help me find a good, sharp, put-down to answer these horrible people

[nailpolish]

I AM SICK FED UP of people saying to me (but more to dh)

"dont you want to try for a boy?"

and to me

"does dh not want a boy?"

WE ARE QUITE HAPPY WITH OUR 2 GIRLS thanks very much

dh got upset the other day when his childless friend said "i only want a boy" "are you not disappointed you dont have a son?" (this man and his wife are ttc are the moment, god forbid they have a daughter

i need a good answer to people when they say these horrible things

i usually just end up giving them death-looks and daggers, but cant think of what to say

How about

"Nope, I'm not that shallow"

ask childless friend if they have a girl are they planning to have her adopted.

"oh goodness no! Boys are so much trouble. All that agression and rudeness. Give me girls anyday."

Or a simple "no, f-off."

or no - boys spending their first few months weeing all over you - couldn't be doing with that

I've got three boys and last year when DS3 was a teeny baby we were all sitting in the cafe at John Lewis when some old witch said to me "Three boys! So where's your girl then?" On the subsequent mumsnet thread I started, I got many many excellent suggestions for put-downs, the best being: "Oh, we left our girls out on a hillside to die so we could have some boys instead." I'll see if I can find the thread for you - there were some great ones.

ive said F off before

fgs, wait till you are actually pg with no 3 and you have 2 girls

its obscene how people's tongues are hanging out hoping I have a boy (including poor old dh)

enid

FIL - "at least XXX (dh's brother) has a boy to carry on the family name"

shut up or ill throttle you

btw I say 'well it would be nice but I really don't mind'

or if I am feeling witchly

'well I've had a miscarriage in the past so actually I'll be overjoyed whatever this baby is, as long as it is healthy'

dh says I should say (fervently, casting eyes to heaven) 'its up to the sweet lord jesus' and watch them move away quickly

My dad got a lot of the same thing having us two girls. He had 3 brothers and did NOT like little boys, so was happy having two girls.

He would tell people, 'What? A boy when I'm this close to having a harem?' or 'I'm surrounded by beautiful ladies, you're just jealous.' or 'What good are boys for? They just go and piss off with the first piece of a&^ they come across.'

In addition to his two daughters, my dad now has 3 granddaughters.

We're already getting comments about this baby (we don't know its gender), as we have a little girl. People say, 'Bet you're hoping for a wee laddie this time' or 'Are you hoping for a boy?'

Um, no, a live child is what we're hoping for.

enid

you must be driven mad

darn it, can't find it - sorry.

As if boys carry on the family name! What an archaic notion! What if he never marries? What if he decides he never wants kids? What if his wife keeps her surname and - as happens in the States sometimes - they decide to give the kids HER name?

i try to rise above it nailpolish. but I do feel under pressure slightly - there is no doubt there will be head shaking and cluckings of disappointment if I push out another spare girl, poor lamb

When I had dd I used to get fed up with people asking me when I was going to have another, dh's sister actually said to me that she thought it was cruel to have an only child! For all they knew, we might not have been able to have any more! When I did find out I was pregnant, they were the last to be told!

I do find it staggering that people presume to interfere with your life!

EXACTLY expat

ungrateful pig doesnt even know how lucky he is, having 3 grandchildren (boy top, girls a close second) aarrgghh

enid, when are you due? i am going to watch the birth announcements very closely

One of my friends who has two daughters is always saying how awful it must be to have boys (um, I have a boy!). But I don't let it bother me, it's about them not you remember.
If you want to be provocative back you could always says, 'A boy? Ugh no!' with a big shudder.

It's such an awful thing to say to someone, especially when you don't know if they've suffered losses in the past, had fertility problems, maybe even have a genetic disease they don't want to pass on to a male child, etc.

When people ask me if I am going to have another baby brother or sister for DD, I say ' I can't, my womb has shrivelled and my eggs have dried up'

not for aggggggggeeeeeeeeeeeeeeees, April/May

do parents of boys get this?

i still like toothys "no im not that shallow"

gingerbear

I'll find out before xmas at my 20 week scan though, just to head off any massive disappointment (dh)

nailpolish I think they do.

I have a friend who has 3 boys and is currnetly pg with no 4 (due Nov). She says that everyone is hoping she has a girl (she secretly tells me that she is too although she knows when it is born she won't mind)

Man, ginger, as the 2nd child, I'm glad I wasn't born just so my sister could have a sibling, but b/c I was a human being my parents wanted in their lives.

That's an awful thing to tell people, too. I mean, what if they can't have any more children, for one reason or another?