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Is there a website where you can get advice on parenting?

177 replies

disillusioned · 04/03/2007 18:06

I know, I probably sound sarcastic. It just all seems so different these days. Unless you are a well known prolific poster or you are posting about something really unusual or outrageous, people just aren't interested.

You only need to look at some of the topics and you can see that posters who have concerns about their kids, parenting etc only get a few replies. Yet ask about sex toys, what's for dinner and baby names and you're inundated with replies.

When I joined MN I was amazed at the replies you would get when you started a thread, it seemed that people were genuinely interested. Nowadays, there are umpteen unanswered threads and it all seems more superficial.

I know there are times when everyone comes together eg the christmas pressie thing, but on a day to day basis no one really cares anymore.

Btw, I've just changed my name as I've just noticed a thread when someone was moaning about my name being similar to theirs. Will be sticking with this from now on.

OP posts:
harpsichordcarrier · 04/03/2007 19:19

I was just pointing out precisely how wrong you were
given this parade of people who do care
I was trying to cheer you up
(The NCT brigade swipe was just annoying though)

Tamum · 04/03/2007 19:19

Harpsi was referring to fortyplus's comment though, surely?

Bobalina · 04/03/2007 19:20

Dis, just wanted to say hi. I can totally see where you are coming from. think you're probably having a bad day, we all do. Hope you perk up soon. Don't feel like a prat or anything similiar because you are not. You've just said what alot of other non-prolific posters probably feel (me included).

harpsichordcarrier · 04/03/2007 19:21

sorry my ahem "sense of humour" is obviously a little opaque this evening
I was trying to say LOOK AT ALL THESE PEOPLE WHO CARE ABOUT YOU and they don't even know who you are
take heart, dear heart

Dior · 04/03/2007 19:22

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fortyplus · 04/03/2007 19:24

I was just posting a provocative comment on purpose to illustrate the fact that someone would immediately rise to the bait and get all arsey.

Point proven

hunkermunker · 04/03/2007 19:24

Dis, I know who you are then - please, please feel free to chat any time, OK? And have a hug too x x x x

BandofMothers · 04/03/2007 19:25

But what IS the NCT???
See dis, I'm being ignored too.

fortyplus · 04/03/2007 19:25

National Childbirth Trust

WanderingTrolley · 04/03/2007 19:26

I'm sorry you're upset, disillusioned, I really don't think anyone intended that.

We're all entitled to a moan and I don't think anyone thinks badly of you.

fortyplus · 04/03/2007 19:26

And a very fine organisation it is, too, actually. But it does seem to attract a few holier than thou types.

Oops... there I go again

BandofMothers · 04/03/2007 19:27

Ooooooooooooh.
Have heard of that. Thought this was some mumsnet equivalent, witty name using same initials, or something of that sort. Thanks 40+.

hunkermunker · 04/03/2007 19:28

And FP, I can be kind, you know. When the mood takes me

However... When people post "wean your 6wo if he's hungry , trust your instincts" or "of course topping up with six bottles a day won't hurt your supply with a newborn" I can't help posting conversely. It's a little tic of mine. I like people to have accurate info

Dior · 04/03/2007 19:28

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Ladymuck · 04/03/2007 19:28

Disillusioned, I know what you mean, but I think that you also have to see that a request for advice isn't likley to end up in the sort of debates that have a 100+ posts (like this one). If someone asks "is green poo normal in a 2week old bfed baby?", then the chances of getting more than a couple of posts in response is probably limited - there are only so many ways in which one can say "yes" or even "probably". But if someone asks "tell me about the worst poo experiences that you've had", who knows where the thread will go.

I think that the title of a thread (and in particular the tone of the title) is crucial as to whether you will get many responses or not.

SherlockLGJ · 04/03/2007 19:28

Dis

I think you are on my MSN feel free to nudge me.

hunkermunker · 04/03/2007 19:29

I think there are holier than thou types in pretty much any organisation, FP, so not sure what your point is there?

fortyplus · 04/03/2007 19:31

I'm doing it on purpose - I love the NCT really!

hunkermunker · 04/03/2007 19:31

Old people today, eh?

SherlockLGJ · 04/03/2007 19:32

Oi Hunker

Less of the old, please.

littlelapin · 04/03/2007 19:32

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AitchTwoOh · 04/03/2007 19:33

harpsi, your post wasn't unclear, really.

I'm sorry that Disillusioned is having a bad time of it, and i agree with her that all the fanjo/ladygarden stuff is cringeworthy, and i myself don't post on them. a lot of people like them, so there we are.

but i completely, utterly dispute the point that only threads started by prolific posters get a response. it just can't be true, given that you can't see the OP in active convos once just one person has posted.

and as it happens i remember what QueenEagle was talking about and it was a lot more complicated than just plain potty training. not that i had anything to offer on the subject, anyway, because DD is not at that stage yet.

I've received my fair share of shreddings on here (most recently from someone who told me that i actually answered too many posts and was very nasty indeed about it, so you can't win). but i've also received some great advice and had some laughs. I hope you will continue to receive support here.

fortyplus · 04/03/2007 19:33

PMSL[grin} touche (don't know how to stick an accent on it... too old for all this new fangled technology)

hunkermunker · 04/03/2007 19:33

Oh, sorry lovey.

fortyplus · 04/03/2007 19:33

Can't type, either