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surrendered wife

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mandy111 · 15/10/2012 22:15

hi my name is mandy i am new today, i am a surrendered wife i have 2 lovely children, and a lovely husband looking forward to chatting to peoplexx

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MrRected · 17/10/2012 02:19

Mandy - this is a serious question.

When you were deciding to become a surrendered wife, did you consider the option of your husband becoming the surrendered husband?

What was the rationale behind your decision. Why can't a woman take the dominant role?

ComradeJing · 17/10/2012 02:44
lotuseener · 17/10/2012 05:54

Link to the netmums thread please!!!

antsypants · 17/10/2012 06:48

link

EdithWeston · 17/10/2012 06:50

Mandy: you said you wanted to talk, but all you've made is a few posts in this one thread. Is there nothing else on MN at all that interest you enough to post about?

You might like to use the 'search' function, for you will see that the concept of the surrendered wife has been discussed here several times before eg here.

BertieBotts · 17/10/2012 08:20

The NMs thread is going to anger me isn't it?

Must...not...click

ChaosTrulyReigns · 17/10/2012 08:27

Without clicking, I can guess that someone probably said "You know your hubs, hun". xx

Chopsypie · 17/10/2012 08:29

Im not one to generally shout 'troll' but this exact thread was on NM about 2 days ago....

If genuine...
Good luck to you. But I think I'm with the other poster who has a surrendered husband

Littlemissimpatient · 17/10/2012 08:30

OP are you Mel or Mandy or both?!

AKissIsNotAContract · 17/10/2012 10:36

That's the first time I've looked at NM. Can we tempt some of them over here. That Stephen sounds like a sensible chap, we could do with a few more of them.

MousyMouse · 17/10/2012 10:41

is it half term yet?

MoreBeta · 17/10/2012 11:03

Is it possible your DH might actually not really like your surrendered status? I mean, is this something you decided to do on your own and effectively just abdicated responsibility for everything to him without asking him and he has he has effectivley no choice but to go along with it?

What if he became disabled or seriously ill?

Not at all sure I would like my wife to become 'surrendered' at all. It seems like I would be responsible for everything and she would have no responsbility at all other than what I delegated to her - which frankly is just like being an employee.

We are much stronger because we challenge each other are equal in everything and obviously share responsibility and work load.

BrainSurgeon · 17/10/2012 13:07

there there, don't worry yourself too much about OP's husband I'm sure she will be very happy do whatever he needs either way... no?

GossipWitch · 17/10/2012 13:18

So let me get this straight, you basically run around after your husband do the chores etc etc, fair enough if he's out working and your a sahm, but in my head I'm getting a fifties wife with apron and everything waiting for your husband at the front door, with a pipe and a cup of tea and a massive fake smile asking how his day has been whilst he barely notices you (and your broken ankle from a fall earlier that day) and starts moaning about work whilst scanning a paper.

Please tell me I'm wrong.

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mandy111 · 18/10/2012 17:24

person i have learned to trust my husband and by letting him take the reins out relationship is much better for it, my husband works hard, and i feel i should give him the life he deserves, i think a man is a better leader than a woman more stronger, i think a man should be the head of his house, i did take a vow to love honour and obey him i wish i had taken my vows more seriously when i married him if i had known then what i know now i would have done it sooner, my hubby no this is not a wind up why would it be i am in a happy marriage with 2 children, in answer do i have sex on demand, i do not call it that but yes i do nowt and i really wouldent want to say to my husband i love being a traditional wife to my husband, who treats me with lots of respect i just do things alot differently than you would my 2 children are not loved any less than your children i feel that our life is equal, my husband does a lot for us provides for us keeps a house over our heads, i decided this path when i felt our marriage was a bit stale i was always controlling wanted everything my own way i just feel if you sop trying to be the lead and right in everything, you can be a better has never laid a hand on me he is very loving..... never read the book 50 shades of grey so cant comment there but as for stepford no i am not a robotxx

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mandy111 · 18/10/2012 17:32

can someone tell me what nm is and who mel is please or are you just trying to be funny with me i cant make it out reallyxx

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winemakesmeclever · 18/10/2012 17:45

I guess everyone's entitled to their point of view but the whole concept just leaves me cold. Sorry.

winemakesmeclever · 18/10/2012 17:46

nm is Netmums by the way. Not too sure about Mel myself actually...

ScarahScreams · 18/10/2012 17:48

Wow

So when did you see the light? What was the turning point to blanking out your personality and sense of self?

BigBroomstickBIWI · 18/10/2012 17:55

Oh dear.

HappyHalloweenMotherFucker · 18/10/2012 18:00

Being a surrendered wife appears to make you regress to having the punctuation skills of a 7yo xx

Chubfuddler · 18/10/2012 18:06

I was just going to day the op surrendered punctuation but got beaten to it.

Damn.

PrincessSymbian · 18/10/2012 18:14

So, what is the general consensus on merlons as I really can't be asked to go and read it!
We had someone who was in a slave/master relationship recently, cannot say she was greeted too warmly either.

PrincessSymbian · 18/10/2012 18:15

Netmums! Bloody iPhone!