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Not invited to Jubilee street party

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Chasingclouds100 · 01/06/2022 21:44

So just a bit of a rant really and any advice greatly received! I was chatting to one of my neighbours a few days ago and she happened to mention that the street in which we live are holding a jubilee party but only people that are liked on the street are invited - myself, my husband and 2 small children have not been invited (neither has the neighbour I was talking to) What on earth??!! Our street is fairly small with about 30 houses and I always thought myself and my family were well liked on the street, we get on with our neighbours (or so I thought) keep an eye out on their houses if they are on holiday, wheel their dustbins up the driveway after bin collection if they are left out always say hi or stop for a chat with everyone etc and have really looked after the elderly in the street throughout covid so I really don’t understand why we have not been invited! All the bunting and flags have gone up this evening and it has really upset me to know that they will all be partying on the street tomorrow and we haven’t been invited - goodness knows what I am going to say to the children when they ask as they too will be upset. I feel like selling up and moving house!

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Kitten2 · 01/06/2022 22:36

No, it will be a party happening on your street perhaps there's a small organising committee which you're not part of but they could never expect you to just ignore something going on right there on the street?!
I bet your friend has got mixed up. Take some drinks, crisps, cakes and join in.

StarDolphins · 01/06/2022 22:48

This happened to me on the last thing where street parties were a thing(can’t remember what, it wasn’t that long ago) I got so uptight & upset about not being invited (more so for my DD) I thought the street & the lady that organised it liked me, I didn’t want to leave the house again!

anyway, the woman that arranged it was walking her dog past my house during the day of the party, looked through the window & waved😱 so I went to the door & she said “ just to let you know it’ll start a bit earlier now due to weather” I was gobsmacked! Turns out, she’d told another neighbour to give everyone the details & she’d forgotten a few people! Could this have happened here?

WonderingWanda · 01/06/2022 23:27

That is astoundingly rude if true but as everyone else has said, surely it's a mix up. Nothing to stop you and the rest of thr uninvited neigbours going out and having your own better party.

Sswhinesthebest · 01/06/2022 23:32

if it’s only a few select people then it should be in a back garden. It’s astonishingly rude to do it in the street!

spotcheck · 01/06/2022 23:34

Gembem · 01/06/2022 21:47

Perhaps only some people planned and organised it and the other neighbour took this as an insult and is insinuating anyone not in the "planning committee" hasn't been invited!

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GrandRapids · 01/06/2022 23:37

LidlCinnamonBun · 01/06/2022 22:14

No Platty Jubes for you.

Grin
Onlinetherapist · 01/06/2022 23:38

Is there a street Facebook group, and if so was there a post about a possible street party? Perhaps people that ‘liked’ the post (and therefore registered their interest) were invited? Could it be that your neighbour got her wires crossed? If some families have been deliberately left out that is absolutely appalling behaviour. And especially awful to do it to children x

Nanalisa60 · 01/06/2022 23:39

The point of a street party is that every one In The street is invited , how very rude of them.

HalzTangz · 01/06/2022 23:40

It's a street party, just rock up and join in

ElenaSt · 01/06/2022 23:41

No one has said to your neighbour 'Only people we like are invited' so it is a stretch of her imagination to come to that conclusion.

You have three options -

  1. Stay in and then the tv up whilst the party commenced.
  1. Go out for the day.
  1. As soon as you hear any kind of frivolity, form a conga line with your husband and children and steam right in to join in on the raucous fun of the Jubilations.
Sittingonabench · 01/06/2022 23:51

Can’t honestly say I’ve been to a lot of street parties but I imagine invitations aren’t necessary?! I always assumed if you lived on the street (or tbh happened to be passing) you were welcome to join in (obviously so long as you bring your own food/drink). Surely the point is that it’s an open invite in a public space otherwise you’d have it somewhere closed. Turn up - big smiles and join in with gusto and have a wonderful time. You do not need permission to be in your own street

HumourReplacementTherapy · 02/06/2022 00:14

I'd be getting the old petrol power tools out and blasting the sex pistols out of my windows during my rest breaks Grin
Or just sit getting bladdered at a table for two with a friend.

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Chasingclouds100 · 03/06/2022 15:50

Thank you for all your replies! Jubilee party currently in full swing right outside my front door and still no invite for me and my family. I know I shouldn’t let it bother me but it has really upset me. I wasn’t expecting the party to be today, thought it might be tomorrow - the kids were devastated when we got back from our day out to see everyone celebrating and knowing that we hadn’t been invited. I really feel that we can’t live here anymore, everyone saw us arrive back home in the car and nobody invited us over. I’m not a nasty person but I’m feeling a little bit happy that it has just started to rain…

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Starseeking · 03/06/2022 15:53

That is a really nasty thing for your neighbours to do. I'd move too, as I wouldn't want to live amping such horrible people. It's "mean girls" behaviour.

Starseeking · 03/06/2022 15:53

*live around such

Floralnomad · 03/06/2022 15:56

Just go out and join in .

TheYearOfSmallThings · 03/06/2022 16:00

Oh just go out and say "What're we drinking?". I'm sure you are all welcome, and there's definitely no need to move house.

Alwayswonderedwhy · 03/06/2022 16:02

You don't have to be invited if it's a street party. Ours was organised on FB, could it be you've missed the info about it?

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Chasingclouds100 · 03/06/2022 16:06

no WhatsApp or Facebook groups as far as I know. This has definitely been an invitation event as people are dressed up for it in red, white and blue and have been taking food and drink across. I’m so upset, it must be personal and I have no idea why!

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TheYearOfSmallThings · 03/06/2022 16:14

I’m so upset, it must be personal and I have no idea why!

Enough nonsense. Go out and say hi, unless you really are some kind of oddball.

user1471538283 · 03/06/2022 16:17

This is awful. How could anyone exclude children?

From now on you do nothing and say nothing to your neighbors. They can get their own bins in.

Are any of your friends streets having a do that your children can go to? For the silver my Gran wanted me to go to her street party (I suspect to show me off) and lots of children that didnt live there turned up. Or is there anything in a park nearby?

paisley256 · 03/06/2022 16:18

That's quite upsetting especially for your children. I wouldn't sit indoors stewing tho op, I'd open my door, take a few bottles of plonk and some crisps, put a smile on my chops and crack on with the celebrations. They can't stop you, go on.

You don't know what's happened regarding invites and I know they didn't call you over, but I'm sure once you go and join in no one is going to tell you to go.

Floralnomad · 03/06/2022 16:20

Crikey , just stick something on a plate , go across and say we must have missed the invites - they will either say welcome or say you are not invited - at least then you’d know rather than sitting indoors stewing about it .

Mindymomo · 03/06/2022 16:25

Round here it’s just assumed that if you live in that street, you are invited. I would go out on my front lawn with some chairs, a bottle and some glasses and see how it goes. Let the children join in, surely nobody’s going to stop them.

Ragwort · 03/06/2022 16:29

I've never known people receive a 'formal' invitation for a street party, usually it's just show up with a plate of food to share and chat to the neighbours. We hosted a street party the weekend we moved into our new home which coincided with W & C 's wedding, people just showed up .. obviously we didn't know anyone to 'invite'. A bit late now but surely the thing to do when you first heard about the party was to speak to the organiser (if there is one?) and ask what you can bring.