Fucking mothers' day!

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Does anyone else get pissed off at mothers' day? Or is it only shite if you're married to my husband?

I hate it, really. I hate that I either order flowers for my mother in law, or nag the husband into so doing. I hate the way the kids feel like doing something but my dear beloved can't get his arse in gear to help them to make some cards or whatever. I hate the whole patronising mess of it, the way it happens at a crap time of year, when the weather is foul, and it's the middle of lent. I wish it was either in Summer, or over!

Mm. Enough about me. What do you think?

Thanks Tasja. Of course I want to do the best I possibly can as a parent and avoid the mistakes my parents made. but part of that is never, ever expecting any child of mine to feel a certain way about me or do certain things for me just because I am their parent. I feel I should earn their love and respect. And that's one reason Mother's Day can be distressing - because it holds up this supposed ideal relationship with your mother and you feel pressurised to "show you care because she's your mum" etc. It's horrendously simplistic and doesn't reflect everyone's experience.

Poncy, american trish - it's a great word!

ahh gotcha! thanks!!

I've just grumpily answered a my door to find a chap holing a square box. Mrs Flower he queried yes I said, sign here please, so I did. I wasn't expecting anything so was a bit surprised

I notice a little document envelope which I've opened and the enclosed card, signed by my grown up DDs and grandson reads

Happy Mothers Day, the children you have cared for will never know how lucky they were to have you, but we do. With all our Love etc etc

Can't see to type very well, oh I love my kids

Ps The box holds a "Chocolate Dipping Adventure" from Hotel Chocolat

how lovely, flower

Chocolate dipping! Yummy

My own Mother does not like Mothers Day and always tells me not to buy anything for it (she also says that Mothers Day makes her feel old!!). Am glad honestly that she takes this stance; I would feel VERY uncomfortable about buying her stuff for such a day in any event mainly due to her total lack of interest in any of us as a family unit. She has other more pressing priorities these days; these include shopping , holidays, running around after childfree brother and cleaning his house.

She'll be in Rome on Sunday so I won't be seeing her.

Another person commented that their Mother is their best friend - I certainly do not see my Mother as my best friend at all (someone else fits that bill nicely). I always think of Fergie and her daughters when I read that comment - someone else who is doing their daughters no favours either by treating them as their best mate. Perhaps that is a subject for another thread.

i sent my mum a card so she would keep me in the will.

well i got my first ever mothers day card made by dd today thanks to playschool and the day itself is my birthday so i'd be expecting to be treated nicely anyway.... no money for presents or cards but tbh thats never interested me... a chance to put my feet up and have dp do the running around for a change will be lovely!

does anyone think that a Bonnie Tyler or Dolly Parton cd would be 'the perfect give for mothers day'?? cos that's what they keep saying on tv....pleeeease no

I dare anyone who gets one of those "perfect gifts for Mother's Day" to post and admit it - more so if they actually wanted it
(says she, hoping DH doesn't get one just to wind me up!)

My DM passed away the 3 days after Mothers day - 2 years ago, makes for a thoghful day for me. But I now resent buy MIL anything.

This year I have two babies (DD-3 and DS 3mnths) and DH has made a nice efort - in that he took DD to to Tesco to choose something and I got two little pots of flowers, one with a pink dolly and one with a blue dolly. I have had all my gifts now as the flowers could not be hidden. DH also got me a vase of flowers and an Apron saying Yummy Mummy - and it something I wanted and I love it. I have always wanted an apron - so there I am happy.

I will get a card on Sunday which will be full of DD's own special artowrk - DH does not tackle card making yet, but she did one at pre-school for me anyway. DS is too small to join in but will still get a big kiss from his emotional, soppy and happy mummy!

MIL has got a selection of commercialy produced unthoughful stuff and a card from us and one fom the DG's. But she is being a stubborn old boot at the moment and doesnt deserve anything thing. If she doesnt make the effort to get to us on Sunday (as we can't get to her, but have invited her to us) then I am having her flowers and DH will eat her chocs! She will just get the plastic crap and have to live with it. Also she wont get her cards till Tuesday!

we have always done something special on Mothering Sunday - my mum has my dd every school holiday and will never let me show my appreciation but on Mothering Sunday and her birthday she doesn't have the choice. I am a single working mum but always try to save up some money to go out for lunch on Mothering Sunday so I feel at least a little pampered

woolworths is full of crap mother's cds, who on earth decides what mothers like musically.

am looking forward to mmy annual breakfast in bed

i love it i got the Killers cd...... inside a big box of thorntons chocs.............what a surprise that was

organised by my mum (i am single parent)

but the girls did make me tea and toast in bed at 6.30 am which i have to say was sheer luxury

then we went out on bikes to the park, going to have pizza for tea..
and watch casulty.....................

spent the day trying to entertain ds, who is teething, after having got up at 5.30am to drop dh off in time to get his flight to afghanistan. Great first mothers day. I di have a fab home made card though!!

I spent a whole lotta effort making sure his 1st father's day was great for my husband. What do I get on my first ever mother's day? A husband with a strop on, a huge row the night before because he's working today - he didn't believe it was mother's day as we have a NZ calendar in the kitchen - it's diff date over there - and I could not possibly be right about the date of Mother's day! So, after another blazing row when he came in tonight, I have made him promise he MUST make it up to me next weekend, or I'll chop his balls off and hang 'em out to dry! I am deeply hurt and will forever remember my first mother's day when I didn't even get a card..

If you have high expectations, you set yourself up for disappointment.

I feel a bit guilty because I didn't get my act together to make sure my children's godmothers were remembered. Three of them don't have children of their own. Childless women must feel it on Mother's Day no matter how much they may have chosen to remain childless.

I celebrate Mothers day with a group called Mothers Acting up. They hold celebratory events around the world on Mothers Day that inspire, educate and engage our communities on issues concerning the world's children.
They base their idea of taking action on behalf of the world's children on the true meaning of Mother's Day, as envisioned by its founders in the United States, Anna Jarvis and Julia Ward Howe. Both of these amazing 19th century women intended their idea of a day set aside for mothers, to be one on which mothers came together for the benefit of others. You can find out loads of information on them all over the net. Even the BBC has an article on Anna Jarvis and how she worled tirelessly her whole life to try and reverse the growing commercialism happening on her day!!!

oh! and I forgot to add, that Mothers Acting Up just launched in the Uk too. You can find them online at www.mothersactingup.org.uk or in myspace, at www.myspace.com/mothersactingupuk.
Check it out if you're looking for something different to dig your teeth into!!!