WIITs take things to the third thread, hoping the Gruffalo stays in his bed.

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Welcome to the third WIIT thread. Are you all ready for more action?

Recent stats as follows :)

JBells PG#2 arrived! Luca John born 16th May at 3.10pm
mrswantstobeamum PG#1 EDD 17th June
Squirrel007 PG#1 EDD 13 July
WYorksLass PG#1 (boy) EDD 25th August
100years PG#1 EDD 1st Sept. Last working day 29th July
Nannyl PG#1 EDD 13 Sept
Strawberrypie PG#1 EDD 8th October
WhyWait PG#1 EDD 22st November
MrsSatsuma TTC#1 since Nov 2010
ShaggingWithIntent TTC since April 2011
AmandaCooper TTC #1 June 2011
AstroZola (hopefully) TTC#1 September 2011
BebeJones It's really complicated, TTC#2 at some point soon
Quodbilet TTC#1 sometime in the future

Settle in for more action and adventure.

What has he said?

I mean is he off to get his head together and coming back, or leaving completely or what? Are you ok?

OMG Jbells, are you ok? All here if you need to vent xxx

AC - My DH has been trying to convince me to get another kitten Like it's something to take my mind of a baby by having something cute to snuggle

Mad isn't it Bebe, it's very nice having pets but it's not at all the same thing as having a child that will grow and develop into another person. DH probably wants another kitten for himself because he's so ridiculously head over heels in love with this one!

We've been shopping and bought yet more toys for him today, our flat looks like a mad kitten kindergarten is operating from the premises! He probably owns more stuff than I do!

How's your weekend been?

Had quite a quiet weekend. Been and visited DHs Gran today in Bristol...what a fun drive that was...not! Other than that just done a lot of pottering about. Not much different to any other weekend...except longer! :o

Our cats are much neglected in the toy stakes now they are grown up. (My baby ginger one is 4!) Although if you are going to get another one probably best to do it while the other one is still little. It's harder for them to adapt when they are grown up! (Voice of bitter experience) Am hoping that the same does not apply to children! :o

How was your weekend? (Apart from the cat toy shopping!)

Omg the woman I bought the epi no from on eBay has reneged on the sale and is sending my money back! WTF? Twice in a row. What good is eBay if you don't get the items you buy? All it does is tie up your money unnecessarily and make you miss out on other opportunities!

That's disgraceful!! When you have sold something you can't just turn round & say 'Er, sorry you can't actually have it it's not for sale after all!' What incredibly bad luck to have it happen twice! :(

Sorry Bebe I xposted there. No another kitten is impossible, we have to sneak about with the one we've got cause we're not supposed to have pets - and it would be all very well while we have mil to look after them but if she for any reason couldn't it would be much harder to find someone willing to look after two lively kitties.

Weekend has been quiet and indulgent with lots of booze, rich food, long soaks in the bath watching films, lie ins and general laziness! Now on treadmill making up for it! Only doing 2.4 km per hour though, it's hardly worth moving my feet lol.

By the way, I've been wondering: what on earth do you do with all the cupcakes?

Give them away mostly! DH takes them too work & friends/family have them! Oh & some I take to toddler group!

I really need to do some exercise...I have over indulged too...in lots of bad junky food...not healthy at all, but am SO fed up of dieting!

It's quite easy here, there is a free gym in the building, so no excuse really! I sometimes come at night when it's empty and put music on. Mostly though I just don't come!

Sorry to hear that jbells :( How are you feeling? Come back and rant away here if you need to.

Amanda about the second ebay seller to go back on the sale! I cannot believe that it's so easy for them to do that, and really bad luck for it to happen twice.

bebe I'd love to go to the same toddler group as you! ;-) You have to eat junk sometimes, dieting all the time is hard work.

Things are good here - i've managed to keep my blood sugar levels low this week with diet and exercise, so I hope that means I don't have to go on insulin this week :)

Hello all

Jbells really sorry to hear things have got so bad, your DP is being a total fucking dickhead . Let us know what's going on, we're all here in (virtual) support. I can imagine it's terrifying thinking of being on your own with a baby and a toddler, but at the moment it sounds like you've got a sulky teenager as well so maybe you'll be better off with him not even pretending to help if he's going to be a cock. Excuse my language but men behaving that badly make me furious.

Amanda, can you make me a set of the goalposts on wheels too please?

I'm being dim probably but what is GTT 100? Love your bump pic btw.

Am wondering if SWI is eyeing up the test sticks...I would need some serious restraint.

We had a lush weekend away glamping it up in a lovely yurt, toasty and warm with a little woodburner stove in it, couldn't recommend the place highly enough! We've decided we'd like a pig.

