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Mum of 2, DS1 nearly 4yo and DD2 almost 11 weeks. I hope to find here advices from experienced mums so that I can avoid mistakes... I made some with DS1 and my life sometimes is hell, it is hard to unlearn wrong behaviour, so hard.
At the time being, DD2 is a very sweet baby, she is easy to decipher, cries are always related to some kind of discomfort and I managed to learn what they mean, or almost. Only one issue with her ATM is that she rejects bottle feeding even with expressed milk. I'd like to be able to escape a bit from the house to get a haircut or a facial. And I am sure DH would like to feed her sometimes too.
I struggle a bit more with DS1, who is usually a good boy, energetic, happy and loving. But after school, getting him to take his bath is a battle and falling and staying asleep all night are big issues. The problems did exist before but now with the recent arrival of his sister, the intensity has increased. Or maybe they are the same but to me they seem bigger and need to be addressed quickly so that I can look after both without raising my voice.
All advice are welcome. I need help here.

Also I'd like to invite all the graduates from the Fantastic 40+ Mums to be thread to join. You have been truly fantastic and so supportive during my pg. I hope to be able to keep on sharing with you this wonderful parenting adventure.

lrm that is indeed an impressive list of achievements! We still don't have naps particularly sorted, but BG has started going down on my bed for his morning nap. I make a little nest and he sleeps there for a it half an hour. The afternoon nap, however, must still be on me, and woe betide any idea of nighttime sleep if he doesn't have it. Bah. Sling, he creates something amazing for about one minute when first put in, then is asleep by the time we reach the corner of the street. Nighttime we are still in the car seat to help keep him a bit more upright. Currently we are snot central (sorry tmi).
seaside hang in there. Remember the newborn stage with prems just goes on forever. There will be light at the end of the tunnel. We are four and a half months actual and there is definite improvement, especially when I look back. There is a little bit of regression at the moment because he is ill and just wants mummy, but I can see the difference. I too thought we would never get here! I am sure it will not be plain sailing but just the realisation for example see above, that he will nap on the bed for a bit, that some nights we are now feeding only twice, means I can stick it out! Also we went to our music class n Friday and for the first time he was really aware of everything going on, didn't cry for a feed, kept his eyes open. Laughed at my silly hat, actually laughed. It was lovely. Also loves it when I blow on his feet and tickle them. Silly things like this make it worthwhile...

Ahhhhhhh. Leaking nappies
disturbing his sleep driving me nuts this week and they are psmpers.
I need a toblelrone or a twix not fussy which oh and a big mug of tea. Ewan is on over time this evening bless his red belly

Goat. How is snooty goat. Bless. Sending hugs x
Car seat is a goof idea when they have a cold. Every bugger is banned from my house who has a cold so dont want him to get it again. Everyone I know seems to have it.
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News flash! News flash! Read all about it!

I am red haired again... And red toe nailed... And dehaired...

I feel much much more human.

Goat. Sounds fab! Honey so pleased for ya. My red hair is flecked with grey hair dye still in the box.
Have had a very stressful baby last few days trying to put in place with nap routine. All gone tits up. He was happy last week a sleep on me now he is miserable me trying to get him to nap when he yawns. Stupid fucking books making me go nuts. So will go with happy baby sleeping on me in the morning try for a nap at lunch and then if not he can rest on me. Walk at 3 for nap in the pram. I need to chill out keep worrying about him only feeding for 20 mins. How long he sleeps naps colour of his shits! Mental mummy stops and relax mummy needs to happen. He will sleep if I put him down if not on me or a air filled walk. Stressy baby stressy mum! -

Vq how u feeling. ?

lrm baby books are great for toasting marshmallows over as they burn gently on the bonfire... Not much else though!

Welcome to mammoth feeding sessions. Nearly feeding every hour and half since 6. My boobs feel like a hard worked hooker.
Plus side skin has never been so soft. Extra moisturized this evening. Couldn't be arsed to brush my hair each time shocking I know.
Little fella has found his thumb and is going to be right handed we think. Must be a lot going on in that developing brain of his at eight weeks.

goat get you being all gorgeous, you have died my hair as too vain to admit grey but toe nails not been done in 7 weeks (slummy mummy).

lrm goat is right, burn the books. Only time I was out of control with dd1 was when I was using a book. Second time I don't mind picking and choosing what I want from books but first time round it just did my head in.

