Missing mumsnetter appeal....

[pupuce]

Where is Jasper?????
Miss you !

SueW - I can't be bothered to explain to one more soul whya an dhow GF worked for us.... same is true of sleep threads where I use to post daily!
Now I only (or just about) look at childbirth, pregnanc and BF threads.... and more as someome to suggest answers rather than ask....
I did look at the current GF thread and ALMOST posted... glad I didn't though.... the yurt comments were hilarious !

Enid, Layla,Twink, Bossykate,Pupuce,Tigermoth,Suedonim, SueW,WWW,Scatterbrain, Bloss........aahh, a blast from the past. Glad you're all alive and kicking out there. I have to confess to feeling a bit jaded lately too, but I guess nothing stays the same. Even so, it's good to know you're all still there.

If I could do a smiley now, I would!!!

Thanks folks for your replies.

I was starting to get a bit paranoid that my thoughts ....and other newcomers, were not welcome.

It is great to see the popularity grow though coz it means Mumsnet will stay around and hopefully be here the next time a go down the pg route! I needed it last time!!

SueW - v funny.

Mum2toby - don't you be getting all paranoid on us! Can only echo some of the older members posts - sometimes a topic comes up that you've already bored people rigid with in the past, so rather than risk repeating yourself (that's why there's an archive ) you don't post the same thing yet again. Also, with so many current threads, you tend to pick and choose the ones that are relevant or that you have particular interest in - wheras in the past I'd rabbit on about anything! And no, I don't think that it's got more cliquey or bitchy - there have always been topics that get a more heated response than others, and there always will be. But I do think it's sometimes worth remembering that we all came on here originally to reassure ourselves that we "weren't alone", get advice and have a laugh. And yes it is a shame when people leave - although having said that there are definitely past posters who I don't miss. And no, I'm not going to name them!

Thanks Wllow2 - go on..... name a couple. Only kidding. They might still be here but with different names!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

boxxxxxs - hadn't thought of that.

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some of you "old" mumsnetters remind me of some mother and baby groups where newcomers are completely ignored as they think the place belongs to them because they were there first

whymummy - that is a bit tough. I dont think any old mumsnetter actually resents new members or ignores them, it isn?t personal (as far as I am aware). It is more that the site is growing and developing all the time and for some the changes make it more interesting and diverse (my personal opinion), whereas for others it no longer suits them as well as it did, thats all. The point several others made about not wanting to repeat topics or talk on threads that are no longer so relevant in our own lives as time moves on is also a relevant one.
Personally, i think that mumsnet is great and I enjoy the diversity of topics and comments - great for picking and choosing. I know the number of contributors have increased and so that feeling of familiarity and knowledge of each other and the current threads disappears a little bit but the benefits of a wider audience are huge and mainly all positive.

If people feel that it no longer quite what they are looking for, thats ok - wish them luck and let them do their thing, If they choose to reappear now and again, that is great, but we are all free to have an opinion and to use the site as we find appropriate, aren?t we?

Eh?? Personally, I can't keep track of who's "new" and who's "old"

I think Whymummy (correct me if I'm wrong) is referring to a couple of specific people further down this thread who were not talking about how Mumsnet has grown.

They made me feel quite uncomfortable and really got the feeling of cliquiness (sp?). I'm not trying to start a fight here I just wanted to clarify that it's not all who have giving this feeling..... but 2, maybe 3 at the most.

Can we all be friends now.... old AND new???

thanks m2t i did start my message with the word "some"

M2t, I do not always think it is a case of being friends, because it clearly is a case sometimes of personality clashes, when you mean someone in everyday life that you clash with, you do not waste time and effort trying to get on with them, you simply deal with them as least as possible. I think we should just agree to disagree. Mumsnet is big enough for everyone, and as you said earlier the important thing is more money for mumsnet.
I do think that even though we are clearly never going to see eye to eye with everyone, some sort of respect is needed, and complaining and stop stupid grins when not appropriate.
When I read a thread I post if I think I can add something, I do not normally notice all the names on it and won't avoid them because of the names.

sorry whymummy - I admit I am a terrible skim reader and missed out the "some" bit - apologies. It just annoys me that there is this silly "old" and "new" rubbish (I am in the middle somewhere) and I wish everyone could take it all a little bit less personally on both sides and just be a bit more accepting of each other and each others views. Who is to say that someone posting for years and years is a better or more experienced person to comment on parenting issues?? That is crazy - all views are vaild and should be made equally welcome, even if we dont always see eye to eye. (I?ll go back in my hole now and shut up )

sorry breeze - crossed posts, I have wiped my the grin off my little face for you right now !! Didnt mean to seem cheeky by popping it on there.

