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I don't know what to make of this text

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FeelSick · 14/10/2004 14:50

My dp sent me a text. It was 2 messages long, and a lot of the time when I get sent a message that is 2 texts long, it sometimes gets muddled with another text. This happened with this text. I got the full message but in two seperate texts and the first one was mixed with another one. It wasn't mixed with one I had seen before.

It ended saying "... much, wen she see's mine she mite not care about him anymore!" I've asked dp what that text meant and who was it for, but he hasn't replied. I've jump to a conclusion of what it could mean, but I really hope it isn't. What do you think?

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secur · 14/10/2004 16:25

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FeelSick · 14/10/2004 16:28

Thank you secur, I just don't want to feel like I'm wasting peoples time when there are other problems that are worse than mine that could do with advice. Thank you to all of you though, I do feel better about it.

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Thomcat · 14/10/2004 16:33

Not nice but I'm sure it's just silly boy stuff. Let him know you don't really appreciate things like that and if he is going to be rude about other women with boys could he try not to involve you as it made you feel incomfortable all day.
The tell him his is nothing to shout about and would he like peas or carrots with his meat!! (ie crack on and forget all about it).
Lots of love TC
Hope your tummy isn't feeling all nervous and horrid.
xxx

Amfs · 14/10/2004 16:33

many possible explanations

female boss .. and he and a male colleague are both trying to impress her

he's doing the sandwich run

he's having a laugh with a friend

network problem

if you have a good relationship I would really really try not to obsess about it .. jealousy can ruin a good thing

secur · 14/10/2004 16:34

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FeelSick · 14/10/2004 16:36

Thanks all. I won't fret about it, and may just casually bring it up like TC said. I'll let you know if I do and what he says.

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pepsi · 14/10/2004 20:38

Could you also perhaps jokingly show him your phone and say whats all this then, seeing it in front him should make him explain, if he's got nothing to hide why wouldnt he?

codswallop · 15/10/2004 11:04

news?

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FeelSick · 15/10/2004 13:10

Hi coddy, not to sure what to think at the moment. I have let it blow other, I did casually ask him again but he said it wasn't to do with him. Saw the sent message on his phone to me, and there was nothing else incriminating. He was in his usual mood when he came in, even offered to cook me dinner one day this week. But later on, as he was working on something, he seemed quite well not pissed off, but a little bit snappy and didn't really want to talk. Everything was getting on top of him. So it could very well be due to a work thing. Like I said I will keep the message just in case, but will leave it unless something else pops up.

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codswallop · 15/10/2004 13:34

and you say there no point in checking his phone?

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FeelSick · 15/10/2004 14:30

I do not understand what you mean

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codswallop · 15/10/2004 14:31

check his phone when he is not there. who is on it
who has he rung
who has he sent texts to
I wol dnever trust them!
ic check dhs sporadically, depending on my level of paranoia

mrsjingles · 15/10/2004 15:05

But what's the point if you don't trust them coddy??

There has to be trust in a relationship, this sounds like a simple mistake, and like you say feelsick, I would just move on and forget it, unless something else gives you cause for concern. Theres no point keep checking up and worrying yourself. Whats he going to think if he catches you checking up on him, if he has done nothing wrong.

You say you're very happy together, so carry on being happy, and don't let the doubts creep in.

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FeelSick · 15/10/2004 18:13

Oh dear. Getting worried again. I moved the text to my templates which dp never looks into. The text message split into two messages by itself, and the half of the message that I got by accident came up with the time and day it was sent. It was sent when I was out for a couple of hours this Tuesday evening gone

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codswallop · 15/10/2004 18:13

I dont trust dh

I am not a fool!

codswallop · 15/10/2004 18:14

I dont trust anyone really
no doubt you woudl all deemt hat sad but ask any dovrced person and htey woudl say the same

codswallop · 15/10/2004 18:16

well, amybe thats a bit extreme, maybe you could say i am a sceptic. our marriage is a continual game of me finding out his latest schemes, hes is a crap liar!!

mind you they are pretty harmless - i lllicit golf stick buying, the odd surf around men a nd motors!

Davros · 15/10/2004 18:18

Hmmm, not sure I would trust him but I'd be on high alert for more evidence. Of course you have to trust them but they have to be trustworthy!

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FeelSick · 15/10/2004 18:29

I don't know what to do or think. Should I just leave it?

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noddy5 · 15/10/2004 18:31

Before you read the text did you ever suspect him of anything?
It is very hard to stop snooping once you start so be sure before you decide to go down that road.

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FeelSick · 15/10/2004 18:37

Oh I just remembered something. A few months ago, I can't remember when exactly, a woman at his work took a shine to him. He told her about me, which I thought was fair enough. But back then he use to delete his calls, who called him, who he called, and still does it now, that I think about it. He says it's because he takes his battery out of his phone, but when I do it, it still has everything stored. He can be a bit of a flirt, not often but can be, but it has never really bothered me, as I think men can be like that at times. Oh dear, now I am really confused .

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noddy5 · 15/10/2004 18:38

What about asking him straight out?Tell him how worried you are and he may just put your mind at rest

turquoise · 15/10/2004 18:38

Feelsick just because you were out when it was sent, still doesn't probe he sent it. It's so easy to see anything as incriminating once you start being suspicious, you can build up a case out of nothing almost.
I should try and ignore it for now (easier said than done I know) and give him the benefit of the doubt. You sound so upset, that even suppose he had been considering straying, hopefully this incident will have shocked some sense into him.

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FeelSick · 15/10/2004 18:42

I know turquoise, I really wish I could just put it out of my mind, but I don't think I can. I was thinking about it when I was lying in bed last night. I guess there's not much I can do, and like you say it could be all very innocent and not even have anything to do with him, and that I could be making things out of nothing. But since I mentioned it to him, he doesn't seem to be himself with me. Could be coincedental, and I hope it is.

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turquoise · 15/10/2004 18:45

I really feel for you FS. That horrible churning stomach feeling - I know it well. ((((hugs))))

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