Does anyone know how I can get a night nurse. Please help.

[melsy]

I am at the end of my tether.I have no one to help , as DH at work and mum has house full with ill father and younger sister & MIL just comes to VISIT and have TEA for F* sake and conveniently not available to help.

I cannot cope with no sleep anymore and baby just doesnt sleep long enough to have a sleep/rest during the day. I just sit sobbing every day and at night have to look after 6wk old DD who wont sleep past 3:00am! Not fair to get DH up to take over as he drives far to work every day and having difficult time with work.

This has been going on for 3 weeks now.Suffering real bad as still havent recovered from awful birth. Please any suggestions , I live in North London, Enfield way.

Hi melsy, I've just caught up with your thread, I live near the tesco, in ponders end. my youngest is 15months old, how close are you to me? I get bored very quickly, and my son has not slept through the night since he was born, he is a heart baby, and he had open heart surgery in february this year. I think we should get together, I have learnt to live on a few hours sleep a night. Big hugs.

I've had treatment like this from DH melsy, so you're not alone. I think parentcraft classes should be changed to Partnercraft, for H's to attend in order to learn how to behave like grown human beings in the immediate aftermath of new fatherhood. I don't know what happens to them but they seem totally incapable of caring. (I suppose I ought to change that to SOME, just in case a person with dangly bits who didn't act like this in the postnatal period is reading).

Survivor - that would be nice , we could meet in Enfield town for a hot choc!!! There is that new Costa cofee?? Oh your poor little baba, & u, how have u coped???

melsy - have you thought of massage - for ds/dd not you!
afew friends of mine swear by it for calmin baby
my area do classes on it or i got bought a v good book
let me know if you are interested as i have more details

We have done pretty well, so far! I'm mum to 3boys, 9,7, and the baby. But don't worry about that right now, we have to sort you out first. Let me know when you would like to go out, if you like I will pick you up. Don't know where the costa coffee is? Probably right under my nose. Let me know. Bigs hugs xxxx

Hi melsy are you still there?

Hi melsy, where are you? I am not a stalker, I promise!

Hi survivour, melsy posted here yesterday, just so that you don't worry too much!

Thank you pie! I'LL try an get hold of her one way or another.

I am still here and smiling now!!!! I DID IT , withought any help from a nurse or nanny (does dh count!!) and really enjoying it now. DD is now 14 weeks, I think (lost count!!).

Please tell me this will last and I will continue to be strong and capable???
Whats the saying "dont count your chickens", I just have to tell someone how different and calm I feel.

Really glad for you melsy, you give me hope!
Stay strong girl - 30 years from now you could be helping your DD and telling her how horrendous her first few weeks were!

I love to visualise that moment all the time lisa78. Thank you. Have you been having a bad time of it too?????