Sorry to hear about your OH JBells. His behaviour sounds unforgivable, I hope you are doing ok

What did you say when OH made the second kitten comment AC? Maybe he was just checking that your feelings about TTC had not changed rather than being deadly serious?

Quod where have you been and why did it make you want a pig?? We're planning a camping trip next weekend but the traditional variety with tents. It's been ages since we've been.

Strawberry it prompted a serious discussion about him not feeling ready. I don't think he's ever going to feel ready though, it's not just a matter of time. On the conception forum the March 2012 bus has just been started. This is the second bus that I've strongly identified as my starting date for TTC. The last one was December.

Hopefully I'll hear some feedback from that interview today, which will give me some indication of whether I might be travelling.

JBells how are things this morning?

Good morning all, Im back, and this is my 1st proper post on this thread

Jbells so so sorry to read what you are / have been going through . It sounds absolutely awful, and at you DH..... how dare he be so selfish Hope you have lots of RL (as well as MN) support.

squirrel pleased to read you seem to be controlling GD with diet and exercise. I hope this keeps "working"

AC grr at stupid ebayers. cant believe you have been unlucky twice in a row I got rid of some more of the stuff (that didnt sell for 99p last time i listed) last night and 1 item i got £12 for and another £9!. Couldnt quite believe it, when no one wanted it for 99p before! Have to LOL at 2nd kitten... i assume the answer was no way, Im sure your face would have said it all!

bebe pleased to hear that you actually had a talk with DH. Perhaps a few more down the line so it can sink into his head that you DO want a baby and he needs to consider you too.

Quod very about yurt weekend. Sounds fab (my ex bosses have opened up a yurt site) Id love to stay in one. they seem SOOOO cool! My friends and I tried to stay in 1 for another friends birthday a couple of years ago but they were fully booked the weekend we wanted, (but we still had a look around) and they looked just fab!

100 hope you feel better now

SWI oooooh not long until POAS

I had a fab weekend down south. My friends wedding was just wonderful. So So lovely and in a beautiful NT property that we had to ourselves. Was extra special, because my friends Mum is very very serously ill (and there have been a couple of times in the past 18m when they have been called to the hospital to say goodbye ,) and many more times (even 6 weeks ago) when it didnt seem like she would make the wedding but she did (along with her tubes / wheelchair and machines) And for a couple of the photos, (some of the most beautiful possible) They did 1,2,3 "take picture" and she managed to remove the facemask at just the right moment and get some (what will probably be last photos ever ) of my friend, her DH, and her mum and dad, looking happy and "normal". Im sure they will be treasured for ever. The day was wonderful, everything went smoothly, and everyone was just so so happy
I got lots of practice baby cuddles with my friends baby (now 4 weeks old but still less than 6lb) so cute.... she is just so good (though having issues breast feeding, but my friend is 100% determined and continueing and doing her very very best.
Also saw lots of my family . My Dad is very poorly, (mentally due to a stroke, physically he is fine) and it "hit me" how is IS getting worse . Ultimately its MY (& my sisters) decision about what we do... (and our power of attorny has come through and it now really is legally up to us now) and have concluded that putting him in a home WILL destroy and ultimately kill him, so he has to stay in his (our family) home, with careres twice a day but he is just so confused, not sure how long this can carry on. But making the decision to put him in a home is just awful too .... he's only 61

We drove home yesturday which was "interesting". OH (who passed test in March) did 100 miles, i did the next 150. OH is doing really really well but i am a TERRIFIED passanger (with anyone, not just him) and if i gasp he gets really cross and I cant help it....
we made it to the services and he chose to park in a tightish space... ok he hasnt ever parked our car in a space like that (and he has to learn) but when i gasped that he was taking it too tightly we almost had WW3. Ok we did NOT touch the car next to us, but neither me, nor driver of car next door would be able to open our doors enough to get in (pregnant or not pregnant!!!!) I then had to do some very very VERY close proximity manovering to get us parked properly in, between this other car and the bin!. OH was cross cause he hadnt done it right.... i could not sit there while he tried to edge the car with just mm between our car and other car (esp as his clutch control while reversng is not perfect yet!) so insisted in doing it, which irritated oh even more!

Otherwise we had a wonderful weekend

Glad you had a good weekend Nannyl! Did you see my post on the last thread thanking you for the PM about nappies? It was really useful and I wondered what your ideal starter kit of nappies would be ie how many of each type?

Good luck with the feedback Amanda and hope you are ok Jbells x

Things going from had to worse. Once dd is in bed later and i just have the baby i will update u but he has gone went bk to his dads last nite the latest is that he cnt deal with my xtremes and thinks i have bipolar

Oh JBells that sounds absolutely horrible, you must be feeling awful. This is all you need when you've just had surgery, have a new baby and a LO to look after and you're emotional anyway.

