help me find a good, sharp, put-down to answer these horrible people

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I AM SICK FED UP of people saying to me (but more to dh)

"dont you want to try for a boy?"

and to me

"does dh not want a boy?"

WE ARE QUITE HAPPY WITH OUR 2 GIRLS thanks very much

dh got upset the other day when his childless friend said "i only want a boy" "are you not disappointed you dont have a son?" (this man and his wife are ttc are the moment, god forbid they have a daughter

i need a good answer to people when they say these horrible things

i usually just end up giving them death-looks and daggers, but cant think of what to say

I've re-read this thread and I'm now feeling a bit humbled that I hadn't acknowledged that it might be a sore point for some if they have miscarried etc! I have a friend who had a still born girl and now has two boys, she would definitely be distressed if someone asked her where her girl was

Fact remains though - whilst I wouldn't say something (potentially) insensitive like this to someone else, I do believe that in most cases it isn't worth getting worked up about. People say things without thinking and don't necessarily deserve a cutting rebuke.

Go on - somebody have a pop at me

have to say it never bothers me - I have 2 boys and am quite often asked if I'm going to try for a girl - no actually - my stock answers vary from

good lord no - two seems like too many already

I'm far too old now

Ive had 2 c-sections - -not going through that again

all of which happens to be true

hmc yes I agree but you do have one of each, the mythical 'perfect pair' so enamoured of MILs everywhere

Oh Aloha, I hope that's not me

Personally, Enid, I would go in all guns blazing saying 'well, obviously I'm hoping for another girl'. But then having two girls already I think three little girls must be the most fabulous thing around. I'm not boy-bashing, I'm just unimaginative!

Ah but Enid, they have also been derided by some mumsnetters as the "boring perfect pigeon pair - one of each" (I think the phrase went something like that on a thread not too long ago)

I almost feel duty bound to have a 3rd to demonstrate that I wasn't hanging out for this combination!

Congrats on your pregnancy btw - incidentally, are you hoping for a boy this time? ---just joking!

My sis had 3 boys and desperatley wanted a girl for the 3rd one

A couple of years later....when I was preggers I really wanted DTs to be boys and they were but all the family wanted them to be girls

haven't read al the responses but I love Enid's - it's up to the sweet Lord Jesus. You could always say that in actual fact you're kind of hoping for a puppy.

Unfortunately it is the same with boys NP. I have 2 boys and when I found out the sex of DS2 at my 20 week scan other people were disappointed that he wasn't a girl. I didn't give a jot what he was, I was just pleased to be having a healthy baby. If I want to play with girls I can 'borrow' my nieces for a bit! And on the same note, my brother and SIL have 2 girls and my Sil and I were pg at the same time due 2 weeks apart, people actually joked that we could swap babies so we both had one of each!

My aunt and uncle had triplets. And when people would ask him what they were, he'd say "one of each".

hatstand - this happened with my sister. Mum was preggers with my brother and was asking us girls if we would like a brother or sister. Sis (not quite understanding there wasn't a choice) said, 'can I have a litter of Siamese kittens?'

It was 20 years ago and I still PMSL

Just be glad you don't live in rural Kenya. The wife in the family I lived with had seven sons. Her husband had insisted that they keep on having more children because he wanted to have a daughter so much. She called it a day at seven, however.

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All those who make such crass comments should read a recent marie claire article:

In India, tha lack of baby girls is becoming a significant problem. In total, there is a deficit of 36 million girls in the population, and it's growing. Because of the dowry system (made illegal in 1960 but still a strong tradition) women there regularly pay for scans at private clinics, and if it's a girl they aport. Also many cases of female infanticitde and orphanages full of unwanted baby girls, etc.....

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yy cod not crime of century

but irritating none the less

do you never get comments about having a girl? I bet you do. It doesnt really bother me tbh but I can understand some people getting stressed by it.

Comment from my mother on Sunday (I'm due DBno2 in January) well I don't mind you having another girl as I know you will go for number 3 (after being shocked I would even consider anything other than the regulation 2) thanks mum thats great YOU don't mind another girl, what if no3 is a girl as well will we have her adopted. She then proceed to tell DP that a boy and a girl is considered a "gentlemans family" WTF???!!!!

We don't know what sex this one is although we are having a private scan to find out this weekend mainly because we are really nosy and want to sort out names/bedrooms etc in our heads first. I think it's a girl and I'm delighted same as I would be delighted having a boy. I truly do not care.

I hate other people commenting on the sex of children, winds me right up!!!!

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the link is that they are echoing a sentiment that can lead to infanticide in other countries and devaluing girls...

Before I had ds3 I desparately wanted a girl. It wasn't until I was actually PG that it dawned on me that it could be a boy. Now I wouldn't mind either....not that I can imagine ever having any more.

People always say to me about wanting/trying for a girl and I can honestly say it doesn't bother me in the slightest.

At least I'll never have to pay for a wedding

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how about just a plain old "are you going to try for a nice looking child next?"