Active discussions

Are your children’s vaccines up to date?

Set a reminder

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Parenting

For free parenting resources please check out the Early Years Alliance's Family Corner.

Original poster

I can't fucking do this anymore

148 replies

nickypomtimes · 15/11/2010 13:16

Fucking ds2. I am sat here in tears and shaking with frustration.
He is only 6 mths old.

It has been shit from the start - reflux.

I get fuck all sleep.

I don;t think he has reflux anymore tbh.4

I sleep with him in my arms becasue it is the onkly way to get sleep at all.

I cant get him to natoday.

I am so fucking frustrated with him.

I am neglecting ds, who is a nightmare too. He is 4 and an obnoxious little shit at times.

My liofe is fucked.,

I hate being their Mum.

OP posts:
Are your children’s vaccines up to date?
Set a reminder
Original poster
nickypomtimes · 15/11/2010 13:17

Dh and my Mum are basicallt raising ds1. btw.

OP posts:
Original poster
nickypomtimes · 15/11/2010 13:18

I feel utterly trapped.
I haven't slept in 6 mths.
My ils are coming soon too and they are fuckiong bastard cunt arsewipe fuckers.

OP posts:
CarGirl · 15/11/2010 13:18

Have you tried putting him in a back pack?

Interested in this thread?

Then you might like threads about these subjects:

Families General parenting
winnybella · 15/11/2010 13:19

Sympathies, it's really tough, isn't it.

DS1 will be a nightmare as it's his right ar 4 plus he's probably still unsettles by ds2's arrival.

Are you bf? Have you got a dp to take care of ds 2 at night?

Original poster
nickypomtimes · 15/11/2010 13:19

Yes
I try everything
I am so fucking tireed

OP posts:
CarGirl · 15/11/2010 13:19

eek, where is your dh now?

Original poster
nickypomtimes · 15/11/2010 13:20

I am bfing yes.

Dh no good at night. Not worth the aggrevation of geting him up

OP posts:
Original poster
nickypomtimes · 15/11/2010 13:20

Dh at ework

My mum downstaris with ds1

OP posts:
meltedmarsbars · 15/11/2010 13:20

Sad Poor you!

It will get better, you know that, don't you? At 6 months you can still blame it on the Hormones. We are not all domestic goddesses. Raising babies can be hard work.

winnybella · 15/11/2010 13:20

x-post. Ok, that's good that you've got dh and mum to help. Why don't you concentrate on ds2 and then few times a week leave him with dh or mum so you can take ds2 to the park, cinema or just play a board game or whatever- just to spend some time with him?

Original poster
nickypomtimes · 15/11/2010 13:21

I feel like sucha failure.
I cannpt look after my kids.

OP posts:
winnybella · 15/11/2010 13:21

Ok, if you're bf and co-sleeping- won't he just sleep next to you and latch on and off?

Original poster
nickypomtimes · 15/11/2010 13:21

I should be able to care for 2 kids.

Most people manage.

I can't.

OP posts:
Tw1nkle · 15/11/2010 13:22

You probably have, but have you tried 'controlled crying' and calpol?

Original poster
nickypomtimes · 15/11/2010 13:22

Latching on and off, yes, that is fine, but it is the crying like he is on fire that keeps me up all night,

OP posts:
HuwEdwards · 15/11/2010 13:22

You can do it and you will Smile
But, get yourself to the docs for help, before pnd sets in (if it hasn't already). You can't do all this without some more help.

CarGirl · 15/11/2010 13:22

My dc3 had silent reflux, I went back to work to have a break from her Blush.

Things that really helped was putting her onto bottles as it got the gaviscon into her a million times easier. Dh dealing with her in the evenings whilst I dealt with the other 2.

About a year old she started napping during the day.

Sorry not much help.

Original poster
nickypomtimes · 15/11/2010 13:23

Calpol yes.

Controlled crying - no way. Not for me. I was left to crya nd it totally fucked me up, but that;s another thread.

OP posts:
The3Bears · 15/11/2010 13:23

It does get better I had days with ds where I just felt trapped and he was a genrally good baby.
I found just going out for a big walk with ds in his pram everyday really helped, I know it seems like more work and you cant really be bothered to go out but when you do ds2 will sleep better and you should feel abit more normal :) hth

winnybella · 15/11/2010 13:23

Nah, don't feel like a failure. When DD was born and she bf every 2 hrs for first 6 months of her life and I didn't get much sleep, I was feeling really down most of the time. DS didn't really get to spend much time with me, tbh.

Now she's 21 mo, we can all spend time together, they adore each other, it's sooo much easier.

Original poster
nickypomtimes · 15/11/2010 13:24

pnd SETR in a whole back.

GP useless fucker/

OP posts:
Original poster
nickypomtimes · 15/11/2010 13:25

I can't stop crying.

Ds1 ia awful.

I donn't even like him much atm. He is a little bugger. I do love him though.

OP posts:
PussinJimmyChoos · 15/11/2010 13:25

Do the doctors have any idea what is causing his pain? I'm assuming you have tried the whole cutting out dairy, wheat etc thing?

I am just wondering if its worth pushing for more investigations?

You are not a shit mum. 6 mths of hardly any sleep is torture...DS had reflux and it was awful

Original poster
nickypomtimes · 15/11/2010 13:26

have to go for a minute.

thanks for talking.

be back ina minute.

please keep talking to me. it does help.

OP posts:
lljkk · 15/11/2010 13:26

How much do you get out, NPT. Toddler groups or soft play or seeing friends, meandering around the park etc? You need those things to stay sane.

Sympathies, my 2yo is driving me completely INSANE today. It's a good job I already ordered his Xmas present or he and the other DC would be getting absolutely NOTHING.