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help me with my housing situation please!!!!!!!!

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sparklymieow · 02/06/2005 14:47

Some of you will have read my threads on my neighbours but we are pushing to get moved, having the housing manager coming out tomorrow and I want to get out of here. My SIL is in Bolton and I have expressed an inerested in 2 houses up there. Homeless won't help because the police can't give me a letter, council want to me to start the eviction process (ie complain and get them to sort it out or face eviction) but I can't do that as I know it will make things worse. Now I need some help to get us moved, I have 2 disabled kids and they can't live like this, and I have to go out a lot for appointments etc and its so scary going out. Please help me.

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sparklymieow · 09/06/2005 22:03

The SW said they are trying to find something. I think the housing manager saw how big and fearful they are and realised what we were saying. She then said that she would be coming out on monday. She said that she should have asked me to go out and ask them to move the car, and then the could have witnessed what they done, glad she didn't.

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hub2dee · 09/06/2005 22:14

Hi sparkly. Glad Grant might be able to help 'behind the scenes' so to speak. I mentioned him many weeks ago - remember ?

I remember him from when we were 15 as a very sweet guy. As he's just been elected to office he'll be really keen to make an impact and improve the situation of local people such as yourself. If the housing people stall or fob you off, contact him again, I am sure he will be able to kick some butt.

Good for you perseveering with all this, I know it's hard. Glad things seem to be moving in the right direction.

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sparklymieow · 09/06/2005 22:43

I remember hub2dee. I am so sick of this tbh. Ds said to my mum 'is it that man again nanny?' when she pick them up. So my 7 year old is now scared, he keeps asking if we will protect him and his sisters, FFS no 7 yr old should be asking these questions, how is it going it affect him.......??

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sparklymieow · 09/06/2005 22:51

should I get someone in to see him about this?

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jessicasmummy · 09/06/2005 22:53

i would SM - get the doc in. another note for the file at the end of the day.

i know its not nice having all this going on, and having the extra worry of your 7yo picking up on it too. You need all the help you can get.

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sparklymieow · 09/06/2005 22:58

but how will they deal with it, don't want to make him more scared

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hub2dee · 09/06/2005 22:58

This thread moves very fast... did the GP come in the last few days sparkly ?

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sparklymieow · 09/06/2005 22:59

yes he came out on tuesday, saw me in a state and is writing to the council

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hub2dee · 09/06/2005 23:02

great. Then explain that the man next door is not very polite or friendly and you're trying to move to a much nicer area where everyone is much nicer to each other, and that's what mummy is organising on the phone every day etc. and that it should all happen quite soon, but even if it takes a while, don't worry because it will happen, and he's gonna love the new place because xyz etc.

You could chase the GP tomorrow or next week just to make sure the letter went off, and ask for a copy for your file too.

jessicasmummy · 09/06/2005 23:04

agree with hub2dee.... reassurance is needed. Keep bigging up the "new house" and he will be fine.

If there are problems tho - nightmares etc, call doc straight away.

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sparklymieow · 09/06/2005 23:05

the medical team at the council will be looking at the medical form, and the letters from GOS and SW tomorrow, so we should get some medical points,

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sparklymieow · 09/06/2005 23:05

he has had nightmares

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jessicasmummy · 09/06/2005 23:07

i would get doc out - even if it is just to get it noted. Its obviously affecting him now, and that is another HUGE issue the council will need to know about. It will help. Thought of counselling? Family counselling to help you ALL through this?

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sparklymieow · 09/06/2005 23:08

Luckily the dpctor that came out is the lurveeeee one and he knows the family very well, he came out to me when I had PND and was in a state then, that was 4 years ago, and he has been out to the children when I have asked because he knows the family situation

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jessicasmummy · 09/06/2005 23:09

Get doc out again.... he will understand. Perhaps keep ds off school tomorrow so he can visit?!

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sparklymieow · 09/06/2005 23:11

DS said in the car the other day to DD1 taht she had to be quiet when we got home 'otherwise the man will kill daddy!!!!!' I said 'no, he won't but just say nothing to him' when we got home yesterday Ds said 'that stranger is scary mummy'

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jessicasmummy · 09/06/2005 23:12

SM, keep ds off school tomorrow and call doc. I MEANT IT

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sparklymieow · 09/06/2005 23:13

the school said that if we keep them off I will get in trouble

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jessicasmummy · 09/06/2005 23:14

one day isnt gonna hurt. do they know the situation?

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sparklymieow · 09/06/2005 23:15

yes, they are aware.

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jessicasmummy · 09/06/2005 23:18

say he was up all night with nightmares and too tired for school - what they gonna do?

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sparklymieow · 09/06/2005 23:20

I spoke to the school earlier when had to let them know my mum would be picking them up. I said what would happen if i kept them off and she said that it would be an unauthaise (sp?) abanse. And they need to go to school.

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sparklymieow · 09/06/2005 23:20

and what about dd2

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sparklymieow · 09/06/2005 23:21

sorry dd1 even!!!!

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jessicasmummy · 09/06/2005 23:21

One day sweetheart.... they arent gonig to hound you over one day.... and your gp will be able to back you up if you call him out