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Mil has told dp to pack his stuff and leave.

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ShakeysGirl · 03/01/2008 18:10

She is the most frustrating, spiteful person i have ever had the misfortune of knowing. Dp stays at mine 5 nights a week but he has his dinner with her and his dad every night. This morning we decided it would be nice to have our dinner together, so he calls his dad and explains he wouldn't be there this evening. She has just text him saying if you can't be home for dinner then pack your stuff and leave! Wtf? Hes gutted. I've been sympathetic but have refrained from giving my opinion on her.

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Niecie · 03/01/2008 18:14

She sounds like a horrible controlling woman and I think you are very wise to keep out of it. If you get involved, I have no doubt you will be cast as the villan of the piece and DP will be torn between the two of you. Let her do her worst.

Were you thinking of him moving in permanently?

lulumama · 03/01/2008 18:15

how long have you been with DP? have you had other problems with her?

Niecie · 03/01/2008 18:15

I should have asked - what is DP going to do? If I were him I would call her bluff and go and get my stuff.

OverMyDeadBody · 03/01/2008 18:20

So I take it he's still living with his parents?

She sounds like she's quite controlling and doesn't want to loose her son to another woman, she's probably feeling ealous too, some women are so strange.

Your poor DP, I'd suggest he stand up to himself and not be controlled by her emotional blackmailing. Probably wise that you have refrained from giving your opinion of her!

How old is he?

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ShakeysGirl · 03/01/2008 18:20

We tried living together a few months ago but she gave him an ultimatum between me and her and we split for a few weeks over it. We've been back together about 3 months now. I wouldn't want him living with me full time as he needs to earn my trust and respect back but obviously wouldn't see him on the streets. He's 27 and i'm his first serious relationship we've been together over a year. He blames the menapause. I think shes jealous. He's gone home to talk to her.

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lulumama · 03/01/2008 18:23

tough one, sounds like she is calling his bluff and forcing his hand... difficulty is you don;t want him with you full time yet.....he needs to make the decision really, and go to stay at a mates if he needs to

PeachyHasAFiggyPudInTheOven · 03/01/2008 18:24

Gawd, she sounds like my MIL when Dh and I first met.

Do you have kids together / or are pg?

Dh dumped my MIL, and frankly if he ahd not had the balls to stand up to her from the start (took a lot more than that and several years for him to dump her mind- and we tried to avoid it) it is unlikely we would be together now.

rosalinda · 03/01/2008 18:24

does your dp know his mother is as silly old bitch?

NAB3wishesfor2008 · 03/01/2008 18:26

What is he going to do now?

Why is he gutted?

Does he not want to live with you full time?

Does he have to pay towards any bills at his Mother's house or yours?

Him and his family seem nothing but trouble tbh.

Niecie · 03/01/2008 18:27

So how would you feel if he comes back and says he has had enough and he would rather be with you than living with his mother, Shakey?

I understand he has to earn your trust but if he puts you first and leaves his mother has he done enough?

Elizabetth · 03/01/2008 18:27

Why doesn't he get a place of his own. 27 is old never to have left home. Maybe she's sick of having him use her house like a hotel.

Isn't this the guy who flirts with other women on the internet?

TellusMater · 03/01/2008 18:29

Could he not live by himself for a bit - does it have to be you or her?

TellusMater · 03/01/2008 18:29

Oops -slow typing and x post with Elizabetth...

Twiglett · 03/01/2008 18:30

sorry .. may I ask how old DP is?

BrieVinDeAlkaSeltzer · 03/01/2008 18:30

Ehhhhhh [Dim emoticon] How can she be your MIL when you are not married.

What sort of a cack handed arrangement is that.??

Probably best thing, he should grow up and get his own place.

lulumama · 03/01/2008 18:30

he's 27 twig

Twiglett · 03/01/2008 18:30

why is he still living with his parents at 27?

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ShakeysGirl · 03/01/2008 18:30

Shes his only son and he worships her and values his family. Shes always disliked me for no real reason but has also had issues with me having children from a previous marriage. Dp and i have had our ups and downs but we love each other and he acknowledges that alot of problems are caused by her. I am not welcome in her house although i've never said anything to her about any of this. He says he has had enough of her but i know that the thought of losing them scares him.

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tribpot · 03/01/2008 18:31

So why can't he move into his own place?

lulumama · 03/01/2008 18:31

does he flirt with other women on the interent? if so that would be more of a deal breaker for me than the MIL....

NAB3wishesfor2008 · 03/01/2008 18:31

I think this relationship needs a rethink tbh.

Twiglett · 03/01/2008 18:31

he is far too old to be living with his parents .. he needs his own place IMO

lulumama · 03/01/2008 18:32

so even if you get married and have children together etx..she won;t welcome you in to their home

persoanally, i;d run for the hills right now

08aGreatYearForCarmenere · 03/01/2008 18:34

Some things/people are just not worth fighting for.......

LIZS · 03/01/2008 18:35

I think at 27 he sounds like he needs to stand up for himself a bit. I bet it isn't just over having dinner out really. More "a make up your mind where you want to live". Perhaps they'd rather know where they stand. He has his cake and eats it at their and your expense atm. Presumably getting his own place isn't an option financially , although he must have saved by staying at home all this time ?

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