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help me find a good, sharp, put-down to answer these horrible people

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nailpolish · 27/09/2005 11:05

I AM SICK FED UP of people saying to me (but more to dh)

"dont you want to try for a boy?"

and to me

"does dh not want a boy?"

WE ARE QUITE HAPPY WITH OUR 2 GIRLS thanks very much

dh got upset the other day when his childless friend said "i only want a boy" "are you not disappointed you dont have a son?" (this man and his wife are ttc are the moment, god forbid they have a daughter

i need a good answer to people when they say these horrible things

i usually just end up giving them death-looks and daggers, but cant think of what to say

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nailpolish · 27/09/2005 11:20

ginge! there is no answer to that! do they run away?

enid that long? are you going ot find out? (and then not tell anyone)

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SoupDragon · 27/09/2005 11:21

There's another thread here but not Dinosaur's original!

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nailpolish · 27/09/2005 11:22

when i was pg the 2nd time i secretly wanted another girl but i darent tell anyone cos i knew they would all think i was a freak

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Enid · 27/09/2005 11:22

yes I will try and find out I think

Enid · 27/09/2005 11:23

I wanted another girl as I wanted dd1 to have a sister - I have a brilliant relationship with my own sister. luckily they get on really really well. Now I'd quite like a boy for the change but I seriously dont mind (also I can't think of a single boys name that I like )

expatinscotland · 27/09/2005 11:24

Little girls rock, nailpolish!

DD is a total 'Daddy's girl'. She loves her daddy so much, calls him 'my little Daddy'. He adores her. I love her long ringlets, her feminine ways, the way she sighs.

Of course, I've not been around boys much except my cousins, who always seemed bent of destroying things and making too much noise.

gingerbear · 27/09/2005 11:26

I don't use it on everyone, depends who asks and what mood I am in, but I usually get a tilted head and 'Oh, what a shame'.

It is none of their business.

Even if I was TTC, I wouldn't want to discuss it with anyone else other than my DH, best mate and doctor. I could never post on the TTC threads!

daisy1999 · 27/09/2005 11:27

i would simply say "no" and nothing else, no explanation, nothing.

bonym · 27/09/2005 11:27

Girls are so much nicer .

We have 2 and tbh, whereas I wouldn't have minded a boy 2nd time, dh really wanted another girl. Most of my friends have boys, and although they are lovely, ime girls are much less difficult.

Oh, and who really wants to spend hours on a windswept playing field watching football and/or rugby? (Although I know there is no guarantee that dds won't want to take it up - girls football is a big thing at school!)

gingerbear · 27/09/2005 11:27

Enid - Barry, Larry or Garry. Easy! (mark my words, these Boys names will bne making a fashionable comeback)

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nailpolish · 27/09/2005 11:28

expat

i often spend the day round at my cousins house (she has 2 boys the same age as my dd's) and they are always so rough and loud

dd's just stand staring at them in utter horror, then turn back to their glitter and glue, shaking heads

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Enid · 27/09/2005 11:28

ah come on though lets not start boy bashing

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nailpolish · 27/09/2005 11:29

no. lets not. you are right.

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RainbowWalker · 27/09/2005 11:33

I had 2 boys and had the opposite... funnily enough third time it turned out to be twins, one of each...

What d'ya think everyone said...

"Twins? Ah such hard work...especially with 2 boys already, still at least you got a girl eh? "

yeah right!

RainbowWalker · 27/09/2005 11:36

bonym - my 7 yr old dd is SO girlie but this week has said she wants to start playing football. I admire her gusty decision but can't say I relish the thought...

watch this space... (don't think they kits in pink??)

RainbowWalker · 27/09/2005 11:37

meant gutsy not gusty!

Tatties · 27/09/2005 11:40

I am one of 5 girls and people always assume that there are 5 of us because my parents kept trying for a boy - nope, my mum just likes babies, and in fact I think they are pleased they have girls. Some people would ask me if we were Catholic! How rude - none of anybody's business!!
Before I was pg with DS (my one and only LO so far) I thought I wanted a girl because it was all I had been used to. But when I was pg I can honestly say I didn't mind what I was carrying, you really don't do you when it's your child, and I could think of many wonderful things about having a boy and many wonderful things about having a girl. And now DS is here I wouldn't swap him for the world. If we had another baby i would feel exactly the same as the first time. Yes it would be nice to have a little girl but I also think it is nice to have children of the same sex.
I wonder if the people who impose their views on you are jealous that you have beautiful girls and are trying to make you feel that somehow you are missing out by not having a boy? (Not true IMO) Sorry I can't think of any clever put downs but I think the ones already mentioned here are pretty good. Good luck with whatever you say to them!

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nailpolish · 27/09/2005 11:43

WHY is it always men who say these things? (IMO anyway)

like dh's friend? WHY does he say he only wants a boy? who will belive him if and when he has a girl and he says "oh im not bothered, im just so happy to have a child" when he has been saying FOREVER that he "only wants a boy?

why does this bother me so much? how DARE he

(i said that to him once "how dare you" but he couldnt get it into his thick head)

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nailpolish · 27/09/2005 11:44

that should be IME not IMO

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Gobbledigook · 27/09/2005 11:44

Yes Nailpolish - I have 3 boys and even now people are still asking me if I'm going to try for a girl - what the hell do they mean 'try for a girl'? Like how!?

And no, I'm happy with my boys thank you very much.

I find it really insensitive, especially if people don't know you - how do they know you've not miscarried, had a stillbirth and are actually not in the least bit interested in the gender as long as you get a healthy baby (like most people anyway).

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nailpolish · 27/09/2005 11:45

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aloha · 27/09/2005 11:46

boys are lovely! Just because people are mean and sily there's not need to have a pop at little boys. I have one of each and they are equally adorable.

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nailpolish · 27/09/2005 11:47

i dont want to have a pop at boys i would love a boy too! but its not anyones business

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Bozza · 27/09/2005 11:48

Agree fully with Aloha. But have to add that 1yo DD is much rougher than 4yo DS.

handlemecarefully · 27/09/2005 11:49

Why does this bother any of you - seriously???

I happen to have one boy and one girl currently(currently..I might have a 3rd baby) - but would have been equally happy with 2 girls or 2 boys..however just supposing I had 2 girls and someone was to ask me "Aren't you just dying to have a boy next time" , I'd probably say quite calmly "No, not really"....and tbh a question like that would not bother me in the least......aren't there more important things to get worked up about?

I'm sure you lot are shortening your lives

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