Fucking mothers' day!

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Does anyone else get pissed off at mothers' day? Or is it only shite if you're married to my husband?

I hate it, really. I hate that I either order flowers for my mother in law, or nag the husband into so doing. I hate the way the kids feel like doing something but my dear beloved can't get his arse in gear to help them to make some cards or whatever. I hate the whole patronising mess of it, the way it happens at a crap time of year, when the weather is foul, and it's the middle of lent. I wish it was either in Summer, or over!

Mm. Enough about me. What do you think?

Oh ellceeel - so for you. It must be horrible. I know you would give your right arm to be able to buy for your mum but....I'm sorry, I'm totally disillusioned with it all. I've made dh promise that ds's wont buy me anything this year and buy into the whole commercialised crappiness of it all...all I wanted was a card made by ds's with whatever they wanted on it (more to encourage ds1 to draw/write really and spend a bit of QT with dh).

But my mum...well, thats a whole different kettle of fish..you know she actually said to me last week....if you're wondering what to get me for mother's day I'd like x! She just expects expensive gifts, wouldn't be happy with a bunch of flowers - Oh no. It is really p*g me off . I have to organise lunch for her, buy her presents, buy dh's mum a present and associated cards. So this year my dads birthday is on saturday, but she didn't want to combine the two, I've had to book a table somewhere on sat then another on Sunday! I'm putting my foot down next year and just spending the day with dh and my boys, staying in PJs all day and eating chocolate..now that is a perfect Mother's day.

Thanks Smoggie.

I must admit that in the past my perfect mother's day has been dh taking the children all out and leaving me in perfect peace on my own!

And I agree, it has all got over commercialised - why on earth has Ann Summers got posters in their window about it?

I'm sorry jajas. My mum died when I was quite young, and mum's day was always an odd day to me.

BUT, can and do "re-instate" it by ensuring dd ( 7 yo) makes a fuss.

M-I-L very traditional and demands awful fuckin' 1970s-style Mothers' Day cards with chenille swags and reams of gut-churning "poetry" inside. A nice, normal contemporary card with your own heartfelt message isn't good enough and gets quickly relegated from the mantelpiece to the window-ledge. She's the same at Christmas too...DH and I loved it one year when we found our perfectly acceptable (but non-OTT) card disdainfully stuck to wall with drawing pin whilst other siblings' padded Barbara Cartland-style efforts were resplendent above fireplace. Made amends the year later though with a Poundstretcher card-in-a-box - class, pure class

We usually visit both mothers on Mother's Day, although this year MIL will be on holiday. I have not arranged anything yet but will ring my Mum tonight I think.

Well I'm going to be starting a 100km trek through the sahara for charity (see me looking positive 5 months ago on justgiving dot com forward slash serenasahara

I'm really really sorry I won't be here because last year DS was 5 months old and I was so thick in the PND that I didn't give a toss, whereas I know this year would be lovely with DS bringing me a very squished flower or some such.... but this is all because it's the first time i've left them to it ever, .. and I'm a little worried about this sciatica that's cropped up this week So relaly I just don't want to go right now.

I hope some of you have the chance to spend a little bit of time enjoying yourselves, even if it means runnig your own bath and locking the door....

I like Mothers Day too, and I agree with whoever said the title was a bit strong.

I don't like swear words in the title at the best of times.

My mother is a great help to me, being a working single mother, I need all the help I can get!

I appreciate her all year round, but I'm taking her out for lunch on Sunday, buying her something nice to wear and DD is going to make her a card.

Ok - sorry about using the word fucking in the title. If anyone knows how to change it, or delete the thread, then please do, since it offends so many people

This weekend is University chucking out for Easter time, and dh is off to Edinburgh to pick up dss. The usual routine is that he comes to ours (as we are nearer) leaves most of his stuff in our spare room, then gets the train down to his mother's house the next day.

Also, we usually go out for lunch with dss and dd before he catches the train.

So, I said to dh that if he was planning that we should go out this Sunday, as usual, he had better book well in advance, as it is Mother's day you know^. He replied vaguely that he didn't know what dss's plans were, and that he'd probably want to leave early to get to his real mother's house. The vagueness means that there will be no nice lunch out this Sunday, and as dh doesn't do surprises, I know he has nothing else planned.

Dd tells me however that she has been sewing something for me at school.

Ok, thread hijack alert...
You might be facing a weekend from hell, but don't fear, Mumsnet is here. Who cares if you're only going to get a grubby bunch of carnations from the garage at the top of the road? To celebrate our day we've come up with an exclusive "Musical Gift" for you all. Singer-songwriter, Rosabella Gregory's debut album is released this July - and it really is rather lovely. (In fact, it's on pretty much permanent rotation in the AM household. DS says it makes him feel happy. Bless.)
Anyhow, I digress... we've arranged an exclusive, free download of the cracking track, Stay By You - plus the chance to listen to a couple more - for you all. Hopefully you'll think it's a nice pressie (that said, it's probably not going to be your cup of tea if you only listen to death metal or grime) but remember, it's the thought that counts.
Happy Mothers' Day (albeit in advance) and thanks for all your support this year,
Love Mumsnet HQ.
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Thatb song is lovely MN, thanks

So glad you like it. Sentiment seems (by pure coincidence) somewhat apt in current climate.

sweet song.

Abbey, c'mon, fess up - you are Rosabella gregory, yes? ...

This is the second Mother's day since my Mum died and I hate it.
I hate seeing all the cards and presents knowing I can't buy one for my Mum.
It will be 2 yrs on Monday adn I still feel guilty that I perhaps didn't do enough on Mothering Sunday when she was alive.

If only...

After listening to the song I am remembering that it's the thought that counts. Thank you for the thought.;)

Whoooosh - sending you a massive hug. xxx

I always miss my mum on mother's day too, whoosh. She was very strict about making us get her stuff and sulked if we forgot until we miraculously remembered and nicked money from my dad to run to the cake shop. She would have made puke noises at Rosella's song and demnded cake instead, I'm afraid.

Thank you

Scummy, you do make me laugh. The other two tracks are worth a listen though.

Cool- I'll give them a listen later. I'm feeling a bit headachey and crummy today so maybe that's clouding my judgement! And it is a lovely thought.