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Not invited to Jubilee street party

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Chasingclouds100 · 01/06/2022 21:44

So just a bit of a rant really and any advice greatly received! I was chatting to one of my neighbours a few days ago and she happened to mention that the street in which we live are holding a jubilee party but only people that are liked on the street are invited - myself, my husband and 2 small children have not been invited (neither has the neighbour I was talking to) What on earth??!! Our street is fairly small with about 30 houses and I always thought myself and my family were well liked on the street, we get on with our neighbours (or so I thought) keep an eye out on their houses if they are on holiday, wheel their dustbins up the driveway after bin collection if they are left out always say hi or stop for a chat with everyone etc and have really looked after the elderly in the street throughout covid so I really don’t understand why we have not been invited! All the bunting and flags have gone up this evening and it has really upset me to know that they will all be partying on the street tomorrow and we haven’t been invited - goodness knows what I am going to say to the children when they ask as they too will be upset. I feel like selling up and moving house!

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Chasingclouds100 · 03/06/2022 16:29

To be honest I wouldn’t give them the satisfaction of showing up, we are clearly not wanted there and definitely not a just turn up and join in event but yeah like other have said - it’s not about me, I’m a big girl (although upset) but this is really crappy for the kids who are good kids and have helped out our neighbours in the past and cause no trouble etc.

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LongLiveLiz · 03/06/2022 16:30

I posted the flyers on my street for our street party tomorrow and anyone with a ‘no flyers’ sign didn’t get one. Could that be the reason?

ElenaSt · 03/06/2022 16:32

I have no idea why you've jumped to the conclusion that you are 'clearly not invited' as it's a street party so it's just a collective thought that everybody is going to join in and you don't need one specific organiser to send invites.

It's only a drama if you make it one.

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Chasingclouds100 · 03/06/2022 16:34

LongLiveLiz - thank you but no we accept all sorts through the post and I am out on the street every day doing the school run so it’s not like people haven’t seen me to mention the party and I have seen lots of my neighbours over the last few days out the front and nobody has mentioned it ☹️

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debwong · 03/06/2022 16:34

Go on, just go over and join in. Don't let your kids feel excluded.

TheYearOfSmallThings · 03/06/2022 16:36

it’s not about me, I’m a big girl (although upset) but this is really crappy for the kids who are good kids and have helped out our neighbours in the past and cause no trouble etc.

It is about you because you are the one throwing a huff and proposing to uproot your children and move house because you feel slighted.

It is a street party on your street. You can go, but you are choosing not to. Do not be telling your children to take offence here.

MadMadMadamMim · 03/06/2022 16:40

I have never known a street party where people got formal invitations. Don't be ridiculous. Street parties are for everyone who lives in the street to go to. As plenty of people have told you.

maddy68 · 03/06/2022 16:49

So it isn't a street party then. Some of the neighbours (friends) are having a party

Knockoneofftheshelftowin · 03/06/2022 16:50

I think this is really spiteful. For a jubilee party that is only held every umpteen years every one should be invited. Even the nutty/noisy/nadty neighbours.
Be glad you weren't invited to mix with such utter twats, you don't want to be classed as the same.

maddy68 · 03/06/2022 16:52

Just go and join them. ...say you'll bring some chairs

Eliakimi · 03/06/2022 16:53

You're being really silly by staying indoors sulking and refusing to go out and talk to some of your other neighbours. You've let this whole thing blow out of proportion. What your neighbour 'friend' told doesn't make any sense and several posters have told you that. Every street party has a planning committee, but a street party means the whole street! they're probably wondering why you're all locked up indoors and not coming out. If I were you i'd have gone round and knocked on another neighbours door as soon as I heard about it and just cheerfully asked whether there's a party for the street being planned and what can I bring? and see what they say. Your poor kids!

jackstini · 03/06/2022 16:57

Is it in someone's garden or on the street?

If the second then just get out there! For all you know your invitation might have blown away and they are thinking you are too stuck up to join in!

Are there kids there? Get yours to go over and say hi then join them in a few mins - makes it a bit easier

tackling · 03/06/2022 17:01

They're probably wondering why you haven't joined in. Someone else somewhere is feeling snubbed.

Go and say hello Grin

Hathertonhariden · 03/06/2022 17:03

Is it possible to walk past it as if you were going out for a walk? Smile as you go past and see whether you get invited over or everyone avoids eye contact. If the latter you can just carry on walking without losing face.

BeenHereForYonkyDoodles · 03/06/2022 17:05

Well they sound like arseholes op.
I bet they're not having as much fun as you think they are.
Are there any kids out there? If not I'd tell yours that it's just a tea party for old people.
And they can bring their own twatty bins in from now on.

TheFormidableMrsC · 03/06/2022 17:09

What a bunch of arseholes. I'd no longer be helpful, take in parcels or whatever. I'd also have to ask them why. I'm a stroppy cow though, but I couldn't let that go. It's horrible behaviour.

ClaudineClare · 03/06/2022 17:16

What is it about this Jubilee that brings out the playground level spite in some people?

It is shitty behaviour. Can you give the kids some special treats to cheer them up? I really feel for you OP.

ClaudineClare · 03/06/2022 17:18

Although...are you sure that neighbour was not shit stirring?

clippety clop · 03/06/2022 17:22

If it were me I would go over and ask who the organiser is and why when it's a "street" party some of the street haven't been invited. I would say this very loudly to make it absolutely clear to those who are wondering where you are that the organiser hasn't invited you.

MountainClimber22 · 03/06/2022 17:53

LongLiveLiz · 03/06/2022 16:30

I posted the flyers on my street for our street party tomorrow and anyone with a ‘no flyers’ sign didn’t get one. Could that be the reason?

I have a no flyers sign but that's for random rubbish not a jubilee street party. Bet they felt excluded by that.

SlatsandFlaps · 03/06/2022 17:54

@Chasingclouds100 Aww I know it feels awful and it is proper shit of them, but do you really want to spend your evening with the types of people who are capable of excluding others - including children? I wouldn't!

TammyOne · 03/06/2022 17:59

Eh? Just go outside you dafty!

Cuck00soup · 03/06/2022 18:06

Chasingclouds100 · 03/06/2022 16:06

no WhatsApp or Facebook groups as far as I know. This has definitely been an invitation event as people are dressed up for it in red, white and blue and have been taking food and drink across. I’m so upset, it must be personal and I have no idea why!

I'd lay money that there are neighbours social media groups...

Why the fuck didn't you say oh great I'll make a cake when the neighbour mentioned it? It's a street party. You take food and byob.

Oh and a red white and blue dress code probably doesn't need to be in writing either. It's a jubilee street party.

OldStyleIntroductions · 03/06/2022 18:32

I'm sorry OP but I think you're being very petty. They're probably all wondering what they've done to upset You. Why are you rigidly ignoring everyone saying get out there, it's a street party, you're expected to be there?

frogswimming · 03/06/2022 18:36

I bet there is a WhatsApp and you've been missed out by mistake. It sounds much more likely that's there is some sort of misunderstanding. Have you asked the organisers?