Hygiene warning given by nursery

[Katied1331]

Looking for some advice, our DD is attending a nursery for 15 hours and today we have been called in for a meeting as she apparently has severe nappy rash that they believe needs to be seen my a GP (granted it is a little red but nothing a bit of cream won't fix) they also insist on applying yellow cream at every nappy change something that we don't do as this created a problem with our other children! She has been sent home from nursery and not allowed back until she has seen a GP!

The nursery manager has since emailed us and requested a meeting on her hygiene (hair/clothes/previous nappy rash) she has ringlet curls and doesn't allow us to comb/brush her hair so sometimes it does look a little rough! Obviously I am upset that we are being called in but is this anything I should be worried about?!

Detangle spray (l'oreal do one but Tesco own brand is just as good) was amazing when my son had thick curly hair. Has she got teeth coming through? My boys always got awful nappy rash when they were teething. I found the yellow cream (metanium) was the best one for nappy rash. One of My son's used to react to the baby wipes the nursery used so I just sent him in with a different brand in his bag. If you send in the nappy cream you prefer them that should be ok with nursery.

Sounds like neglect to me. Why isn't she in clean clothes? Hair should be brushed regardless. These are just very basics!

Sounds like OP would benefit from parenting classes .

I think you need to listen to what the nursery are saying OP. I'm confused as to why the yellow cream would cause a problem with your other children. That doesn't make sense at all? Also a toddler 'not allowing' you to brush their hair is not an acceptable reason not to do it. She needs to be clean and her hair needs to be brushed or it will get matted even if she doesn't like it. Nappy rash is so sore for babies/toddlers there's really no excuse. Please go and see your GP to get some help OP.

My dd was a bit of a soap dodger as a toddler and I know it can be difficult. If this is the first instance it seems likely that they just want to speak to you to brainstorm some solutions together. It may be a bit alarming to be asked to discuss this but it’s probably best to welcome any advice and they can help you get on top of it.

This, the yellow cream sounds like metanium (sp?) Which had to use when dc had severe nappy rash from allergy to dairy.
Why are they mentioning clean clothes?

Why are you sending her in with dirty clothes? I work full time and am quite lax on many things but I make sure my DS clothes are chucked in the wash basket every night and not reworn, young children are so mucky. Plus shower at least every other night and teeth brushed twice daily is essential. Mentanium is very effective, why won't you use it?

Of course you should be worried. The nursery are concerned you are neglecting your child.
Pull your socks up - treat her nappy rash, make sure she’s clean, and send her in clean clothes. This is basic parenting.

My DD had ringlet curls and got quite severe nappy rash…. She wouldnt let us brush her hair without a fuss- this was because it would tangle so easily however once we got some water spray , detangler spray and a tangle comb this quickly fixed this problem.
her clothes were messy - paint and all sorts from nursey but she always has about 3/4 spare sets and we wash a set each day…. (She was nursey full time and would go through about 3 changes of clothes a day due to messy play etc )
Her nappy rash was really bad, however I took her to the docs (well actually online consultation - good old Covid years) and we used the yellow cream. It worked wonders with a flare up and we also provided it to nursey to use there. Her rash would get so bad it would bleed sometimes …..
None of this was a concern to nursey as we addressed and flagged all our concerns- ie they were aware that she’d not let us get near her hair- so they practiced at nursey on the dolls with brushing- same goes for her teeth as well.
it does strike me that something else is at play or you’re actively resisting anything they are putting in place? So hence the concerns re her welfare?

If your DD won't let you brush her hair then it needs to be cut short so It's easier to keep brushed.

Yes I’d be worried. Why is your baby unclean? Are you struggling generally?

If you don't like the 'yellow cream' find something you do like and put a tube in your DDs nursery along with her nappies and change of clothes.
Find a way of keeping your DDs hair clean and vaguely neat. If nothing else it will be a nightmare to deal with when she inevitably comes home from nursery with nits.
Buy a multi pack of basic T-shirts and leggings, enough to do at least a week (and sized up one size for longevity)...the nursery won't care if clothes are boring or basic so long as they are clean. Plus lots of socks.

Eeek, this does sound like the child is not clean consistently. Nappy rash sometimes can happen, but often, nope!
My DD has curly hair, it’s not fun, but a curly hair comb and de tangling spray, wash it with conditioner etc does help. It’s also Important to keep it trimmed when it becomes too knotty.

This sounds very basic and I find it sad that a child is being sent off it by parents knowingly not clean. I find it even more sad that a parent doesn’t understand why what their describing is completely unacceptable.

Stop being offended and start washing your child, their clothes, their hair, their bum and their teeth. It’s really quite simple.

They're calling you in because they are worried you may be neglecting your child. They are doing their job and safeguarding your child. Well done to them. Of course they may well be wrong - but it's good that they're calling you in to discuss it.

She does sound a little bit neglected tbh.

You have a child with curly hair. So stop the excuses and learn how to care for it.
If she doesn't like it brushed look into protective styles and braids.

If the nappy rash is so easy to fix why haven't you?

Negligent parents don't intentionally become negligent. But it's still neglect.

Also who's guessing what the deletion message will be?

They are right OP. My DD has never had nappy rash as I immediately clean her when she's got a dirty nappy. It's not always due to hygiene but it sounds like in this case it is. Nappy rash is painful, so you need to prevent it as much as you can, and make sure your child is always clean.

Im sorry but you daughter is a child she needs to be bathed wether she wants to or not, her teeth needs to be cleaned, her hair needs to be washed and brushed, you don't let them tell you they're not having their hair brushed that is basic hygiene, tough if they don't like it there are lots of things in life they will have to do that they don't like.
Their clothes also need to be clean and changed everyday. ,

There might be 50-100 children at that nursery and your DD has the worst nappy rash. Nursery managers do not call parents in for children being a little bit red.

Oh dear I just read your update. OP please give her a daily bath, put conditioner in her hair and gently brush it through her curls, then rinse and it should dry without tangles.

What update?

It’s ok to need help and support sometimes OP.

I find the ‘yellow cream’ really helps my child’s nappy rash (they have v sensitive skin), along with regular bathing. We have a special moisturising soap from the GP which we use.

They are only concerned about the welfare of your child - and, even if nothing is awry, maybe it is an opportunity to rethink how you are sending her out into the world to ensure she has the best possibly chances.

Yeah this.

She doesn't get a choice. Does she also not let you keep her clean, or adequately change her nappy? Again, tough.

They don't raise multiple things over nothing.

Poor child.

If the child's hair is unmanageable, just cut it short. Totally agree with other posters, there appears to be laxness in the care of the baby.

My daughter has really curly hair. Asda detangler and lots of conditioner really helped. She isn't a fan of me brushing/styling it but a snack and or Miss Rachel helps!