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Fucking mothers' day!

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gobshite · 13/03/2007 12:27

Does anyone else get pissed off at mothers' day? Or is it only shite if you're married to my husband?

I hate it, really. I hate that I either order flowers for my mother in law, or nag the husband into so doing. I hate the way the kids feel like doing something but my dear beloved can't get his arse in gear to help them to make some cards or whatever. I hate the whole patronising mess of it, the way it happens at a crap time of year, when the weather is foul, and it's the middle of lent. I wish it was either in Summer, or over!

Mm. Enough about me. What do you think?

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NomDePlume · 13/03/2007 12:28

we ignore it

princessmel · 13/03/2007 12:29

Dh is working on sunday. My mum is on a carribean cruise. I'm making my own card with ds today. His friend is here and he's doing one for his mum too.

NomDePlume · 13/03/2007 12:29

and we ignore fathers day too

misdee · 13/03/2007 12:29

when is it?

not that it makes any difference anyway, commericialised pile of wank

foxybrown · 13/03/2007 12:31

I'm with you gobshite.

nearlythree · 13/03/2007 12:32

It's always been a big thing in my family - combination of Catholic background and the fact it coincides with my mum's birthday or thereabouts. But dh ignores it. Dd1 has made a card at school and got upset b/c her teacher told her to do her 'best' colouring-in whereas I've told her I don't care if she goes over the lines, so long as it looks how she wants it to look (which suggests a computer print-out card btw.)

NomDePlume · 13/03/2007 12:34

it is this sunday, misdee.

princesscc · 13/03/2007 12:35

Isn't it Fathers day every Sunday! I don't get on particularly well with my mother, so it is a real drag for me, to have to spend half the day at my her house. The last place I want to spend my day is there, so general I have a cob on all day! dh & dd try to do nice things for me, but tbh, I would rather they did it all the time and not just because they feel they ought to. In any case, if I have the day off for household stuff on Sunday, it means I've got twice as much to do on Monday, coz no other bugger will do it for me!

princessmel · 13/03/2007 12:35

I like it normally. We usually make an effort and go out but not this year.

essbee · 13/03/2007 12:36

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Lullabyloo · 13/03/2007 12:41

dh was supposed to be taking ds to the pottery cafe to paint something for me last week.
he then decided he didn't have time & dropped ds & I off at the cafe & I had to paint it with ds myself.

last year on the way out the door to see his own mother dh exclaimed'Oh I'd forgotten you were a mother too'

i give up...

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gobshite · 13/03/2007 12:43

commericialised pile of wank

Love it, Misdee!

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Lullabyloo · 13/03/2007 12:44

havn't any idea where my mother is....she hasn't wanted anything to do with us since she & my father split up just over a year ago.

deegward · 13/03/2007 12:46

See the whole point is that it IS in the middle of lent. It is MOTHERING Sunday not Mothers Day, as it is a time when those in service or who lived away from home were able to visit home and go to thier Mother Church, ie Church you went to as a child.

It is the same as Christmas, if you want to jump on the comercial band wagon go on, but don't knock the sentiment behind a lovely day!

nh101 · 13/03/2007 12:50

All the mothers in my family get a total day off on Mother's Day - the men/children do all the work. I suppose if your kids are small your DH should do all the work.

Lullabyloo - that is so sad.

Crazydazy · 13/03/2007 12:50

I don't get on with my Mother either and are not actually talking at the moment, I might send her a card through the post if I remember.

DP's Mum on the other hand will get something nice from us and the kids because she acts like a Mum to me more than my Mum ever would.

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gobshite · 13/03/2007 13:07

I don't mean to know the sentiment behind the day. It's fine with me if other, more functional families do mothers' day really well, or mothering day or whatever you want to call it. I just can't stand the bloody thing, myself. I can only refer you to the admirable Misdee's four word summary of the day, which expresses my experience of mothers' day more pithily than I could have.

And I think it's a bit patronising not to have to cook and clean on that one day of the year, which sort of implies that it's your primary responsibility for the other 364 days

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AngharadGoldenhand · 13/03/2007 13:08

I take a basket of plants/bunch of flowers to my mother on Saturday and then am free to have a lie in or whatever on the Sunday.

The way I look at it is - she had 30 odd years of being visited on Mothering Sunday, this is my time with my kids.

But I don't particularly get on with her.

nh101 · 13/03/2007 14:52

gobshite, I see what you mean about it being patronising but the fact is my mum does do a lot around the house. All mums do. My sisters and their Dhs and kids all go to my mums each Sunday. Dad normally cooks a big meat dish, my mum a veggie dish and then we all chip in to clean up. Mother's Day - my mum just kicks back and enjoys a bottle or two of red wine! I think it is lovely, but of course if your family is a bit more dysfunctional (we're like the f'ing Brady Bunch) I can see it would be a drag. That's a shame.

TeeCee · 13/03/2007 14:56

It's up to your husband to worry about his own mum.

It'll up to your kids to worry about you when they are of that age.

It's just another day made up by card companies to get people to buy cards.
A card bought from my DP from my kids is okay and that but when my kids start making their own or just writing their own messages, that's when it means something and matters.

So - don't nag your DH about doing stuff for his own mum. Remind hima nd leave it htere.

Your kids will make their own cards in their own time when they are old enough.

If it's patronising - why worry about it, ignire it.

What's the waether got to do with anything? LOL!

bozza · 13/03/2007 14:57

But teecee they are old enough. They just need to be allowed to have the felt tips out when I am not there!

TeeCee · 13/03/2007 14:59

Well then give em the pens yourself, jeez, is it that big a deal?
Put the paper and pens on the table for em and have a cup of tea while they make a card for you, odesn't really matter does it, I mean really?!

deegward · 13/03/2007 15:00

I'm sorry I feel really strongly in defending its NOT another day made up by card companies.

TeeCee · 13/03/2007 15:02

Fine feel strongly about it if you like then!!!!!

LOL.

It'll only ever mean something to me when my kids are old enough to make their own cards and their dad isn't involved in it.
It's not 'DP appreciating all you do as a mother day'! That's a whole other day that can be made up for peoiple to be stressed about!

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gobshite · 13/03/2007 15:03

Ah don't mind me - I'm just ranting indirectly at my hubby, really, and at these hallmark holidays. You're right, of course, that I shouldn't bother nagging him about his own mum. Half my problems are of my own making.

I've had a nice cup of tea now, and calmed down immensely!

I still feel bit weird about the day, though, in an inconsistent, no-pleasing-her sort of a way. I feel either patronised by the sentiment, or ignored by the lack of it.

Hmmmm. Perhaps another nice cup of tea ...

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