Prostitutes and the past

[cringe]

Did any of your husbands/partners/ sleep with a prostitute before they met you? How do you feel about it? Does it put you off them? Or is it rare? Its making me wonder if he is a sweaty old desperate pervert. Help.

Lou that is filthy and as for that cringe women well she is just desperate for anyone

Where can I buy baby pasta?

Is it shocking? I don't think so.

Not me no, but there were ladies who were. I was a guest. I knew the madame and dh to be knew the owner.

Lesson one in how to kill a conversation stone cold dead. Never admit to frequenting houses of ill repute......

cringe the most important thing here is you have adecent caring man who made a mistake in the past,he should be able to put the past behind him and move on and not be condemed for what he did.
Im not going to debate the rights and wrongs of prostitution because i dont think thats what your post was about..but i wouldnt throw away a good relationship over it,if he was still doing it then that would be a different matter.

pmsl!

Corks Lou!
Happymerryberries, just wanted to send you a quick line to say that dh and I are also lifelong "too wussy to even try cannabis" types...you are not alone. I do feel like a walking anachronism in some respects
Agree with Caligula's 9.28 post on this issue.

I think this opening foray into a topic could be used in to stop conversations in their tracks many many times. Maybe it should be part of the mn philosophy? The mods guide to ending threads.

Cringe wanted to know if anyone's husband/partner had slept with aprostitute and how it made them feel.
She did NOT ask for an in depth discussion into the ins and outs and rights and wrongs of the prostitution trade in Thailand, and the moral implications.
And NO, I am not saying that these things don't matter, or that children should be used for sex, or that women should be exploited...
I am saying, see the original thread for what it is...
How dare some of you condemn her partner and put him in this box of "female opressor" when you don't know the first thing about him??????

Some of the opinionated people on here are so high and mighty and you're all totally missing the point.
The thread isn't about whether prostitution is ok... it's about a stupid mistake someone made, and whether he can be forgiven...

GET OVER IT

Who has condemned her husband? Where?

This is an open forum and the nature of Mumsnet is that discussions do open up into the general, rather than stay stuck in the particular.

That's why people get addicted to it Starlover, because it's so interesting. What do you think threads would be like if there were no general discussion? Quite boring I suspect, and I could lose my Mumsnet addiction quite quickly!

Get over what, btw?

The poster asked how we felt about the issue. It's bound to raise a lot of debate. IMO the debate was very general and didn't resort to name-calling or anything of the sort.

Starlover, I think this is a civilised discussion, can't see there's anything to 'get over' tbh.

No, she didn't. She asked if your partner/husband had been with a prostitute and how you felt about it.

I am not posting on this thread any more because it has made me really angry, and I don't want to get drawn into a stupid argument over who is right and wrong.
So, feel free to post as much as you like now and tell me i'm wrong.
whatever

Starlover why are you so angry that people have a different view from you? The original poster asked for people's views, and people gave them honestly, sometimes with explanations as to why they hold those views.

What's to be so livid about?

I don't know and I wouldn't want to know TBH - nothing to do with rights/wrongs/moral implications etc purely to do with my own jealousy. If he says phwoor that Carol Vorderman is a bit of alright I wouldn't be able to watch Countdown without seething and kickling the TV. The last thing my confidence could cope with would be knowing that "Tiger Suki" and "Raven Lil" gave him the time of his life for 50 quid in Bangkok. .

• BRAZIL: There are an estimated 500,000 prostitutes under the age of 20 in Brazil.
• PHILIPPINES: Studies in the Philippines reveal that underage female prostitutes have been pregnant: once (48%), twice (33%), three times (15%), four times (5%). 31% have a child themselves.
• SRI LANKA: In Sri Lanka nearly all the victims are boys aged between 6 and 14.
• THAILAND: 50% of Thai child prostitutes are HIV positive.
• THAILAND: There are over 200,000 child prostitutes in Thailand.
• THAILAND: 80% of Thailand's estimated 1 million prostitutes are under the age of 16.
• THAILAND: In a Thai study of 1,012 adolescents and young adults being prostituted, 90% of respondents disapproved of prostitution and their role in it, 43% felt disappointed in themselves, hopeless and trapped, 50% felt that society showed contempt for them, 26
• THAILAND: The Centre for the Protection of Children's Rights (CPCR) in Thailand estimates that 80% of girls under 17 who have been rescued from brothels are HIV positive.

Still not exploitative? Still OK as long as a bloke's on holiday with his mates?
I don't think I'm unrealistic about my husband to know he wouldn't want to be a part of this.

Aloha, becuase the minors in these stats are being exploited certainly doesn't mean that prostitution is exploitative per se...not really sure what your point is other than that there are underage prostitutes that are exploited, and we are all aware of that surely?

Starlover, i don't think cringe really needed your defence, and neither do I think that this discussion has been anything but interesting, animated and lively...which is why we love mumsnet no?