Missing mumsnetter appeal....

[pupuce]

Where is Jasper?????
Miss you !

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How has it changed you lot? I know I've only been posting since December, but I fail to see where it's changed. Fair enough a couple of threads have got a bit heated but that's it, a couple out of how many???
I have always received the advice I needed and helpful tips I have asked for. I think some of the debates are healthy and lively and if everyone just posted how much they AGREED with everyone else then Mumsnet would be a boring and predictable place to be!

I love Mumsnet and can't see what all the fuss is about. No doubt I'll get shunned for these comments, but I think I'm probably echoing what alot of people are thinking when they read these posts about how much it's changed for the worst!

How did it used to be??? How could we get it back to 'the good old days'???

i dont think it has changed ive only been posting for a couple of months but ive seen threads from sep 2002 already complaining about how nasty some conversations get,and surely therell be others before that that i havent seen,no many things offend me apart from racism and fascism,nobody forces anybody to read anything they dont like,mumsnet is for mums if i thought it was for children as well i wouldnt post any dirty jokes,its all for a laugh and a lot of us are or have been depressed so if one of my jokes gets a smile from just one depressed mum then i`m happy to have posted it

I smiled lots whymummy! Thanx

Me too, Sometimes things just change, and some people do not like change. These are the people that moan about what other people do, even though in the past they have done themselves. What is it the saying 'you can not please all the people all the time' (or something).

me too mum2toby,i dont usually drink in the house unless im in good company and last saturday i definitely felt like i was having a drink with a bunch of old friends,thank you!!

the site has changed in one way, definitely - there are far more people posting on it. To me this alters things generally. I don't connect people's posts together half so much, because I don't have time to read them all.

Tigermoth - Good point, but do you think that is enough to drive people away? I thought Mumsnet wanted to get more people onboard and subscribing (tech - I have a cheque here waiting to post to you!! ).

to enid!

You might find it interesting to read this article The Life Cycle of a Mailing List .

Although Mumsnet isn't a mailing list exactly, the talk boards are very similar, IMO.

Brilliant SueW, I think that sums things up!

WOW SueW!! LOL

That's SO true! Are you sure it wasn't written about Mumsnet?

What's all the grinning about Enid and bossykate ??

mum2toby i think theyre laughing at me,but i dont give a monkey`s s**t

Don't see why whymummy, I had a good laugh too, the only person who didn't I think was my hubby, with me trying to remember all the jokes when I finally got to bed.

My dp was exceptionally happy that I spent all evening up in the bedroom whilst he sat downstairs in control of the TV Remote! Sad git!!

I agree Mumsnet has changed and like some of those who complained I have been on it for over 3 years.
Oh the arguments are as bad as they have ever been... we haven't seen a TRULY nasty GF thread in a while though

My reason for participating far less is the seriously increased number of topics and members.... it's too much and it is one of the reasons I have stayed away from other boards... I remember the days were there was only 50 topics max per day (and it wasn't that long ago too!)
Also I can't be bother with some topics (like sleep)... now that's entirely down to me, I feel I have said ALL on some topics and do not have the energy to repeat all again

Thanks Pupuce for giving that perspective. I am sad though that some of the people who could possibly offer the most experienced and balanced views are no longer posting. It's also sad that the popularity of Mumsnet has driven it's original members away.

As I have said before I love Mumsnet and have really begun to lean on it and make friends.

Aww,thanks Tinker.
Hi Marina,oui c'est moi.

Happy bank holiday folks.

Oh, welcome back Layla! You have been missed

Mum2Toby, I think that the main changes are that there are more people posting and therefore a lot more 'live' threads - not necessarily a bad thing, cos I can always find a thread to match my mood. The other thing is that as out children get older, the threads that interest us also change - so it may well be that some of the longer serving posters have changed more than mumsnet itself.

Personally, Ithink mumsnet is still great and is, if anything, more varied than it was when I first found it about 18 months ago.

Like Satellite TV more choice for different people.

Found what Suew linked very interesting indeed.

We have just introduced a new computer system at work which makes out life a whole lot easier, most were happy with the changes, except some of the old lot who wanted 'things to stay the same' we have had a few teething problems (not major ones) and these people are loving every minute of it and can't wait to put it down.

aww, www, thanks for missing me, I was being confused about layla and scrolling down found you asking where I'd gone - I was really touched!

Still confused about layla though - must have scrolled too fast - who is she?

SueW, I love your Life Cycle, have posted it elsewhere as it is so absolutely spot on for that board (doesn't apply so much here as "off-topic" doesn't really exist), especially paragraph 5!

I think pupuce has summed up many of the reasons why some of the original posters don't post as much now, in answer to your question mum2boy.

Also there's the embarrassment factor - I have written paragraph after paragraph on the behaviour of my two sons/ why I was happy with mixed feeding/ the joys of the Enchanted forest at Groombridge etc. I feel I just can't keep saying the same things over and over again. People will think I'm obsessed! and I imagine people groaning with boredom .....

That doesn't mean I stop posting, just that I don't get involved in threads when I have little new to say. Or sometimes I read a thread and think everyone has said it all much better than I could.

suew, that article is very true. Lets hope mumsnet gets to the maturity stage and stays there.

Layla - like your new name!

Very funny and interesting SueW, thanks for that
Janh - Layla is Star!

Also lives move on - pupuce used to post all the time about Gina Ford but I haven't seen a single contribution from her along those lines for a long time - I guess GF has sort of moved out of relevance in her life and she has already said all she has to say on how it worked when her children were that age and that's there for people to search for.

I used to post about breastfeeding but I'd rarely do so now, and only a line maybe cos it's 4 years since I did it and my feelings and experiences aren't so new.

Posters who used to post about babies and toddlers now post about toddlers and schools, etc.

As some know, I moderate an NCT email list, a virtual coffee morning, and it sometimes saddens me to think of the people we've lost along the way - over 4 years now - including my v good friend with whom I set the whole thing rolling but at least she and I keep in touch IRL.

And newsgroups too - I'm amazed when I go back to see the same names but wonder what happened to the others. I suppose like me their lives moved on and maybe they do drop back every now and then but don't have time to commit as much now.