Not invited to Jubilee street party

[Chasingclouds100]

So just a bit of a rant really and any advice greatly received! I was chatting to one of my neighbours a few days ago and she happened to mention that the street in which we live are holding a jubilee party but only people that are liked on the street are invited - myself, my husband and 2 small children have not been invited (neither has the neighbour I was talking to) What on earth??!! Our street is fairly small with about 30 houses and I always thought myself and my family were well liked on the street, we get on with our neighbours (or so I thought) keep an eye out on their houses if they are on holiday, wheel their dustbins up the driveway after bin collection if they are left out always say hi or stop for a chat with everyone etc and have really looked after the elderly in the street throughout covid so I really don’t understand why we have not been invited! All the bunting and flags have gone up this evening and it has really upset me to know that they will all be partying on the street tomorrow and we haven’t been invited - goodness knows what I am going to say to the children when they ask as they too will be upset. I feel like selling up and moving house!

What time does the fringe jubilee party start then OP? Make it an hour earlier than theirs. Now who’s not been invited?

Can you check with any other neighbours? She might have got the wrong end of the stick..

How odd! I don't really understand, is it actually a street party? Like everyone will be out in the street? Then surely you don't need an invite do you?

Could it just be an oversight? People have been invited by word of mouth and they assume you’ve been told?

Perhaps only some people planned and organised it and the other neighbour took this as an insult and is insinuating anyone not in the "planning committee" hasn't been invited!

JaniceBattersby - your reply made me laugh thank you!

It’s not a street party if everyone on the street isn’t invited. I’d show up anyway rather than planning to move house, the person you were speaking to may have been wrong.

You need to invite anyone who hasn’t been invited for a cake and coffee right next to the official party. Take your camping chairs along, pop some music on, have some beers

alternatively leave your car on the road in front of that neigbours gate - she sounds like the kind of person who would sign an anonymous note with "from a friend"

I'm sure she had her wires crossed (and is possibly paranoid or a troublemaker).

If it really is a street party, everyone is invited and it looks pretty tragic if lots don't go. Or, in this case, it may be that someone is holding a private party in their own back garden and has invited their friends. That is not a street party.

I wouldn't take your neighbour's word for it. I've never known a street party where only some of the street are invited - especially in a fairly small road.

Are you sure there hasn't been a leaflet through the door that you've missed? Is there a road WhatsApp group that you're not on or haven't looked at the messages.

Our street parties are mostly discussed on WhatsApp and I know not all houses are on that so probably don't know what's going on.

How about you go and have a chat with someone who is setting things up. It sounds like you're a good neighbour so it would be very strange not to be welcome. If they want a private party they need to do it in their back gardens.

Is it a full on street party, will the road be closed? I’d go and join in.

Almost the exact same situation has arisen for a friend of mine but in a much smaller street.

I think someone is sh*t stirring in both occasions.

I think you were getting the neighbour's interpretation of events, I doubt it was those "liked" who were invited, more likely a group who already socialise together or whose children play together?

If there are enough neighbours you know who haven't been invited then could you organise something with them and style it out? I have no idea how the party organisers could think they could get away with this, the whole thing about a street party is to bring the whole street together.

Sorry you have been made to feel bad and hope you can have fun with some of the other neighbours.

No Platty Jubes for you.

OK, I give in. What is a platty jube??

Speak to another neighbour op.

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I'd be delighted not to be invited and would go and do something with people who really mattered .

A platinum jubilee...

Street parties don't work on an invite- basis?

Maybe they don't have an e-mail for you, or they have the wrong e-mail

Possibly your neighbour is a shit stirrer, or paranoid

Sit in your front garden in a sex pistols T shirt.

You don't get 'invited' - it's in your road!! Go round to a neighbour you do like, and say ooh what time does it start, how come I've missed all of the messages!!

That other neighbour is shit stirring - definitely.

Please don't just take your neighbour's word for it. I invited all of our neighbours round for a party once. I posted invitations through letter boxes but one neighbour was on his drive so I gave him his and he said he'd take the one for the neighbour at the back of him as he was seeing them later. We'll he didn't give them the invitation and they were so hurt when they knew all of us had been socialising without them.

Have they have council permission to block the entire street off? Have you been notified of this by the council? If not, I'd suspect that 1 neighbour might have invited some friends around- some of which might be neighbours. To suggest that the entire street except for you and your friend were invited is just odd! Maybe they are having from neighbours around for a snack/meal- but not the entire street and its just been miscommunication?