This episode creased me up! Grahams smirking was so funny. To be honest I thought Ann appeared to have a huge poker up her b*m at all times. She was obssessed with cleaning, and couldn't relax just a bit. The other one also worked, but didn't seem to care so much about a bit of mess, or untidyness, therefore didn't feel like a slave to Graham. The comments that go to me were that before teh swap Ann was worried that someone else might run her home better than she could, therefore I felt she was on a mission to prove that she was the perfect wife, mother and home-maker. She didn't seem to be able to relax at all and was quite a stressed bunny. At the Graham and his wife invited the Ann and her hubby for a drink, they were refused! To me that just shows quite what a snobby moo she was. They even said that 'they are not our kind of people!'
I can image that some people like to look after their homes, and therefore thrive on being needed. It isn't that they are a doormat, but they are the type of 'nurturing' people. It seems to me that they 'should' be married to men like Graham who need to be looked after. Who's to say one marriage is better than another.
I work full time, my Dh doesn't, but I still do more than him around the house. This is c**p and I wish he'd do more, but somewhere within me I like his total reliance on me. However he is not a male chauvanist piggy is many ways, he does at least as much as me on childcare, he just doesn't notice mess and could live in a pigsty without noticing, so if I want a tidy/clean home I end up doing it.
I know that he takes advantage, but he pulls his weight in other areas (well sometimes) and it works for us. I think this programme has shown me partnerships work in various ways, and one is not necessarily more valid than another. Althoug it did show some dreadful men!!