I have mastitis. Feel like death. Arse.

midget you are really in the wars at the moment! make sure boobs are empty... (I got it because prem baby couldn't empty boobs enough)

lrm go with the flow... When he no longer sleeps on you you will miss it! I have to admit to allowing him a sneaky nap on me at times just cause I want that lovely squidgy cuddliness... Especially now he actually has some chub on him and isn't a bag of bones! But he often now chooses not to sleep on me even during the day. Entirely baby led. ( which I always thought I wouldn't be)

Horrible weather today. Might stay in and try making the fudge I didn't get to make last week. Yesterday was beautiful. Went for a crisp walk in park, hot choc in hand...

Midget. Shit sorry hope it clears up very quickly. I bet it is painful. You have had it rough so sending mega hugs x
I have given the books and Google a miss u r right done my fucking sorry swears but made us worse why is this why is that. Last night he cried after a feed and put him down dp said what do we do! I said I have no clue and we laughed. It is better to chill out started to get to us debating this and that started to get on each others nerves mainly me I am a mini witch last two weeks so stuff this chilled out today feel better relaxed
Baby monkey got first jabs Tuesday. Bless h. Extra cuddles today and after. I may need a chocolate treat

I want fudge now And hot chocolate.

Fudge still not made. Was about to start when BG morphed back into baby koala. To be fair, breathing is still a bit tricky for the poor thing.

Bless baby goat. Get well soon. X

Miracle today got baby monkey to sleep for 49 mins. Yes I timed him. Had lunch with out Velcro baby and he did not have a head covered in crumbs. I put him down after a feed he did tell me on and off for fifteen mins. U suck mummy I want cuddles on u not stupid basket ''!!!

J been in hospital. Home now. Bronchiolitis. Not convinced he is well enough to be home. Can take him back if concerned, but not that easy with two other kids and snow. Grr.

Vq. Good lord honey. Hope for a speedy recovery. I really feel for u. Can u get friends and family to support u for a couple of weeks to lighten your load? Sending you a massive hug and a big glass of wine xxx

vq so sorry. All the best for a speedy recovery, poor little thing. And adding cookies to lrm's glass of wine for you.

DH has taken the week off and mum is doing nursery run. I wish I had an oxygen monitor and suction at home. Poor little mite. I have been in bits as he was really struggling to breathe. I guess I have to trust the medics that he will be ok. It follows a clear pattern apparently and today is the worst. Should improve soon. Thanks for gifts and support x funny to think I used to nurse kids. It is so different when it is your own baby.

VQ, hope baby J feels better soon. I hate winter and its illnesses. Is he having antibiotics or/and physio ? How about you ? Stay strong, Mummy.

It is a virus so no antibiotic would work. Sometimes he sounds so peaceful, then the cough starts and you think he is going to expire. He is asleep in cot and muggins is on the floor. He has a movement monitor so I am gonna try to sleep now.

Oh VQ, wish you and baby J a peaceful night.

vq hope you are getting some nice sleep.
bbd how did the move go?
I have bursitis in the knee apparently the type suffered either by athletes or fat middle-aged women. Hmm, I wonder which category I fit?... Last time I got this climbing mountains in Cuba (so much more glamorous than life now!) now I can't climb stairs. DH is on bottle duty while I await him sitting in bed regally.

Goat sounds painful. I have arthritis in both my knees. Mine is due to over doing it ay the gym and plus middle aged and aggregated by extra four stone baby weight. Quite an effort getting the little fella up the stairs so I sympathise with you. Argos are delivering my cross trainer in the morning. God help me get motivated and it not be a dust trap. Have had a shite sleep while baby monkey has his peacefully. Bloody nightmare kept me up.
Now awake and thinking of vq and hoping little one is ok and sleeping peacefully

Bbh. Hope u have settled back into London ok and the move was easy for the little ones ?

Midget. How r u doing? Hope the pain has cleared for you and u master midget are ok?

Sending big hugs to everyone and a glass of wine and fudge and soft pillow to relax your head on xxxxxxxxxcx

Baby monkey woke at 4 so dp had him on his chest. Baby went to sleep and woke screaming. Scared the shit out of both of us. Not his usually I am tired bored cry but a terrified cry. He must have had a nightmare too! Bless him. Giving him a feed to relax him I told him eArlier if he is not a good boy and sleep for mummy Santa won't come.

VQ so sorry j Is so poorly. You must be demented with worry. I know it is tricky with the girls but if you feel discharged too early then go back in. As I can do nothing practical to help have

I think I am on the mend a little. 2 days of sweating in bed, massaging and constant feeding. Typically the baby has slept well and I've had to wake him to Empty my poor throbbing boob. Had this several times with DD, it is the work of the devil.

Very impressed with the cross trainer lrm especially if you use it

Goat my DH also running around getting everything for me whilst I lay on bed - the only positive thing from mastitis!

Right best go before I wake up too much.