30 up The tea room afloat

[UniS]

Welcome aboard.

The first rule of the tea room is - No fisticuffs.
The second rule is - Put the kettle on and lets have a or open a bottle of if its that time of day. Pull a sofa and relax. Parents of one, more (or less) children are welcome to hop on board and chat about anything and nothing. Introduce yourself if new and if you name change give us clue please.

Proffers and Twiglets a la Russe.

You were called a troll? ::keels over:: Do you want to say more or is it best to simply drink and move on? I know what you mean about sometimes seeing posters in a whole new light - sometimes there's no going back.

Must admit, this is why I don't tend to venture far away from long running threads.... MN has a bit of bite when there's a full moon.

I posted a thread in AIBU (mistake number one), there was a stupid issue that's been bugging me, and I needed a kick up the arse laugh or be told if I was being a cow. The timing was really bad, apparently there was a troll thread about a similar subject earlier today. Thank goodness I could give enough bona fides that some posters recognized me (which actually shocked me as I thought I was a complete MN non-entity) but that was the first time I've ever been called a troll, and it bloody hurt. One poster actually had the nerve to post at the end "ha ha now I'm PMSL thinking you were a troll x" - I literally had to sit on my hands so as not to tell her to F the F off and when she got there, F off again.
The thread's been pulled, which is good - but it really isn't just words on a screen.

Oh yeah, it is a full moon. That must account for my stupidity posting on AIBU.

Oh dear. Perhaps we should call Mellors to provide a consoling foot rub?

AIBU does seem to attract the screaming harpies people with very strong opinions.

I don't understand why people cry troll instead of just reporting the thread. Surely by calling troll you're keeping a thread alive and encouraging a mob mentality....

If you ever need a reality check, JM, I'm sure we could provide one here in a sweet and fluffy way.

The mob mentality is one of MN's least attractive features in my view, Scout. On AIBU especially, people offering quite calm and reasonable opinions can sometimes find themselves being pursued by a baying mob, wielding pitchforks.

I can usually tell in a few posts which direction an AIBU post is going to go and quickly switch off. The pitchfork brigrade that hang out there make me nervous.

JM, sorry that happened to you - did you use your usual posting name? And people still cried troll? That's outrageous really. :(
There are, I believe, some real troublemakers around at the moment, more so than usual.

Anyway, as Maud says, if you want opinions in a safe environment, try it out on us and we'll be kind to you! but still give you the required kick up the butt if you need it

No, I didn't use my regular posting name. I'm not a "MN name", but I think a quick check of my posting history would have established legitimacy. Th reason I name-changed, and didn't run the issue by you all first, is because it had to do with some of my ladybits issues. You've all been endlessly kind and patient, putting up with graphic descriptions of my problems, for which I'm so grateful, but after tea made that comment about "don't worry about JM, she's always oversharing", I made a real effort to be discreet about those problems, and I think, I hope, I've done ok not wittering on about them anymore. This was a potentially graphic issue, and I didn't want to shove it in anyone's face in the Tea Room.

And I name-changed because I just feel awkward about having anyone associate my posting name with those issues. I mean, when I see Trinity's name, I think of the tragedy with her DH dying. Or cheeseandgherkins and her little stillborn DD. I don't really need anyone thinking "JM = broken arse".

Well, so much for not being graphic in the tea room. Sorry about that last bit.

On a positive, I have two proud Mommy moments today. The first was that we had five places to be today, including two appointments for Toddler, and not once did he whinge about the constant in/out and poking/prodding/messing about. We left the house at 1-ish and didn't get home until nearly eight and he didn't whine or cry or tantrum. The second was at his hair appointment today, only his second ever, he sat on a cushion on the chair like a big boy with a cape around him and never uttered a peep nor did he squirm (though he did turn around once or twice as something moved in the mirror and he was trying to figure it out).

I shouldn't laugh, but JM you did make me giggle with: JM=broken arse.

That's fine, JM, it really is. I am (in some ways at least) Mrs Squeamish McSqueamish of Squeamish Town but even I think it's fine to mention the fact that your lady bits took a hammering during J's birth. Just don't post a photo, OK? ::wink::

Broken bits are part of who you are (literally and figuratively) and I think it would be a bit odd not to mention it if you're having more issues or treatments or whatever.

Though I agree with Maud -- no pictures please. While I do have a strong-ish stomach and only things dealing with eyes make me feel (Tea Room Special) I'm not sure I want to see your broken bits.

As long as you're laughing and not ing :)

Maud, I totally get that some people are not comfortable with graphic details and that I way overstepped when I first joined the tea room. I hope I've managed not to do that anymore. And OMG no, no posting pictures. That's too much even for me. Besides, after all that surgical work, they should be average again. Which, still, nobody needs to see a picture of!

sympathy JM- broken arse indeed!! yes your DH is being a tad insensitive. . Do you have a box of kiddy wipes in the loo? J is just going through the stage that all little kids go through where they learn to wipe and are not very good at it yet. Nowt to do with your arse being broken. DHs are not all very good at dealing with shitty bummed children sadly. Nor are they very tolerant of children using an entire loo roll in one go , nor of children who take 5 mins to wipe.... this too will pass. sending him a pic may have been a tad OOT tho, have to say.What on earth was your google image search term !!! NO DON'T tell us. TMI.

I am currently cold free, only one in family, which means I shall be coldy next week while DH is in teh states. Blerghhhh.

Sorry, sweetie, the ban on photos was meant as a joke - I never for a moment thought you would contemplate posting one! After all this time, my memory may be unreliable, but I don't remember feeling that you had over-shared - you were very brave in sharing some difficult stuff about which women probably should speak more openly, rather than continue a conspiracy of silence - but don't remember now whether anyone else was upset by it.

I wasn't around for the so-called oversharing but really, I don't mind if you do!

I don't understand any of UniS' post! ::dense:: Is there a separate discussion about J's lack of bottom-wiping skills?

Um, no, but I think UniS figured out who I was from the deleted thread :o

JM - offering for you. That sounds awful (both the trolling thing and the 'bits' thing)

And more for everyone else (Maud, hopefully this has magical medicinal properties)

I tend to run a mile from anything contentious on MN. I do sometimes consider a response but I'm more likely to be lurking in the sidelines. I do like the safety of the tearoom.

At last I am home with my boys. Hurrah! It's been a long week and it's only Wednesday.