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Quootie's friends here please - new support thread

419 replies

beegeeWithBellsOn · 22/12/2006 22:27

Hello Quootie - thought we should start a new thread.

Will be thinking about you tonight. Hope you can get some rest. Could you try having a bath or something? Can really help me to un-wind.

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idontlikecrusts · 23/12/2006 15:50

CMHTs not CNHTs

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 15:51

our crisis team is literally just like samaritans. I dont even think they are properly linked with mental health, the way they were going on

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 15:53

where's Lewisham?

idontlikecrusts · 23/12/2006 15:58

Lewisham is SE London

Okay, so you are not currently suicidal and that is good - do you think you could become so before 27th?

lulumama · 23/12/2006 16:00

was just about to ask that

how exactly are you feeling right now. apart from pissed off and angry

and lucky dh having fun at his mums

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 16:01

feeling down, emotional... abit shaky.

idontlikecrusts · 23/12/2006 16:05

And how are you coping with meeting DSs needs when you are feeling so awful. That's the part that I struggle with when things have been ludicrously bad and that in itself can be depressing knowing that one is only able to achieve the minimum for the children. Not saying this is you but just wondered really.

lulumama · 23/12/2006 16:06

so not suicidal right now......so you feel a bit more together than when you ODd..that;s very positive...

are you being honest with yourself and us about how you are?

idontlikecrusts · 23/12/2006 16:08

Do you have any fear of getting help because you feel there may be implications for your relationship and your ds?

lulumama · 23/12/2006 16:09

good point IDLC>..i can assure you quootie...DS will not be taken from your care

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 16:10

100% fine with DS Even managing abit of cheerful play...was abit less "into it" a week odd ago, but that was tiredness

Not feeling like I did when I ODd, no...

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 16:12

I waited until DH was home when I ODd... so even when im "extreme", I can function...like that

idontlikecrusts · 23/12/2006 16:12

Absolutely lulumama. You may not be the same but it helps me to face worst case scenarios as I know that in the back of my mind I am worrying about them and that creates a dangerous level of inertia. If you do have any fears like this, as a general rule Social Services, etc. look very favourably on those who are able to be quite proactive due to good self awareness - you have shown you have these abilities. This may be unfair for those who really don't have a grip on stuff but I have found this to be the case.

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 16:13

and id be 100% honest if I felt DS was suffering in the slightest.

lulumama · 23/12/2006 16:14

quootie....you need to really address the root of this...and taking an OD really needs addressing..and when you are more sorted, you can decide how to address the other issues in your life

might have missed this, but do you have your own family, mum, dad , sisters etc to support you in all this

and RL friends?

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 16:17

the phycho dynamic thing was going to address the root of this, instead of just having medication to ease symtoms...

only have mum around and id never tell her about this, same with RL friends...

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 16:17

bad spelling. one handed typing

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 16:18

DH not coming home now - he's going out with his 1/2 brother

lulumama · 23/12/2006 16:29

DS can f**k off ...god help him if i ever meet him in RL

why on earth would you hide this from your mum and friends

1 in 4 people have some sort of mental health issue at some point in their lives..you won;t be alone ! as soon as i told people about my own PND. so many of them said , oh yes, i suffered too, but though it was the only one

lulumama · 23/12/2006 16:29

DH !! god not DS , so sorry quootie...angry !

lulumama · 23/12/2006 16:30

can it not be a two pronged approach.. meds and therapy?

Quootiepie · 23/12/2006 16:31

my mums knows, well, she did. She paid for me to go private to get it sorted... I lied and said I was ok, because she kept hassling me to be OK.

lulumama · 23/12/2006 16:32

quootie......((((hug)))) that is so sad

can you not tell her you are far from ok and have not even the support of DH? is there not one RL friend you can talk to?

MerrilyTooBuzzi · 23/12/2006 16:32

Q... oh "feck" about DH..what a "fecking fecker" he is being.

sorry just had to rant for you.

idontlikecrusts · 23/12/2006 16:33

Being unsupported by the person you love isn't going to do much for your health honey. It's not good enough to make a few phonecalls for you.

God! being a carer is fucking hard but it's no excuse for not being there when you feel so low.

Sorry for you.

I don't tell my family about OH - I just feel guilty for burdening them because it feels worse seeing them not deal with it than keeping it to myself.

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