Jaytree, No I was referring to these , and well said.

This thread has summed up some of the feelings I have about mumsnet, I dont know whether I am an old or new poster as I have been lurking for ages but only posting regularly (ish) for a few months. What I do think is that mumsnet is now more supportive than informative, eg I dont feel I know much about the 'new' peoples kids whereas I really felt I knew Scummymummys twins, Enids dd and pupuces two. I've got no idea about Mum2toby's kids or whymummys kids - now before you all jump down my throat I know thats probably coz I dont read enough, but I can't imagine Justine and Carrie will get enough out of mumsnet lately to do another book!!

And I used to find some of the 'old' posters really irritating but no where near as aggressive as the new ones - I mean, Mum2toby, why do you let yourself get so wound up about every single thread on mumsnet!! This one is a missing mumsnetter appeal for gods sake and is now completely off topic.

Rioja - I don't really think that I've pushed this thread off the topic and I think it's totally unreasonable and confrontational of you to say so. If you were looking for a reaction from me you've got it!!
And 95% of the threads I've posted on in the last few weeks have ended up very light hearted!

People here have tried to be diplomatic and not mentioned any names, but you've steamed right it and picked on me for some reason!! You wonder why I react??????? Have a read at your last post!

I've had enough of Mumsnet and it cliqueyness! Bugger off Rioja! I have tried to calm this thread down...did you bother reading that bit!??

I didn't come on here to be upset by YOU. GOOD BYE!

Whymummy, meanmum, doormat and anyone else in fact, Please feel free to pass on your email addresses to me coz I'd really like to keep in touch with you all.

mum2toby youre doing exactly what "some" wants us to do,so dont give in,who gives a s**t what they think,i love reading your posts and your one of the funniests on here life is too dull to just talk about serious issues all the time
rioja you were right out of order,the only time i`ve seen your name was on the "what you called sex organs"where a foreign girl asked for advice and you made a really sarcastic comment,that says it all

I probably am a bit too confrontational but its just my opinione after all, how can you talk about things withougt naming names, after all, you clearly meant Enid whymummy when you talked about silly grins so why not just come out and say it, anyway, I didnt even get why she put the cheesey grin so I am not in any clique.

And I have posted other things about my four kids.

Mum2toby I dont believe for a minute that you will disappear.

Blimey! Stop arguing about me, rioja, I dont want any part of this!! Anyway, I said 'I' had changed, not mumsnet, you just all get on with it and try and be nice to each other, PLEASE!

Peace man.

I take the advice I get on here VERY seriously.... just as I take any praise/compliments I get on here very seriously and they make me feel good.

It follows, therefore , that I take verbal abuse and inults to heart too. Considering you are a complete stranger and not even someone on here who's EVER helped me or offered advice you really upset me. You blatantly blamed me for causing arguments!! If I've evr done that at least I have apologised.

You are a volatile and inconsiderate person, who should really remember that there are REAL PEOPLE with REAL FEELINGS reading your posts!

And yes I can assure you I will disappear.

Thanks Whymummy.... I know this is a cowardly way out but I really can't see another way around it.

What is mumsnet all about rioja.
It is about being a MUM.
We all have different life experiences.
As mums we all have our share of problems, some more than not.If I and anyone else who posts can really give some good advice in response to a question and it TRULY HELPS someone what is the harm in that???This site has saved my sanity.I feel that I actually belong somewhere than in my home doing the same thing day in day out. I do not find mumsnet cliquey at all, quite the opposite, we have a choice to answer questions or not.Sometimes the debates do get a bit hot but so what!!! we are all individuals.
As for what you have said about other mumsnetters I think you are out of order and getting too personal.
M2T Thanx for that.

Yikes!
Am back off to the Yurt and my truffles ( if Chinchilla hasn't eaten them all )
Enid - the high chair is GREAT - I have a borrowed one and it is ssoooooooo easy to keep clean ( when it arrived it had been in a shed and I just put the chair bit in the dish washer!!!)

Anybody else find the 10:02 message confusing? Who is Rioja really?