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SAHMs - Why don't you work?

160 replies

discordia · 27/04/2004 15:09

The "Why do you work?" thread was very interesting (and it helped me with an essay I'm writing!) so I just wondered about SAHMs - did you choose to stay at home, is it impossible for you to work, is being a SAHM enough fulfilment for you ... etc.

I am a SAHM myself although now that both my kids are at school I'm studying part-time, planning to work part time from Sept. I found being a SAHM hard but glad I did it.

OP posts:
hercules · 28/04/2004 23:37

It is not a point of having £20 left over but simply needing 2 wages to pay the bills.

baldrick · 28/04/2004 23:39

I rest my case, sorry

hercules · 28/04/2004 23:40

Please dont be sorry!

baldrick · 28/04/2004 23:43

am not, it's just that do feel strongly about sahm mums, if you've got financial commitments to cover fine, but unless you are earning £15,000 between you...it could work ...am not hard nosed just think that if you really want to be asahm mum anything is possible

hercules · 28/04/2004 23:44

That is not the real world. Dh earns far more than that . £15000 would not cover our mortgage never mind anything else!

baldrick · 28/04/2004 23:46

btw, whilst I was a sahm we bought one bed for ds, the rest was old stuff...ie.didn't buy any furniture

hercules · 28/04/2004 23:46

Baldrick- what about food?

hercules · 28/04/2004 23:48

We could have both given up work and claimed benefits therefore being stay at home but are both fit, able, well qualified to work so could hardly justify this.

baldrick · 28/04/2004 23:53

am off to bed now, our house size is our own choice, all am trying to say is people could live in smaller houses with smaller mortgages...although not easy...anything is possible...night

hercules · 28/04/2004 23:54

Baldrick - mine is 2 bedroomed, shared ownership. Couldnt get much cheaper. please dont assume things.

nightowl · 28/04/2004 23:55

Sorry to butt in herc but i think baldrick is just up for a fight again....she seems to be trying to blow up a few threads tonight IMO.

hercules · 28/04/2004 23:56

I think you are right nightowl and i got sucked in . yet again

nightowl · 28/04/2004 23:58

not your fault herc...she knows exactly what shes doing when she posts....i thought it was too good to be true that shes been nice for a couple of weeks.

baldrick · 28/04/2004 23:59

please, am not trying to blow a few threads at all, I agree about many things but here I have my views...not necessarily correct and thought out views btw

hercules · 28/04/2004 23:59

I should know this by now though. Another late night!

baldrick · 28/04/2004 23:59

my views that is

nightowl · 29/04/2004 00:00

i thought you were going to bed baldrick?

baldrick · 29/04/2004 00:02

yes, I am, need a good night's sleep (please don't think am up for an arguement everytime I disagree with something...it's just the way I am...sorry)

nightowl · 29/04/2004 00:06

Well if you know your posts are going to upset people why enter the debate in the first place? you dont know that individual's circumstances so you have no place to judge.

nightowl · 29/04/2004 00:08

you stil here hercules? didnt mean to hyjack you!

Ghosty · 29/04/2004 00:35

Not again ....

nightowl · 29/04/2004 00:36

Hi Ghosty, how are you?

Ghosty · 29/04/2004 05:06

Sorry nightowl ... I logged off after my last post ...
I'm fine thanks ... You?

dis · 29/04/2004 13:13

Sorry if someone has already made thie point (haven't got time to read the whole thread) but why is looking after someone else's children as childminder/nanny etc seen as a 'proper job' while doing the same thing for your won children is not working? Really p*** me off.

dis · 29/04/2004 13:13

that should say 'own' children.