Quootie's friends here please - new support thread

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Hello Quootie - thought we should start a new thread.

Will be thinking about you tonight. Hope you can get some rest. Could you try having a bath or something? Can really help me to un-wind.

Sorry I dont know all your circumstances, If a psychiatrist said that to me about sleeping with my husband, I would be making an official complaint about inappropriate comments!
You seem to be getting treated very shabbily by the system, or lack of system.

I am so sorry you are not getting the help you need.

Lou

I don't quite know what the justification is for not entering the system excpet that it is an unpleasant thought for anybody and I understand that.

However, I have found in the years supporting OH and also working in mental health myself, that care via the GP canbe very patchy. A CPN is better placed to coordinate care and also provide support in limited ways whilst waiting for further treatment goes on.

Could you see another CBT therapist perhaps - would that be worth at least a try?

I don't know if you ever posted about what the stress was that caused PTSD but I am detecting that it is maybe some form of (sexual?) abuse in light of what you have said about your partner. Please forgive me if I am utterly wrong.

Is there anything I can do to help? I worked for a mental health support service in Cumbria and so have expereince of advocacy and the guidelines etc.

I think you should just yell loudly!

shit. I don't mean what YOUR justification is obviously! I mean the person that said that to you.

sorry

The first thing she said when I walked in the door was how was I paying? I said "oh, is cheque ok?" She said "no, how are you paying" - I was 19 so maybe she thought id do a runner without paying. She went on in the same vein. £210 an hour. I would never have the guts to make a complaint.

Anyway, I think im off to bed. What a crappy end to what was a starting to be a good day

2 secs and ill answer your post hun xxx

Night night,

The end of a crappy day offers the hope of a better one!

x

here the old thread

I only went to feed DS & fell asleep, meant to answer your post before I went to bed!

Well, I guess they didn't want me in the system, although incidents of suicidalness (that a word?) and I said Id probably try it again, there doesn't appear to be anything "wrong" with me. Maybe they just thought I was going through abit of teenage "angst". Might be abit my fault, I always test the water... tell them a little bit, and based on how they react to that, decide whether I want to open up old wounds, just to be left open. Maybe it was because they guy... coaxed alot of of me, I felt able to open up to him. I like my GP, so maybe I should just start at point 1 and work my way down. Maybe it's abit of me thinking they are mindreaders... FOr some reason, really no idea why, I do open up more to guys. Maybe its because the private psychiatrist was a cow, and the NHS woman who saw me (not sure what she was) brushed alot of things aside... like when I said I was scared of dying (at one point, I had a total phobia about it, it was really really bad) she said "oh, isn't everyone? I'm double your age!".

Ill see if GP is open today, to try and get this sorted. I had a bad dream again about it last night, but it's one of those ones the more you try and think about it, the more you forget...

{{big hug}}

goodness - Quootie that is NOT at all a typical CBT or psychaitric experience - the woman sounds like a total shyster and the man pretty useless.

DH had a course of CBT (about 15 sessions in the end I think) and they really did so much good, I couldn't recommend it enough. It still may not be the most suitable thing for you (he didn't have the same thing as you) but rest assured you didn't experience it being done properly by the sound of things.

DH was eventualy referred to the mental health team of the local health authority and that was a LOT more useful than the GP. But it was more a matter of luck than anything else that he got referred, sounds like normally you have to kick up a stink - which is shite really isn't it.

anyhow, good luck. And if you prefer being treated by males, no worries, stick with that. Whatever works

Thanks... Ill just have to kick up a stink, which I hate, but has to be done.

for anyone who is intrested, heres a link to what the A & E guy recommended Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy because id never heard of it before!

Just been looking at the private prices ~ around £60 for the initial consultation, whereas the private psychiatrist was £210, so it might be worth the financial investment if the NHS frigs me around again. Shame this started before I had private health insurance!

It's unbelievable the things some of these 'therapists' have said to you......but I can relate to it, I'm afraid.

I went through the NHS mental health system myself - at the time I was having some hallucinations because of severe anxiety. I said to the NHS councellor I had been referred to 'it gets so bad it's like someone has spiked my drink or something'...as way to try and explain it. She said 'oh, do you think someone might have?' I didn't know what to say...I was for her - she didn't 'get' what I was on about at all.

I then started getting paranoid that maybe someone WAS spiking my drinks!! (completely irrationally - all around me were loving and would never do something like that)...in short - I closed up to her and then when I was walking home from the session I became severely paranoid. Really set me back, actually.

I went private - met brilliant woman...it so depends on the individual counsellor.

How you feeling this morning? Bad dreams again, eh?

Yep, another uneasy dream. Not a nightmare (ive had those before, so don't call bad dreams nightmares anymore!) I think because I went to sleep with this on the brain!

it would probably be less hassle to go do a course in Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy and treat myself!

Yes - you've got a huge amount on your mind...at least you slept some?

Just been looking at that therapy. I think it def sounds worth a try.

LOL - treat yourself - yes, you'll be an expert anyway once you've recovered - can treat people on MN!

yes - for free im hoping these threads will be help to some people anyway - i know lurking on threads sometimes help me

BTW - with regards to PND - I know you're suffering from PTSD, but you've probably got PND too as a result of having your ds. PND doesn't mean you don't love your ds or anything - or that you didn't want him (ie wanting to reject him) - I know how much he is wanted and is obviously loved by you.

I mean, I'm no expert - but a lot of PTSD has similar symptoms to PND - I know as I had 'both'...kind of in the same family of mental illnesses IYSWIM.

Don't think you were misdiagnosed by being told you had PND - just think that's not obviously the full story - and THAT'S where the system let you down.

Watching other threads always help me too!

i didnt have a baby when diagnosed with PND...

eh?

that was after the abortion Just an easy diagnosis for her. Because no way could I have been traumatised by that

mmmm, I see what you're saying.

But what do you mean, not traumatised? It was very traumatic for you - plus hormones swimming around...all contributing factors for PND...or am I just not getting what you're saying? Sorry...

I see what you mean about easy diagnoses