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I'm flabberghasted!

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Carla · 02/10/2005 15:54

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RTKangaMummy · 02/10/2005 18:21

here you go some ideas

So stop buying honey nut cheerios and just buy wheetabix

tortoiseshell · 02/10/2005 18:21

Just out of interest carla, do you want her to slim down or not? It's just that you have a huge number of reasons why she can't eat more healthily, and I'm aware you didn't start this thread as a 'my daughter needs to lose weight' - not meant at all nastily, but just wondered if it is something you are concerned about or not. (Please don't think that was meant nastily)

hallowcarla · 02/10/2005 18:23

WWB, I've left out the crap before and she's just come out and said 'Mummy, where was my X?' and the apple's still in there.

tortoiseshell · 02/10/2005 18:24

But you need to do it over a number of days. Of course she will say that at first.

hallowcarla · 02/10/2005 18:24

TS, no, not at all nastily put, and yes, I do. Thank you!

hallowcarla · 02/10/2005 18:26

OK guys .... lunch box for tomorrow is ....

RTKangaMummy · 02/10/2005 18:27

We had to stop DS brekkie routine cos he was having hot cross buns after easter had happened

And so we just stopped buying them he wasn't happy but if they are not in house he can't have them

He was 9 {last year} so this year we had them for easter holiday and when school started again he went back to wheetabix {without sugar}

he has school lunch and chooses very healthy food {no turkey twizzlers are there}

It is entirely up to you of course

but if you want to know MHO you are in control

hallowcarla · 02/10/2005 18:27

And the other thing is, she's still starving after school.

WigWamBam · 02/10/2005 18:28

Carla, the apple is still there because she knows that you'll give her the crisps the following day if she complains. If you are consistent with the lunchbox, she'll soon learn that she either eats it or goes hungry. At the moment she complains, so you give her back what she wants - so complaining works for her.

hallowcarla · 02/10/2005 18:29

RTK, I know I'm in control, it just seems like if I don't put the crap in, she'll be starving.

RTKangaMummy · 02/10/2005 18:29

If this next week you stop buying yorkies and bacon and give her what you eat

if she hasn't had much for lunch she will fight but will eat it

What does she drink

squash fizzy drinks milk or water?????

tortoiseshell · 02/10/2005 18:30

So have lots of fruit/raw veg available and she will learn. And it won't do her any harm for a few days. Honestly, it may seem like it gets worse before it gets better (Tantrums etc) but it's worth it isn't it? Try 2 weeks and see if it makes a difference. I would recommend not having the food in the house at all then you can't cave in when she protests!

aloha · 02/10/2005 18:31

She won't starve! But crisps and sweets are actively harming her health. You wouldn't do anything else that harmed your child because you love her so dearly. Maybe it would help to think like that.

hallowcarla · 02/10/2005 18:31

Can any of you give me an idea of what you'd put into a 6 or 7 year old's lunchbox? Just for comparison?

RTKangaMummy · 02/10/2005 18:31

well said aloha

tortoiseshell · 02/10/2005 18:32

Coped from below -this is a skinny 4 year olds so you might want to put bigger amounts.

On the days he has packed lunch, ds has a sandwich - either cheese or marmite, which he usually leaves untouched or nibbled, a 'nutrigrain' apple bar, a carton of orange juice and a pot with some dried fruit, and one biscuit. He gets fresh fruit at school anyway. And he doesn't eat much of it, but he knows that that's what there is.

WigWamBam · 02/10/2005 18:34

There are some suggestions for some changes you can make to her lunchbox here.

hallowcarla · 02/10/2005 18:39

I'm so grateful to you all for your help. It's just that I don't think I'm doing anything wrong! dd2 has a healthy diet, loves fruit and veg, will try anything from our plate - even if she decides she doesn't like it, she'll try it.

I just want to know how I can get dd1 to at least try new stuff. That's the problem.

WigWamBam · 02/10/2005 18:42

The first thing you have to do to get her to try it is put it on her plate. Sounds patronising, but it's not meant to be. Put it on her plate, and if she doesn't eat it, take it away. Give her some more a day or two later. Don't give in and replace it with her favourite if she won't eat it.

Have you tried her with really tasty bits and pieces like mango and nectarine? Or with interesting-looking vegetables like spaghetti squash or okra? Maybe if they look interesting she'll try them.

RTKangaMummy · 02/10/2005 18:44

If her fav food is not in the house she can't ask for it and have temper tantrum and get it

Just don't buy it she is 7 so not able to go to shops to buy sweets and crisps

Why are you cooking 4 meals ????

hallowcarla · 02/10/2005 18:45

WWB, I have tried. I've tried, I've tried. And unless it's something she recognises, she won't try.

hallowcarla · 02/10/2005 18:46

And now she's 7, FGS.

WigWamBam · 02/10/2005 18:46

Because she knows you'll give in and give her what she wants. She's manipulating you.

tortoiseshell · 02/10/2005 18:46

But you have to keep trying. And eventually she'll really shock you by trying it.

tortoiseshell · 02/10/2005 18:46

Definitely WWB. At 7 she knows exactly what she's doing.

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