Stop bringing children in dungarees and pull-ups please.

[Whatt]

From all nursery workers everywhere.

We hate pull-ups. They sag and are a bitch to change when you have a nappy round of 15 children.

You have to take off the child's trousers and shoes to put on a new one. Some parents even have the audacity of putting socks, tight and dungarees on one child.

And don't get me started on dungarees for toilet training children who cannot take them off themselves, why do that?

Today a child who uses the toilet came in with a baby grow?! How is the child suppose to go to the toilet by themselves with a done up baby grow?

Do you take that attitude in general? That if you're paying for a service it's you're right to treat the staff will little to no respect? If I go for a meal, is it OK for me to tip it into the table and make a mess over the table cos I've paid £50 for it?

Why don’t nurseries stipulate this kind of thing?

@Robinni

At £50-100 a day I’d say parents can put them in what they please.

This may hold some weight if the person changing the nappy were paid at this rate.

My nursery just puts a standard nappy on. Are other people sending in their own nappies?!

There's no disrespect, and your analogy is wrong.

It's more like the waitress telling you that you have to have your starter with your main because it's easier for her that way. It's not disrespectful for you to say no, actually, you will have the starter first.

It's childcare. You are paid to care for the child, you do not decide how the child is to be dressed or diapered or anything else outside of your remit.
That's not disrespect, that's reality.

A lot of nurseries you supply your own wipes and nappies (nurseries that supply them generally account for that and reflect it in their daily fee), yes.

Oh right I didn't know that! I think if people are supplying their own nappies then the nursery should just let them know if they have a preference.

Yanbu but you do need to just tell the parents in a generic email or similar. We don't know unless you explain, especially first time parents.

My dd's nursery are fab and are always really clear about what they need. Potty training was so smooth and easy thanks to her amazing key worker. She actually said to us one day, "tomorrow you will send her in panties, she's ready for no nappies" (she was only 2y2m or so) and I said oh I don't know, we'll try I guess... she said "don't try, just do it!". She was so right and it worked great. They were really specific with what clothes and footwear would work well.

Also at dd's nursery they provide all the nappies free included in the fees

So yeah, just tell the parents what you need them to send the kids in.

I agree with the not sending the child in clothing that is impractical for the CHILD. Like dungarees or a baby grow for a potty trained child.

However, the pulls ups, or the socks or the dungarees for a baby? Nope sorry. That’s part of the job and pretty common things for a baby to wear. Nothing to do with looking down nursery staff.

YANBU. My MIL buys cord or velvet dungarees for our toddlers every single birthday and Xmas. I * hate them. They have leather patches at the knees and are rigid like lederhosen. Leave them alone and they would stand up by themselves like a suit of clothes on the invisible man.

My husband agitated to just try them for months. I let him take them up for a visit alone that day. Silence, ever since.

My DD tells me that at her baby's nursery dungarees are not allowed for this reason!

Hahaha love this story

Let's be clear on something here.

If you want parents to do something or not do something because its better/easier/nicer for the CHILD, that's absolutely fine.

If you want parents to do something or not do something because its easier/nicer for the STAFF, that is not fine.

We do not pay massive amounts of money (although the point is the exact same even if the care was free!) for childcare settings to be run on what is easier for the staff. If you have an issue with your job, take it up with your employer, not the people paying for the service.

Ds seems to be the only child at nursery in comfy leggings. I figured they are the easiest thing for him to pull up and down himself whilst getting used to the toilet. His nursery did photo’s recently and his group all the boys are in super skinny jeans? His group is 18months- 3 year olds.

It's funny about the pull-ups, when DS was still in nappies, I would just send him in normal nappies and he would come home in pull-ups all the time. I thought the staff were trying to send me a subtle message to change to pull-ups so I did. I didn't know you guys hated them?

Wow, you sound like an utter cunt.

"I pay your wages, so you'll do whatever I decide. Fuck off if it's causing you inconvenience or taking your time away from being with the kids. ME and MY child are what matters most"

@Whatt

I assume that you tell the parents what you want, but they still do these things?

Do you send them reminders?

Wow, you sound like an utter cunt.

Because calling someone a cunt on a discussion forum for having a different perspective (that wasn't expressed horribly) makes you a lovely person, doesn't it?

The ladies at our nursery are so lovely and genuinely care about the kids and work so hard for not very much money, given the sheer responsibility and physical work they do. I want to make their day easier, especially if I can do it without any impact on me. Sending nappies and not dressing them in difficult-to-remove clothing has no effect on my day, but will on theirs, so why wouldn't I? It's not about mercenary transactions or 'I pay X so am entitled to do what I want', it's just about respect for another human being surely? If you can make someone's life easier at no real cost to your own, then why not?

OP, all this makes sense but why isn’t your nursery communicating with the parents. It should be a standard conversation when the children get signed up, or in advance of the next nappy/potty training stage

You completely missed the point.

But yes, my childs needs are more important than the desires of the staff paid to care for them.
I'm pretty confident you feel the same.

Exactly.

YANBU, every day DD wears leggings, a T-shirt, sweatshirt and Velcro trainers. Who has the time to fart about with tights and dungarees every morning?!

Why do nursery management not ask for feedback from staff around practicalities and ways to make things more efficient? Why can they not just adopt a policy around types of nappies provided? Its not like there is a cost difference between the two.

DD never wears 'outfits' to nursery, she has a drawer filled with leggings long sleeve tops and jumpers that get stained and reworn over and over again because she is indoors playing and getting messy, she needs to be comfy!

Absolutely OP!
We never use pull ups and my DS lives in leggings. Why complicate life?!