surrendered wife

[mandy111]

hi my name is mandy i am new today, i am a surrendered wife i have 2 lovely children, and a lovely husband looking forward to chatting to peoplexx

There's that grace and class! There is no need to feel sorry for my husband, nor is he "geting it somewhere else" he doesnyt need to. We make love when we want to, not because we have to. And my son is extraordinarily happy, not just that, he respects other people, even women. And if he were here, he'd be telling you to grow up. And he's seven off you trot dear, time to reapply that lippy ready for the lunchtime blowjob,

Empress, exactly.

This exact same thread word for word to the original post is running on netmums... not that it matters I guess. Can't help but feel like the op is trying to convert people a bit to be honest.

I am quite a traditional woman with a traditional set up ... my husband works , I stay home, I do house stuff etc but that is my choice to do so because I want to. I manage the finances and we have sex because we both want to. If you're being bullied or asked to and you go along with it even if you don't want to well you'll end up resenting it. It's actually makes me feel quite sick to think women surrender themselves like this... what would you say to your daughter if she lived like that?!!

Sorry but I think it's all wrong. You don't have to live like that. I'd rather be on my own.

Actually all the things in Mandy's first description of a surrendered wife on the thread sound pretty sensible, though I haven't ploughed through the rest of the thread.

I just don't like the term "surrendered". Marriage is about compromise, not surrendering, completely different to me.

Oh sorry someone already said about netmums. Oops.

Oh lord.
I just spat coffee at the screen at 'they respect others you should try it bitches'.

Woozley, did you get as far as 'Trust their husbands in every aspect of marriage - from sexual to financial'?

Antsy confessed? You mean I wrote that lovely long understanding post for nothing?

I'm going back to look.

I think I overinterpreted the 'may have been waiting for this thread' comment...

Mandy if your post was not just a windup then I am sorry you were spoken to and made fun of. Bullying and laughing/poking fun at people who are different to you is never acceptable.

Your beliefs are not for me but whatever works for you is absolutely great. I feel the same about religion. None of them are for me but whatever works for someone else, as long as it makes them happy and a better person.

I do hope that you come back as I think having diverse opinions is brilliant and gives us a more "real world" feel to Mumsnet. Instead of everyone saying the same thing with not many new perspectives and food for thought.

Yes, I think Antsy might have been thinking about doing a windup thread on the subject.

I'm glad your children have self respect.
My children are 14,13&9. Not only do they have self respect, they also have respect for women and thankfully will never be in a relationship like yours. This is because we have raised our children to believe in themselves, to respect people, to value equality and not to assume in my DDs case that a man needs to look after her and tell her what to do, think, say. And in DS case we have raised them in a way that they would never dream they need to be in control because they are male and never dream that their partners should have sex whenever they want to, regardless of how their partners feel.

I'd be a surrendered wife for Tom Hardy. He wouldn't have to tell me twice

nkf

We were given the surrendered wife as a joke wedding present. It's our go to book when we want a good laugh. Mostly we joke about who gets to be surrendered that week. Being the one with the Maths degree and the higher income I usually lose because if we surrendered all the financial decisions to him we'd have a feck off great big stero system, be unable to move for CDs and a well stocked wine cellar. We'd also still have a mortgage and debts.

I was just looking at what I presumed was Mandy111's thread on Netmums, where she calls herself MelW - strangely, though, she said on that yesterday 'i havent been on any other chat forums either, so its hard for me to get around and no whats what'.

So if they are not the same person, presumably being a surrendered wife also involves compulsory bad grammar and spelling, and the obligation to sign off every post with xx. Even more reason not to be one...

(I wonder how many other websites she (he?) has not been on, trying to spread the word?)

Also she seems to have five children on netmums and only two on here. Very strange.

And here's another forum she hasn't been on : 'hi my name is mandy'

I didn't start the thread, I was just waiting to see if one was started here, I have to admit to being pushed over the edge by people buying into it and have now decided to stop being a forum floozy and commit fully to here, if only because of your sane replies, because for a while... I thought I was mad (So dramatic)

That netmums feminism results post got about 6 replies and this thread thousands... Absolutely crazy shit.

You're a forum floozy? How exciting.

Yep, she's either a troll or a member of that writing group who try out story ideas on forums.

What on earth is she trying to get out of this?

Apparently she is new to every forum!

She obviously prefers the netmums though, she didnt call any of them bitches

Only because it would take to long to get around the swear filter TAB

B1tchs, Beatches, Biatchies, B.I.T.C.H.E.S, I31tches are just some of the attempts I have seen in my time... Heh

Ah I have the secret to that.

You do it like this f u c k you b i t c h e s