MN Little Italy 12

[SunflowerNeedsSunshine]

Ciao, hello, welcome!

Oops - lost the first "M" there. But substitute Woman for Man, anyway!

Blimey.... And I logged in for a brainless 10 mins !!!

yep penthe. I agree 100%. really.

are you all having a nice mother's day? I'm not going to comment on mine except for the fact that dd2 has got morbillo. ironic she was going to get MMR in 2 weeks.

yesterday however I had a fantastic day, went shopping and national gallery and nat port gallery then drinks and meal. lovely.

I have come back for a second read .....
Pippi how terrible poor thing are you sure its measles and not maybe ( hoping) the sesta malatia ??? Where has she picked it up from ?
I hope she is not suffering too much .
Have spoken to the priest and we can have 3 padrini SIL will bust a gut when she finds out as I know she is waiting for us to ask her Priest was great he even said if we have non catholic people he will let them be godparents but at least 1 catholic has to sign. However I think we will stick with the padrini or we will end up having to pay for lunch for all our friends - can't invite 1 without the other etc !!

she's not that bad actually. just not herself and a bit more clingy/grumpy. not eating like she normally does, hence food on the floor the onther day on the BLW thread I guess.

I haven't got the heart to say this but dh fucked up mother's day big time. I'm very sad and upset. AIBU?

(before you all say 'yes but yesterday you went out etc' I'm going to add that I went out on my own accord without dh's blessing in a way - long to explain now)

No you are not after dh forgetting my first ever mothers day I don't think he has ever forgotten - nor have I let him forget .... EVen if it is just a scribbled drawing it is for me important ... Or an extra kiss in the morning with an auguri mamma will even do ...But a Huge bunch of flowers and a lie in is better !!!

rosa all I wanted was 'just a scribbled drawing ... an extra kiss in the morning with an auguri mamma and a lie in'
and all I got after a few hours and a cry was a forgotten in the car bunch of flowers that in my mind means nothing. oh well.... c'est la vie' (sp?)

well just called dp on internal phone telling him that as much as i was happy with the flowers next time i also want a card, homemade. He told me that ds refused to make one (ungrateful sod) because he did one at school. Fair enough, in the one from school he had written "you are prety" sic.

Tell dp he better shape u[p for next year, or he will find his underwear burnt in the garden...

I had a thought whilst i was cooking today "how many of these meals do i have to cook before i die" I voiced this thought to dp who very wittily, or so he thinks, replied "how many do i have to eat before i die". I think de beavoir will feel she died for nothing. Let me read Sartre's quote now. (viggo tries to get brain in gear for thinking)

viggo you always manage to get the best out of me.

I am looking for books that talk about the conflict between motherhood and intellectual life, penthe can you help there? Drabble is better than i imagined actually, but she does not write as wonderfully as i need her to, to keep me captivated...HELP please....

It was nice tlaking to you, dear Bradley.

penthe are you joining us when franca comes? you can finally meet a washed up inner city housewife.

pippi i am sorry you had a shite day. now i feel bad i disagreed with you on the other thread

if any consolation, last week it was my birthday and also a major DH disappointmnet. he did deliver on mother's day though, we have only argued once.

can't believe your dd2 has got morbillo. hope she gets over it soon...

as usual i have lost the plot on this thread. you know, i am this close to giving up, it is just too hard to try and keep up...

oh don't be silly BS. I disagreed with you too. .

we all have these days but I feel like a fool because when you have the nice days you forget how far away you've become for the ideal simone debeav life you imagined for yourself when you were 15.

oh don't give up just pop in and chiacchiera whenever you can/feel like.

also viggo I think I'll do the strike thing as well. it's going from worse to worst [invented].

i bet de beauvoir is up in heaven seething with jealousy looking down at my homemade dishes, my hunk of a partner and my beautiful kids

How are you bs, kids sleeping better?

not sure strike will work, you will wake up on friday am surrounded by clothes that have not been put away....no?

friday??? more like NOW! I'm surrounded by plates and pots from dinner which no one had attempted to put away. is this fair?????
it reminds me of my youth. as soon as dinner was over everybody run off leaving my mum to tidy up on her own - and me just because I stayed behind to chat with her (not because I was a woman thankfully). unfair. it's even the weekend what excuse is there?

you need some rules. who does what. for example one does the cooking, one does the dishwasher. or some sort of rota system. i do do most housework here, that's my bloody job, but you need some rules for when you are both at home in the evening.

can you have a chat with him, not being aggressive, but sort of saying that you are feeling down and you will be a much better mother and lover if boring tasks are properly shared...and that you will want more time to yourself at weekends and so can he.

we need penthe, probably sartre said something about dirty dishes and untidy bedrooms in his Existentialisme book...

viggo to answer your question from the other thread. of course it is. and I can tell you what it is and has been snce dd1 was born. it is the missing recognition for what I do. It was there then and it has always been. on occasions like that everything explodes. I've always known that the only cure is for him to remain stuck with the kids on his own for a week. then I am sure everything will change. it's like valentine's day. if you are shown you are loved everyday you do not care, if you are not you put so much effort. at the moment I do not care about valentine's day thankfully.

btw iy's easy to be free like de debeauv without children, innit! (and even she was well f*ed up!) what hope is there.

Hello ladies.

about DD2, Pippi!! Poor wee thing.

Sorry that your mothers' day wasn't what you'd hoped for.

I doubt Sartre had much to say about dishes (except to drone on in an existentialist way about the filth of life - have you read "Nausea"?) - he was a prime arse, relationship-wise.

Can't think of any books off the top of my head... Will dwell on it though.

When is franca over?

i would rather have less freedom, and have the kids...

is it possible to have a rational conversation with your dp where you discuss how to share tasks? if for example one day at the weekend you take the kids out for an outing to meet a friend (me for example) then he cannot complain if he get the other day with the kids, no? and then another weekend you can do stuff together out, or stuff together in the garden...for us the importance is the variety, otherwise we go bonkers..