It doesn't sound to me like this is about you, from everything you have told us over the past few months it sounds like this is all about him. What do you want to happen? Do you want him to come back and talk it over? Is he taking your calls? x

I didn't get the job by the way. Pretty cut up about it but I'll live.

Hescexpecting everything to carry on as normal in the day that were not together but he will cum here and spend time withbthe kids untill dd goes to bed and then he leaves and ors down to me all nite.

I dont know wot i want r relationship has bin a shambles for a long time but ultimately i have always hoped that things wud change and we wud end up a happy family. He says im living in a fantasy land that things r never goin to get better. I just dont know how im goinv to get thru the nxt few days never mind weeks. I havnt even told my rl friends cos i know ill take him bk if he changes his mind and feel like im going to end up looking like a mug after everythin that has bin sed and done :(

Ac. Really sorry u didnt get the job. I have read everyones post but i just cant think straight to reply sorry my head is all over the place :(

Oh blimey.

Jbells, sorry everything has got so bad. for you. I hope you get some RL support.

AC sorry about your job - but doesn't this mean that you're now on track to TTC, subject to wibbles?

Nannyl, that must be a terribly hard situation with your dad. Really sorry to hear you're all going through that.

We decided we wanted a pig because they had some lovely ones at the farm we stayed at. Not that we have anywhere to put even a guinea pig, but there you go. Got to have your fantasies!

JBells I know exactly what you mean about not wanting to tell anyone in real life. It's very isolating. Even on here you must feel a little bit that way. You could always name change for a moan about him. Maybe you have already!

How's Luca doing? He looks bigger and more alert already. At least he's blissfully unaware of it all. Is your DD coping ok with all the upheaval?

Nannyl I'm sorry to hear your dad is getting worse. DH's uncle had a stroke over a year ago now. I'd say he was getting better not worse but he'll never be able to look after himself again or do any of the things he enjoyed. He hated it in a home so now he's cared for at home like your dad which is difficult for everyone cause he's so bad tempered and he's always cancelling his carers. It's so shocking that you can go from perfectly healthy to completely dependant in an instant.

Quod, JBells it's tough about the job but I feel much better this morning. Weirdly one reason is I'm 99% certain I OV a couple of days ago, which means theoretically we're now TTC. Obviously in practice it's another 3-4 weeks before there's any chance of conception, but I feel like this is the home run in terms of waiting. Let's hope DH feels the same way.

Oh wow - it seems that a lot has happened in everybodies lives over the weekend. I will try to remember everybody but appologies if I miss you out - it's not intentional!!!

jbells - your DP sounds like he os being a complete cucking funt and I can't even imagine how you are feeling. I really hope that you can resolve the situation in a way that works for you and your DD/DS. Echoing everybody else but we are here for you

AC - a kitten?!?!? really?!?!? He's not quite getting it is he? Sorry to hear about the job too. Tough though it usuall is, I am a great believer in everything happening for a reason and so maybe this is something else pointing you in the direction of TTC?

Nannyl - so sorry to hear about your dad. Such a tough thing to have to cope with.

Quod - DH is desperate for a pig too! There were some on the land in front of the Crescent and one just had piglets, he's totalyl smitten and spent a lot of time working out if our garden would be big enough for a mini pig (it's not!!!)

I've had a rather dramatic weekend too!!

My DSis' H2B has postponed the wedding. With no rescheduled date. She is in bits and panicing that he is trying to end the relationship but doesn't have the guts to do it properly. I am not so sure but she is so low and really ill at the moment too so it's all getting on top of her and she's struggling to cope. My Mum has no idea what to do and we are all hoping that he comes good and they can work it out. Put a bit of a dampner on my extended Bank Holiday weekend though.

On Monday my cousin (who I am really close to) called me to announcce her pregnancy. Obviously I am delighted for them (Her DH was ready 2 years ago but she has been the one delaying things!!) and it's wonderful news but I am also a little bit envious (which makes me feel like an awful person). DH was quite quiet when I told him and then yesterday said that whilst he is really happy for them he is a bit upset that it's not us.

AF due on Friday of this week. Have had lots of signs (constantly peeing, really bad nausea etc) and my chart is triphasic (FF geek in less tha 4 weeks!!!) so I was feeling pretty positive but I'm not sure now. I POAS this morning - actually it was an internet cheapie so it was more like PIAPDII (Pee In A Pot Dip It In!!!) - and it was a BFN. Shouldn't be surprised as I am only 9DPO today but now can't help feeling that this month I'm out :( Boooo!

Back at work today and very tired as the students that live down the street have a new hot tub and have been out drinking in their garden until late and then shouting and shreiking in the hot tub at 3am for the last 2 nights. So unimpressed. AIBU to ring their doorbell at 6am tomorrow morning if they do it again tonight?!?!?