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Quootie's friends here please - new support thread

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beegeeWithBellsOn · 22/12/2006 22:27

Hello Quootie - thought we should start a new thread.

Will be thinking about you tonight. Hope you can get some rest. Could you try having a bath or something? Can really help me to un-wind.

OP posts:
Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 10:22

GP closed
PALS closed
Mental Health Team Closed
Crisis Team "we only offer over the phone support/ couselling - but we are on a tight scedule"
A & E guy Uncontactable

Me Fucked off

lulumama · 23/12/2006 10:43

speak to the crisis team, explained what has happened.that you are scared of being alone over xmas with no support and no hope of the right therapy.......make contact and make someone listen...

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 11:24

I phoned crisis team. They said just ring them when I need to - and they will talk to me over the phone. I said I needed support, desperatly. They just said the only offer over the phone couselling like support. And are tight for time.

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 11:28

Phoned out of hours GP... nothing there either. Just asked if I had friends/family for support until the 27th . I said no. I need proper help - I can't believe they can just leave me over Christmas like this really, theres no sort of help until they have finished stuffing their faces with turkey and Christmas pudding.

Glassofwine · 23/12/2006 11:36

QP - have been lurking for a while and am very sympathetic to all you are going through. Where are you based? My mum runs a therapy centre and they often take 'low cost' clients.

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 11:37

Bracknell-Berkshire

Glassofwine · 23/12/2006 11:39

bum! - she's in south London, have just called her to ask advice and remembered she's in Germany seeing my brother - sorry my brain has turned to mush. Will talk to her later and ask her advice.

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 11:40

Thankyou hun xxx

noddyholder · 23/12/2006 11:40

Sorry if I haven't followed the thread correctly but what is it exactly that you need from them?Is it medication?Because if it is a life threatening situation go to a&e they can prescribe from there.

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 11:45

I really dont know noddy hun. I doubt they will give me medication, as I might OD on it, I don't feel suicidal or anything... im just feeling very at the end of my tether with it really. Im getting stressed because I thought id be in the full swing of treatment by now, and when I get stressed, all the PTSD stuff comes into play and I go into abit of a meltdown. Nothing severe... I don't start bouncing off the walls, just mental breakdown abit. I can function... but im so worn down with having a daytime nightmare going on in my head, but obviously, because im "ok"... theres nothing people will do.

noddyholder · 23/12/2006 11:58

If you aren't feeling suicidal why would you od on it?Do you have anyone around with you over xmas?You sound quite together and tbh my mum had a sever breakdown several years ago and she couldn't even get out of bed so you don't sound at that stage as you can still chat on here and get support from your friends.Do you think if you try and accept that nothing major is going to be done until after xmas it might take the pressure off and let you relax a bit?Why don't you go for a walk and get out in the air and maybe stop for a coffee and just try and centre yourself to get through the next few days.

Glassofwine · 23/12/2006 12:03

I think that QP needs to feel that someone is taking her seriously, I think a bit of space and a coffee is a bit simplistic.

By the way QP - I know it's not ideal, but while you are not in any therapy why not try one of the free online CBT courses for the time being.

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 12:07

Im always calm. I don't really show all the axienty or whatever on the outside. When I took the OD I was calm. 2 years ago, when I would say I did have a breakdown, I was more... all over the place outwardly, but still, when my mum was there, or I went to the GP, I just have this "knack" (?) for seeming so calm and together! Maybe I am feeling suicidal? I don't know. Obviously im not that bad right now, because, as you say, I am pretty "together". But it physically hurts keeping it together. I am a little scared ill explode, but its morelike imploding. I sound like a right fruitcake! Internally im screaming sometimes... externally im doing something mundane like the washing up. I assure you, im not mad or anything! Just all these flashbacks... and things like that. They take their toll on me.

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 12:08

Ill have a google for one, thanks Glass xXx

noddyholder · 23/12/2006 12:09

I am suggesting space and coffee for today and the the next few days to get her out and about as there is no help for her until after xmas Obviouslty if it was the true answer starbucks would be doing a roaring trade!It is very difficult to suggest anything on here without someone shooting down your suggestion No wonder people get p'd off with it

Glassofwine · 23/12/2006 12:11

Sorry Noddy - didn't mean to sound harsh, or to shoot you down.

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 12:11

Noddy hun - I value you're suggestion! I can't get out today, too much to do, and a long walk to starbucks BUT, you have a point... doing something, anything to take my mind off things... just for a few days more... its probably just what I need xXx

Glassofwine · 23/12/2006 12:13

Sounds familiar Quootie - I've been suffering a bit recently. I often feel that I'm hanging on by my fingernails, if I let go then I'll go falling, down, down, down and that'll be it. I guess I keep holding on in the hope that it'll get easier. It's bloody hard work though.

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 12:15

There's really 2 aspects... I need I guess the chilling out, taking my mind off things, reading a good novel, having a natter, having some coffee also the more serious aspect that I do need something professional. The A & E guy knew what he was on about... and I can't just keep... pushing things aside with deterrants (sp?) including ADs. I need real, proper help to stop all this stuff happening. And its coming to a head at the worst time of year! BUT, ive coped 2 years... I shall just have to club together every other coping mechanism for another few days and hope I don't burn out.

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 12:16

EXACTLY Glass. I guess I just don't want the hassle anymore. It's bloody hard going, and I had this shimmer of a saviour when this fella suggested this treatment! Just be able too get rid of this... im tired of it. But, ill have to keep going... for the time being

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 12:18

I feel so much better now for talking already. I was crying earlier, when I couldnt get anyone to help. Guess now its sinking back in I have 3 options, Immediate help, OD, or just hang on in there. Feeling abit more able for no.3 now

Glassofwine · 23/12/2006 12:21

Sometimes you just have to give yourself a good talking too. Yesterday dh sent me off to London, had booked me an appointment at Charles Worthington to have my hair done. This was a huge treat as we've been broke for ages. He looked after the lo's and said to stay and shop etc. I found myself walking up Oxford street feeling miserable - I had to give myself a kick and then found £10 on the pavement. Decided to see it as a positive sign and to try to enjoy the day. I did feel a bit better.

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 12:26

I go through waves of feeling utter pants. Usually I can talk myself back round to feeling OK again though... or other do

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 12:26

*others

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 15:12

DH just text ~ he didn't go to work, he's at his mums