew... It took them a while to diagnose prob. When they did eventually they decided it was a severe case of tonsilitis. This was constricting his airways. I am so cross with my surgery as I tried to get an appointment on Tues so they gave me a phone consultation with an appt today if things didn't improve. [bsad] I wish I had pushed more as he was really poorly then and I feel I was fobbed off, prob as I was pretty poorly myself. Feel doc was pretty dismissive today.

Gosh, I am being v self-centred on thread at mo. I hope I can find some more time to catch up with you all properly. Didn't mean this post to be as long. Guess I needed a bit of a purge.

Love and hugs to all. [bgrin]FF xx (had to use St Andrew's emoticons as DH Scottish and DS has a Scottish name. Och eye the noo, and all that.)

Bloody hell FF what a shit time you have been having. I want to bear hug you.

Master midge having 2 hour feeds and just did a babygro soaking pooh. The little swine I am knackered....

ff that's dwreadful. hope baby

Sorry damn left handed typing skills . hope baby ff doing better x

fjord you have really been through the mill too. bf is wonderful, exhausting, magic, impossible etc. how can something so natural be so difficult for most of us?

midget i feel your pain. after a miraculous Thursday night of 8 hours sleep (in 3 goes) last evening and night back to 1-2 hourly feeds. nooooo! Am barely functioning so hoping we might nap in a minute. Not sure if still a reaction to jabs, or yet anothergrowth spurt

goat i want to live in your creative house of cooking and music :) loved your getting together story, lovely.

LRM 1. Smells not nice but not awful, i think smells beer, dp thinks like mustard and ham sandwiches, but i think he is doing on visual cues.

1. Don't have that that one often
2. Yes, i posted about this in bf section and asked around in rl. might be wind, or i think more likely, either baby not getting milk fast enough and encouraging milk production, or sometimes theres a second let down. does it feel like any of these?

blueblack hair sounds lovely!

Ps what's everyone playing to their babies this week? I've just setup ipod speakers and we are rocking to john prine fair and square, think she likes it!

ff how scary for you. Hope things are settling down for both you and baby ff.

midget are you managing to catch up on some sleep today? And you, seaside ?

This week's music of mum's choice is Michael McGoldrick. Fabulous Irish trad flautist. John Joe Kelly plays bodhran and he is GOD...

Ooh goat i googled and we both like that!

Fjord i too am suffering from permanent velcro baby. driving me a bit nuts. i love being with her, but i can't get anything done ever. sling of some help but only for some things, can't really bend with her in it and kills my back. please grow to like your bouncy chair, baby seaside!

Oh yes to Velcro baby, especially at the mo when he is not well. Didn't get anything done this afternoon. Except sit on the sofa and sort emails etc and watch Superman

yes, i have a mournful velcro baby wimpering in my sling - madly just tried to make myself a sandwich ... now retreating to sofa

Evening Velcro ladies. Babymonkey is the same. Cant bend down with him in the sling. Crys like mad when he does go in. I think he would happily live on my chest!

Music for the week has been a Japanese animation sound track to the film howls moving castle. Classical.

Well today we got the christmas tree up and house decorated. Wrapped dylan's presents and under the tree. Start cards next week. Nearly done all the shopping.
Went into the village for a walk and had lunch. So good day and got a lay in for two hours as dp had babymonkey on his chest so extra sleep

lrm cant believe how much you have got done today making sandwich and having shower remain my only achievements. baby s just nodded off on my lap after nearly 5 hours solid feeding, interspersed with crying!! bloody injections, i really think they are to blame after googling. its getting me down today - I feel like we will never get our house in any kind of order.

Bythesea. Did not do it all on my own Dp helped plus after we went for lunch he slept in his car seat for an hour and a half. I may swap out his basket for it. His sleep has been hit and miss this week since I introduced naps it's gone tits up. He yawns and yawns try to put him down and he goes nuts. Night time after a feed he drops to sleep on me and goes in his basket fine. Need for him to nap so will continue. Does anyone else feel naps are tits up any ideas to improve my situation. He sleeps in thr sling sometimes but it hurts my back and he does get pissed when I first put him in it.