Fucking mothers' day!

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Does anyone else get pissed off at mothers' day? Or is it only shite if you're married to my husband?

I hate it, really. I hate that I either order flowers for my mother in law, or nag the husband into so doing. I hate the way the kids feel like doing something but my dear beloved can't get his arse in gear to help them to make some cards or whatever. I hate the whole patronising mess of it, the way it happens at a crap time of year, when the weather is foul, and it's the middle of lent. I wish it was either in Summer, or over!

Mm. Enough about me. What do you think?

I agree deegward -

"Mothering Sunday is the fourth Sunday of Lent. Although it's often called Mothers' Day it has no connection with the American festival of that name.

Traditionally, it was a day when children, mainly daughters, who had gone to work as domestic servants were given a day off to visit their mother and family.

Today it is a day when children give presents, flowers, and home-made cards to their mothers.

History of Mothering Sunday

Most Sundays in the year churchgoers in England worship at their nearest parish or 'daughter church'.

Centuries ago it was considered important for people to return to their home or 'mother' church once a year. So each year in the middle of Lent, everyone would visit their 'mother' church - the main church or Cathedral of the area.

Inevitably the return to the 'mother' church became an occasion for family reunions when children who were working away returned home. (It was quite common in those days for children to leave home for work once they were ten years old.)

And most historians think that it was the return to the 'Mother' church which led to the tradition of children, particularly those working as domestic servants, or as apprentices, being given the day off to visit their mother and family.

As they walked along the country lanes, children would pick wild flowers or violets to take to church or give to their mother as a small gift."

Doesn't mean much to me yet, dd only 3, have reminded xp so I may get a card or something. (I'm sure the last one I got was a joke card about being an alcoholic or similar...)

I do enjoy it generally though. Get my mum a wee pressie and go out to lunch or something, always enjoyed making cards and doing her breakfast in bed as a child too.

Just ignore it if you don't like it I would.

the thread title is abit strong

Well read the last line of thios info on Mothers Day then:

Mothering Sunday was celebrated in Britain beginning in the 17th century

it was honored on the fourth Sunday in Lent

it began as a day when apprentices and servants could return home for the day to visit their mothers

they often brought a gift with them, often a "mothering cake" -- a kind of fruitcake or fruit-filled pastry known as simnels.

furmety, a sweetened boiled cereal dish, was often served at the family dinner during Mothering Sunday celebrations

by the 19th century, the holiday had almost completely died out

Mother's Day in Britain or Mothering Sunday came to be celebrated again after World War II, when American servicemen brought the custom and commercial enterprises used it as an occasion for sales, etc.

I thought it was a day for maids and servants to return home in the nineteenth century..and thus popular though possibly not with their employers

it began as a day when apprentices and servants could return home for the day to visit their mothers

they always seem to do it in tess of the d'urbervilles and mill on the flos and stuff

Do your DH's all go and see their mothers? Mine is pressured into it, but now we have a child of our own, I was half expecting that he would relieve me of some of my motherly duties for the day! Instead I am entertaining all the rest of my family at home, with the baby here as well - and no help from him as he won't be here but at a posh pub for his mum's lunch. think I have got a raw deal somewhat!!

how odd..why didn't you both go to the same party?

I have a horrible sinking feeling that my dcs are going to give me Dr Hook's Greatest Hits, because I was fool enough to sing along to the advert. Dd then said 'OOh you do like that band don't you mummy, you know all the words!" Cue lots of whispering with ds and giggling about mother's day, and the more I say I hate Dr Hook, the more they say "You just don't want us to spend our money on you".
I hate Dr Hook, and know I will have to play the damn thing several times with all appearance of pleasure, so I really really wish they were still of an age to give me a grubby finger painting. Fucking mother's day indeed.
I expect that sounds really ungrateful

Gosh is it that odd? I thought everyone was expected to see their own Mum - hence the reason for me doing a lunch here for my mum and my brother and sister. My mum actually isn't that fussed about Mother's Day - but my GOD, MIL would blow a gasket if she didn't see her beloved children.

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I don't remember it ever being a problem just saw one mum if it came up

now we see dp mum if she arranges lunch

I may or may not get cards from the kids..but then the same applies for bday!

Aaaargghhhh!

Managed to watch about 30 seconds out of sheer fascinated horror - check out the one in the stetson with the shirt open to the waist, chest so hairy he looks like he's wearing a large mohair bib!

I intend shutting DSs in a room with 2 balnk cards, pens, glue and assorted other stuff with instructions to make me a card and a present. Last year I got a sparkley crown

(And a load of clearing up!)

Am confident, and grateful, that DP will forget to give funds to DS1 and DS2 to get me a crappy present that is someone elses crappy cast-off from crappy Mothers Day stall at school.

Actually he won't forget, because it won't cross his mind in the first place.

I get the kids to make his mum something and then we sent it on behalf of our family.

If my kids do something for me then I'm touched, but I don't expect them to buy anything. I know they love me and don't want them to feel as though they only have to let me know this once a year. Mothers are here 24/7.

The trouble I have is with my own mother, she doesn't deserve the title 'mother' to be frank.

My DH is away until Saturday, he will come home , jet lagged and I wonder if he remebers that it is Mothers Day the next day.

I did shove his mothers card under his nose to sign before he left the country , I just have to remember to post it

I am looking forward to getting cards this year as both DDs are now in school/nursery.

My sodding exH normally has them on a Sunday, and wont swap with me because he is taking his Gran out for lunch and feels the girls should be there too.

WTF? This is their great grandmother, surely I should get a look in, what with having given birth to them and all that

hmmm dh bought cards from the girls for me for mothers day on sunday

I like Mother's Day .

I like listening to DD and DS making secret plans in big noisy whispers. DD just came in from Brownies and I could hear her and DH scabbling about for a hiding place for whatever it is she has made me.

I don't expect to be waited on hand and foot, I don't expect expensive presents, that's not what it's all about to my mind. For me, it is my kids taking a moment to realise I am a super mum (!!!) and for me to let my mum know I appreciate her.

I like a bunch of daffs and big hug from my kids. I buy my mum daffs too, no big commercial gestures, just a bunch of daffs and much love and appreciation for all she does for me.

Actually I hadn't realised it was Mum's day on Sunday.
Better get dd1 to make a card with me for Nanna!!!!

My mum died three years ago. I burst into tears in Smiths that year when I realised that I would never buy another mother's day card. I wish I could.

I like Mothers day

MIL and Dh have no contact but he does still sned a gift, he doesn't want to be the 'bad' aprty. Instead we see my Mum and Dad and have a nice day. I've spent many alone with the kids (DH often works and we share a car, aprents miles away) so I enjoy those which we can shar as a family.

Don't like swearing in thread titles though. Especially non- life threatening ones like this.

Oh FFS, I just realised I AM NOW A MUM which means I'm supposed to feel annoyed that no-one has noticed it's my FIRST Mother's Day. Can't blame DD, she's only five months though

I can't be arsed though, sorry. I've just got too much other stuff to be annoyed about. If someone sent me flowers I'd just forget to put them in water and they'd die. I'd also get 'green' angst about the flower miles (food miles not being enough to worry about)

But we do go see the parents on a monthly basis anyway and I just happen to be going on Friday, my mum's off knitting her own yoghurt or something this weekend though.

Oh and what is this law that says that when you marry someone you adopt responsibility for sorting out their mum's birthday/mothers day etc.??? DH asked me the other day whether 'we' had sorted anything out. I pointed to the card and asked him whether he'd like me to sign it as well as buy it and address and stamp the envelope!