Just in before getting to eat ma dinner - can we not call them biblebashers - I vastly prefer scripture-twisters, because actually, when I study the bible when my mental space isn't consumed with self-loathing, and without the dubious 'guidance' of these people, it isn't nearly the clear-cut tool of subjugation they say it is.
I mean, yeah, we can talk about shellfish and mixed fibres, and as a bi female who is quite happy with that particular bit of me (isn't that ironic?) believe me, I'm fully up to speed on that. The answer you'll get from the twisty people is that is Old Testament anyway, so it doesn't get anyone further on.
Dh isn't any more domineering than any other man who, like SGB says, has been allowed to have it all his own way and is a bit reluctant to change that. But I've not been like the woman in the OP for months and months, and he's coping.
FAQ, tbh, I wouldn't touch Ellel with a bargepole - they tried to exorcise me of the demons of homosexuality and judaism when I was in my early twenties, kind of put me off... HSAT, counselling at some point might be a good idea, though. Don't think we're there yet.